Any Single Disney Men Out There?

[djblu883]

lol well i have to say I got a good giggle after the last couple of pages of this thread...I've never been in a Disney bar or nightclub so I have no clue as to a meeting place like that either. As far as signals...been a while for those too...I'm on the road so much I don't usually have more than one date with a person....made some great friends but no one who wants to date me on a regular basis because of my job so I guess I'm forever regulated to Buddy status ...oh well....

 

[DisneydaveCT]

Well, there have been some good suggestions for sharing a romantic drink at WDW and some interesting comments about male/female relations in the past page or two of posts.

We have all read how one of the keys to a successful relationship is good communications. Yet we seem to use "signals" to attract someone into a relationship. So it is interesting to read about people not reading signals or not sending clear signals. And then wondering why they are single. LOL

Now while it is true that I am also single and unattached, I still have to wonder...why bother with signals? Why not tell the person that you are interested? That goes for women as well men, especially when you are meeting people on the .

Ladies, in case you haven't heard it, us guys are sometimes shy in person, and sometimes shyer on the Internet because we can't see or hear how you are reacting to our "e-signals" :.

Now about those suggestions for a romantic drink, I now know where to go when I am down there next week, but first I need to find a Disney Gal, if not a Disney Princess, with whom to share that romantic moment or two or.....

 

[Disneynut71]

After reading the last few posts, I would have to say DTD would be a great place for a first meet. If I met someone for the first time in one of the parks I wouldn't be focused I would be wanting to go on the rides.

Lego would be fun. I love that store making different things. Walking down towards Disney quest maybe stopping for a drink at house of blues and listening to whomever is playing that night. There is so much to do and maybe it's not sweet and romantic to most but my idea of romance is doing something the person I'm with and myself really like to do no matter what it is.

 

[dee47]

Why not tell the person that you are interested? That goes for women as well men, especially when you are meeting people on the .

Ladies, in case you haven't heard it, us guys are sometimes shy in person, and sometimes shyer on the Internet because we can't see or hear how you are reacting to our "e-signals" :.

Well, putting aside the fact that some of us gals are also shy, there is still the double standard in some people's minds that a woman shouldn't be too direct. I've heard some guys (even in 2006, LOL) claim it's a "turn-off" if a woman asks them out. Thankfully, they weren't my type to begin with, but if I'm really interested in someone, I worry about being "too direct" and ruining my chances... And I'm really annoyed that this is still the case in 2006.

Too bad this former CT gal won't be in FL at the same time you are, Dave.

 

[DisneydaveCT]

Well, putting aside the fact that some of us gals are also shy, there is still the double standard in some people's minds that a woman shouldn't be too direct. I've heard some guys (even in 2006, LOL) claim it's a "turn-off" if a woman asks them out. Thankfully, they weren't my type to begin with, but if I'm really interested in someone, I worry about being "too direct" and ruining my chances... And I'm really annoyed that this is still the case in 2006.

Too bad this former CT gal won't be in FL at the same time you are, Dave.

Well, ok, maybe you can't ask the guy out, but you could say that hope that you could see him sometime...that way he still asks for the specific first date. I have been flattered when a woman has suggested that we go out sometime.

When and where were you in CT?

 

[Disneyfan63]

Hi everyone!

There are a few points that I would like to make.

1. I would love it if a woman would ask me out. I would probably say yes. Since I'm lousy at reading "signals", it would be a way for her to indicate to me that she's interested; without hitting me on the head with a two-by-four, which could be a possibly fatal blow.

2. In high school and college, I interpreted "just friends" as "go away". I think that that interpretation was so accurate, so often, that I believed that women without boyfriends, fiances or husbands didn't exist; and that even if they did exist, they weren't interested in me, so they might as well not exist. I was well out of college before being disabused of such notions.

3. I think that almost anyplace in Walt Disney World could be romantic, with the right person. I'm not by nature a romantic person; I told a singles group of which I was a member, that I was as romantic as a block of ice. (The leader of that particular meeting laughed and told me to give myself some credit.) I was serious; five years into a dating drought that would end on Sunday, October 24, 1999, I saw no reason to develop a romantic side to my personality. I'd given up trying to date three years before, because I was discouraged at being turned down every single time.

4. No means no: if I ask a woman out and she says no, I don't ask her out again, ever.

Jim

 

[rer1972]

Sounds pretty good to me. Except #4; even if I got shot down once I would give it at least another chance. Sometimes you just catch someone at the wrong/right time.

