I'd say we're somewhere in between. We have a basic plan with ADRs and which parks to be at but we don't live and die by "the plan", except when we have our 1 night when the kids go to the Neverland Club. We can eat at McDonalds or have saltines in our room but that one night without the kids we love

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We have been known to change the plan
We have been known to sleep in and not get to the parks until 4:00.
We've been known to cancel ADRs and then take what we can get, we haven't starved yet.
We've been known to actually go to rope drop (we've only done it twice) and call it a day by 2.
We usually take one day just to chill out at the resort. We spend the day at the pool, take naps in the room etc
People look at us like we have 2 heads when we say we relax at Disney. I think there's this mentality that you have to go from park opening to closing and not rest to get your money's worth. That's not our mentality. Disney is our annual escape from reality, that one week a year when our biggest decision is, "Do we want to go to Fantasy Land or Adventure Land today?"
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