Anyone Divorced ?

[rockundergirl]

I have a kinda personal question for everyone. I was married to my x for 5 years we had a son and are now divorced. We used to go to Disney every year together. I haven' t gone to Disney in two years because of the marriage ending. My son lives with me, and is starting to develop a friendship the man i have been dating for about a year. I introduced them around Christmas when I was certain the relationship i have with this man would be long term.
Myself , my son, and my boyfriend are taking a trip to Disney world together in aug. I'm excited, and I think this will be a good experience for all of us. Here is my question, I'm I jumping the gun taking a trip that is so family oriented? Has anyone else been in a similar situation, and if so , how did it go?

 

[minimandymouse]

i have done it twice and just gonna do it a third time
When we first went my children were James 6 (autistic) and Emma 9
Everything was wonderful it was a brilliant experience for all of us especially the kids
Don't worry about a thing just go and enjoy yourselves thats what Disney is for
Have a great time
Mandy
(divorced 5 years and loving every minute of it)

 

[MOREMICKEYFORME]

Hey Hun...
I am in your exact shoes.
My ex and I were separated in 2007 and I met a wonderful man (here on the boards, actually) Last year. I have a son age 5 and daughter 16. We are all going on a "family" trip this July for BF's bday. BF lives 3.5 hours away, but we take turns driving to see each other, and he has met the kids many times and there will be many more meetings before this trip in July.
When BF offered a trip, I told him I thought he was crazy. He is 43, and doesn't have kids...he is a cammando park visitor and I told him that when you travel with kids, you move at a MUCH slower pace!! He agreed.
Plus, with the heat in July...I am sure everyone will be a bit cranky.
We have a strategy to visit the parks in the morning and go back to rest/swim in the afternoon, then back to the parks.
I think it is important that your man get to know the child well before going because there will be rides where you have a seat buddy and it would be nice if your BF gets some of those. Then they can form a bond and memories together. Just remember to take it slow at the parks and take breaks. Don't let the little stuff get to you and have fun.
This could be a great "family" memory for everyone, or it could be a disaster...just as long as everyone has realistic expectations.

 

[disneybridetobe]

I think it's great. I'm not divorced, but I'm a kid of a divorce. I'm glad my mom was able to take me to Disney, and on other vacations.

One small hint, and I do hope this isn't taken the wrong way-- make sure you get plenty of pics without the boyfriend. My mom's ex-boyfriend is in many of our wedding pictures, and I can't seem to Photoshop him out! This happened with a lot of my "growing-up" pics.

Have a good time, and don't let anyone to tell you otherwise!

 

[stacy6552]

Honestly, I'd go with your son alone first. You dont want him equating the new guy as a replacement or in any way to think that diddy isnt there this time because this new guy is.

 

[maddiesmom0116]

I agree with stacy6552, I am divorced and take my DD5 2x a year alone and we have a lot of fun. I would be worried this may confuse your little one.
Good luck with whatever direction you go.

 

[disykat]

I just wouldn't present it as a "family" trip. The two of you are going to Disney with your boyfriend. Many people travel with friends, I don't think it needs to be a big deal.

The thing that seems like the biggest deal to me is sleeping arrangements. (Personally I wouldn't do it, but if you are living together or already doing "sleepovers" I don't see the difference.)

If you are not living together, I'd certainly make sure the hotel room/sleeping arrangements are not a shock to anyone. Depending on the age of the child, there could be questions.

 

[rockundergirl]

Hey Hun...
I am in your exact shoes.
My ex and I were separated in 2007 and I met a wonderful man (here on the boards, actually) Last year. I have a son age 5 and daughter 16. We are all going on a "family" trip this July for BF's bday. BF lives 3.5 hours away, but we take turns driving to see each other, and he has met the kids many times and there will be many more meetings before this trip in July.
When BF offered a trip, I told him I thought he was crazy. He is 43, and doesn't have kids...he is a cammando park visitor and I told him that when you travel with kids, you move at a MUCH slower pace!! He agreed.
Plus, with the heat in July...I am sure everyone will be a bit cranky.
We have a strategy to visit the parks in the morning and go back to rest/swim in the afternoon, then back to the parks.
I think it is important that your man get to know the child well before going because there will be rides where you have a seat buddy and it would be nice if your BF gets some of those. Then they can form a bond and memories together. Just remember to take it slow at the parks and take breaks. Don't let the little stuff get to you and have fun.
This could be a great "family" memory for everyone, or it could be a disaster...just as long as everyone has realistic expectations.

Great advice, Thank You. I think it really hard for most people to understand how a divorce just shakes your world up!