That goes for women as well men, especially when you are meeting people on the 
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in person, and sometimes shyer on the Internet because we can't see or hear how you are reacting to our "e-signals" 
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DisneydaveCT said:Why not tell the person that you are interested?
Ladies, in case you haven't heard it, us guys are sometimes shy
dee47 said:Well, putting aside the fact that some of us gals are also shy, there is still the double standard in some people's minds that a woman shouldn't be too direct. I've heard some guys (even in 2006, LOL) claim it's a "turn-off" if a woman asks them out. Thankfully, they weren't my type to begin with, but if I'm really interested in someone, I worry about being "too direct" and ruining my chances... And I'm really annoyed that this is still the case in 2006.
Too bad this former CT gal won't be in FL at the same time you are, Dave.
I actually meant to click on the thread above on the family board. You never know!CinRell said:
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after a 9 month engagment (and going through the INS process) I moved to the US in Nov 2002 we were married on Nov 10th 2002 in a disney themed wedding of course and here we are 6.5 years after first meeting in the DIS chat room married with 2 beautiful daughters Emily and Katie.
) and the problems associated with a long distance relationship, but you really never know when or where prince charming will come into your life. 
Ash aka sky said:I accidently clicked on this and have been fasinated reading through it
You never know!
I have a little story to tell you all...skip on by if I start to bore you
Once upon time... ok I'll cut to the chase. Back in 2000 I was a student trying to get my degree, I would often study late at night when it was quiet when I was done reading etc for the day I would wind down checking out boards on the net. I found Dis. Eventually I started going into the chat room. I started chatting with a group of people regularly and more and more with one guy. It being a disney chat room and most of the people we talked with being married with kids we both assumed that the other was married. eventually we found out that neither of us were AND that our trips we had booked (Dec 2000) co-insided with each (he was getting back from a Disney cruise the day I arrived at WDW for a 2 week vacation). We decided to meet and met at Epcot. It wasn't love at first sight but we were friends and hoped we would stay friends. When we got home, him back to MI and me back to England, UK we both decided well maybe there was something more than friendship, we continued to talk (every single day) and decided to meet again for a 2 week vacation together the following Dec (2001). In the summer of 2001 he also planned a trip to come see me in England in Feb 2002. Anyhow we met again and had a great time together then he came to England in the Feb. I took him to London for 4 days whilst visiting St Paul's Cathedral (the one where Charles and Princess Di were married) he proposed to me
Don't get me wrong we had our issues (like my smoking
Sorry it is so long.
Ash
, I think I've figured out why I'm having a hard time meeting the "one". When I was younger, I dated most guys that were nice, not really knowing what I was looking for. Now I realize that I'm looking for a real connection with a man, not so much every little thing that I once thought was important. I've had a real connection with a man once in my life, and now I strive to find the same sort of thing again. I don't want a replica of the person that I dated, rather that same type of connection. It seems that the older I get, the harder it is to find that. It's no longer about my "list" of everything I want in a man, or who's got the hottest bod. Anyway, that's my two cents! 
One time, several years after we were married, I saw a list Judy had made up of what she was looking for in a husband. The top of the list was someone that was accepted by the cat she had for 12 years. I don't remember what else was on the list, but I had gotten along very well with the cat.mdhkitten said:In my advanced age (32..........will be 33 in November)
Disneynut71 said:My biggest problem is I am very very shy. I am great as friends but it takes me awhile to move foward into talking to someone I am interested in which leaves me alone too much. One of my best friends told me they need to make a Disney Dating site and I couldn't believe when I found dismates. I called her yesterday to tell her she just kept telling me I knew it had to be out there.
Problem is I'm still very shy.
.DisneydaveCT said:One of the wonderful thing about the Internet is that shy people can reach out to each other without necessarily revealing their shyness.
For example, I have Disneynut71 in the chat room on Dismates. While in there, she could initiate a PM chat with a guy she finds interesting/attractive. If the conversation flows the first time, try it a couple of times then wait to see if the guy PM's you first when you come into the room the next time. That is one way to get around your shyness. Eventually those chats may turn into phone conversations...thank God for cell phones. After a couple of pleasant telephone calls, you may forget your shyness with that person and let romance blossom
dee47 said:What if a guy on DisMates is not in chat? And I'm interested? And shy? And also worried about, you know, mass murderers and serial killers?
"matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match....."
From the person's profile in DisMates you can send them a message. However, I think that you do have to have paid the $10 annual fee as a silver member to be able to send messages. This way you can get a conversation going. I have so far met one person in the parks this way.dee47 said:What if a guy on DisMates is not in chat? And I'm interested? And shy? And also worried about, you know, mass murderers and serial killers?
Sounds pretty good to me. Except #4; even if I got shot down once I would give it at least another chance. Sometimes you just catch someone at the wrong/right time.
