Anybody never getting married????

[mickeyfan2]

Isn't it considered common law marriage when 2 people live together for a certain period of time?

There is no signifcant other in my life, so no marriage plans for me at the present, but who knows what the future may hold. I've learned," never to say never".

Not all states have common law marriages.

 

[mickeyfan2]

50% of marriages fail. That's not a good selling point to me.

Remeber the repeat offenders skew these numbers. I've read that only 1/3 marriages where it is the first for both ends in divorce. The rate is over 1/2 that a second marriage will end in divorce. For many the first marriage was abusive and they go on to live a long, happy and rewarding second marrige. Even if the divorce rate was 99%, I would not use that as a reason to avoid marriage.

BTW I always thought I would be single my entire life. Well I met DH and my thinking changed 180 degrees. We will be celebrating our 23 Anniversary later this year at WDW.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I had left the room for something and they needed someone to make a decision about something, his mom spoke up and said he doesn't live at home, you'll have to talk to his GF...

What if he parents said she is just his GF and we want to make the decision as the next of kin. You could have been walked out of his room and never got to see him. Sorry you just got lucky here.

 

[hentob]

What if he parents said she is just his GF and we want to make the decision as the next of kin. You could have been walked out of his room and never got to see him. Sorry you just got lucky here.

I have to agree.....

 

[majortom]

For all you that said I would not have a say when it comes to medical....that didn't happen today, he was hurt at work, I was called, NOT his parents, when I arrived at the hospital, they went throught the paper work with ME not his parents, that were sitting right there, when it came to a signature on the paper work they asked for MY signature not his parents....and when he was being admitted they had ME fill out the paperwork and the DR spoke to me about everything...I had left the room for something and they needed someone to make a decision about something, his mom spoke up and said he doesn't live at home, you'll have to talk to his GF...

First, sorry to hear that he was hurt and I hope everything turns out ok.

Second, I am glad that you were able to make those decisions.

Now, on to our main topic. Do you have a legal power of attorney for medical decisions? If not, the hospital opened itself for a serious lawsuit as you had no legal right to make any of those decisions. Let us assume that you do not have such a document in place. You would be quite lucky that his parents like and trust you. As is often happens with gay couples without that legal document in place (and sometimes even with it), the injured person's parents arrive and will not let the other person make any decisions and have even had them escorted out of the building.

Again, you have every right to decide to live your life however you choose, but just because things worked out well for you in this case does not mean that they will work out well in every case or for everyone.

/carmi

 

[ElizaB39]

Not all states have common law marriages.

And in some states you have to present yourselves as married people to be considered common law. Just living together for a long period of time (for some reason 7 years comes to mind) doesn't qualify you as common law.