 

[Ash aka sky]

I accidently clicked on this and have been fasinated reading through it I actually meant to click on the thread above on the family board.

Internet "dating" just doesn't work I guess.

You never know!

I have a little story to tell you all...skip on by if I start to bore you .

Once upon time... ok I'll cut to the chase. Back in 2000 I was a student trying to get my degree, I would often study late at night when it was quiet when I was done reading etc for the day I would wind down checking out boards on the net. I found Dis. Eventually I started going into the chat room. I started chatting with a group of people regularly and more and more with one guy. It being a disney chat room and most of the people we talked with being married with kids we both assumed that the other was married. eventually we found out that neither of us were AND that our trips we had booked (Dec 2000) co-insided with each (he was getting back from a Disney cruise the day I arrived at WDW for a 2 week vacation). We decided to meet and met at Epcot. It wasn't love at first sight but we were friends and hoped we would stay friends. When we got home, him back to MI and me back to England, UK we both decided well maybe there was something more than friendship, we continued to talk (every single day) and decided to meet again for a 2 week vacation together the following Dec (2001). In the summer of 2001 he also planned a trip to come see me in England in Feb 2002. Anyhow we met again and had a great time together then he came to England in the Feb. I took him to London for 4 days whilst visiting St Paul's Cathedral (the one where Charles and Princess Di were married) he proposed to me after a 9 month engagment (and going through the INS process) I moved to the US in Nov 2002 we were married on Nov 10th 2002 in a disney themed wedding of course and here we are 6.5 years after first meeting in the DIS chat room married with 2 beautiful daughters Emily and Katie.

Don't get me wrong we had our issues (like my smoking ) and the problems associated with a long distance relationship, but you really never know when or where prince charming will come into your life.

Sorry it is so long.

Ash

 

[dee47]

Well, ok, maybe you can't ask the guy out, but you could say that hope that you could see him sometime...that way he still asks for the specific first date. I have been flattered when a woman has suggested that we go out sometime.

When and where were you in CT?

I moved to WA in '94, from W Hartford. I know where in CT you are because you told me on a Dismates chat...

 

[vital]

I accidently clicked on this and have been fasinated reading through it I actually meant to click on the thread above on the family board.

You never know!

I have a little story to tell you all...skip on by if I start to bore you .

Once upon time... ok I'll cut to the chase. Back in 2000 I was a student trying to get my degree, I would often study late at night when it was quiet when I was done reading etc for the day I would wind down checking out boards on the net. I found Dis. Eventually I started going into the chat room. I started chatting with a group of people regularly and more and more with one guy. It being a disney chat room and most of the people we talked with being married with kids we both assumed that the other was married. eventually we found out that neither of us were AND that our trips we had booked (Dec 2000) co-insided with each (he was getting back from a Disney cruise the day I arrived at WDW for a 2 week vacation). We decided to meet and met at Epcot. It wasn't love at first sight but we were friends and hoped we would stay friends. When we got home, him back to MI and me back to England, UK we both decided well maybe there was something more than friendship, we continued to talk (every single day) and decided to meet again for a 2 week vacation together the following Dec (2001). In the summer of 2001 he also planned a trip to come see me in England in Feb 2002. Anyhow we met again and had a great time together then he came to England in the Feb. I took him to London for 4 days whilst visiting St Paul's Cathedral (the one where Charles and Princess Di were married) he proposed to me after a 9 month engagment (and going through the INS process) I moved to the US in Nov 2002 we were married on Nov 10th 2002 in a disney themed wedding of course and here we are 6.5 years after first meeting in the DIS chat room married with 2 beautiful daughters Emily and Katie.

Don't get me wrong we had our issues (like my smoking ) and the problems associated with a long distance relationship, but you really never know when or where prince charming will come into your life.

Sorry it is so long.

Ash

Thanks for sharing your story! I always love to hear success stories! It must really be love for you to move across the pond!

 

[mickeysbestfriend]

I guess each of us has to find the best way to communicate with the opposite sex.

I've had women I had a strong interest in and tried to drop signals, hints, and everything I could think of and still nothing....then when I did get up the nerve to tell them directly, ....got laughed at..."I'm have no interest in you in that way" or "You have to be kidding...I HAVE a boyfriend" or even, " Yeah, right, like I'd go out with you." it hurts, but I'm a big boy and move on, but the hearts sheild tends to become stronger and thicker with each negative experience.

