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), and they provide us with snacks - it's was worth the money IMO. 
I did a Wishes cruise on a pontoon boat for my DH's birthday one year and it was really great. They picked us up right at the marina at Ft Wilderness, took us around Bay Lake and showed us some highlights, some we knew, some we didn't. Then they pull up in front of the Magic Kingdom and pipe the music into the boat while you watch Wishes from the water. It was just 3 of us on the boat, so it was a totally private viewing, we took some drinks (adult beverage type
I can't tell you how many people will wish her a happy birthday, not just castmembers. 
Plus, you just never know when the pixie dust will be sprinkled.
Somehow we have managed to be at WDW for my DH's birthday a few times. 
They picked us up about 45 mins before Wishes, so total it was about an hour or so. It was pretty pricey, especially on top of vacation cost, but you can have up to 10 adults, or if it's a mix of adults and children I think they take up to 12. I think it was $275.00. You can also book the same type of cruise to see Illuminations at Epcot, but of course not as convenient if staying at the Campground as the one for Wishes.
They also decorate the boat with balloons and a birthday banner. If you REALLY want to go all-out you can order a birthday cake and have it delivered onto the boat prior to leaving. There is a whole section on these boards about birthday cakes as they have taken on a life of their own! LOL I didn't do the cake - he was much happier with a "beverage"
The birthday button is definitely a "must" - even if she thinks she will be embarrassed.
You can also look at allears.net, they have a whole section on things to do to celebrate birthdays.
I thought of a couple of others
The Polynesian has a Luau dinner show, we did that one year, they call up birthdays and other celebrations and have them join in a hula dance on the stage, your daughter may or may not enjoy that, depending on how shy she is, but it was a lot of fun, and a lot less $$ (of course it depends on how many of you there are). The Hoop De Doo dinner show at Fort Wilderness also has a part of the "show" where they recognize birthday's etc.