I've been on the other side of the spectrum as well where I had someone drop hints, send signals, and finally come right out and tell me what they wanted. I've never been rude to them, but always honest. If the feeling wasn't mutual I let them know. In some cases I have harbored a hidden interest in them and their honesty brought it to the surface.

I've also had it very easy. The kind when two peoples eyes meet on a ferry on the way back from the Magic Kingdom and you know it's okay to say hi or your hands touch in the dark on a dark Disney bus on the way back to your hotel and it's all you need to start a conversation. It found out that singles do go to Disney!

One of my biggest problems is that I seem to meet women when I am with a woman. IT's usually a female friend that I am with, and I'm not comfortable just abandoning a friend to pursue someone else, but that's me.

If you are shy, it's not easy to just open up to a stranger, but I've found that simply saying hi and making eye contact can be enough. If they say hi back and look you in the eye, it's a green light, but as others do, I always check to see if there is a ring on the "I'm Taken" finger.

Fair warning to the ladies, don't cover that finger if you want to get a good man's interest. A good man won't pursue a married/taken woman. If you are wearing a ring and come on to him, a good man will backpeddle faster than a speeding bulldog. Telling him that you are just wearing the ring to keep the riff raff away isn't going to work.

Just my 9 cents

 

[mdhkitten]

In my advanced age (32..........will be 33 in November) , I think I've figured out why I'm having a hard time meeting the "one". When I was younger, I dated most guys that were nice, not really knowing what I was looking for. Now I realize that I'm looking for a real connection with a man, not so much every little thing that I once thought was important. I've had a real connection with a man once in my life, and now I strive to find the same sort of thing again. I don't want a replica of the person that I dated, rather that same type of connection. It seems that the older I get, the harder it is to find that. It's no longer about my "list" of everything I want in a man, or who's got the hottest bod. Anyway, that's my two cents!

 

[chell]

Thanks Ash! That is amazing and wonderful to hear!!!

Tonight I'm making supper for my sweetie for the first time. EEK! We both live at home so it isn't always easy to have a nice quiet dinner alone. But we finally were able to work one out tonight.

 

[Cheshire Figment]

In my advanced age (32..........will be 33 in November) , I think I've figured out why I'm having a hard time meeting the "one". When I was younger, I dated most guys that were nice, not really knowing what I was looking for. Now I realize that I'm looking for a real connection with a man, not so much every little thing that I once thought was important. I've had a real connection with a man once in my life, and now I strive to find the same sort of thing again. I don't want a replica of the person that I dated, rather that same type of connection. It seems that the older I get, the harder it is to find that. It's no longer about my "list" of everything I want in a man, or who's got the hottest bod. Anyway, that's my two cents!

One time, several years after we were married, I saw a list Judy had made up of what she was looking for in a husband. The top of the list was someone that was accepted by the cat she had for 12 years. I don't remember what else was on the list, but I had gotten along very well with the cat.

 

[Disneynut71]

My biggest problem is I am very very shy. I am great as friends but it takes me awhile to move foward into talking to someone I am interested in which leaves me alone too much. One of my best friends told me they need to make a Disney Dating site and I couldn't believe when I found dismates. I called her yesterday to tell her she just kept telling me I knew it had to be out there.

Problem is I'm still very shy.

 

[DisneydaveCT]

My biggest problem is I am very very shy. I am great as friends but it takes me awhile to move foward into talking to someone I am interested in which leaves me alone too much. One of my best friends told me they need to make a Disney Dating site and I couldn't believe when I found dismates. I called her yesterday to tell her she just kept telling me I knew it had to be out there.

Problem is I'm still very shy.

One of the wonderful things about the Internet is that shy people can reach out to each other without necessarily revealing their shyness.

For example, I have seen Disneynut71 in the chat room on Dismates. While in there, she could initiate a PM chat with a guy she finds interesting/attractive. If the conversation flows the first time, try it a couple of times then wait to see if the guy PM's you first when you come into the room the next time. That is one way to get around your shyness. Eventually those chats may turn into phone conversations...thank God for cell phones. After a couple of pleasant telephone calls, you may forget your shyness with that person and let romance blossom .

 

[dee47]

One of the wonderful thing about the Internet is that shy people can reach out to each other without necessarily revealing their shyness.

For example, I have Disneynut71 in the chat room on Dismates. While in there, she could initiate a PM chat with a guy she finds interesting/attractive. If the conversation flows the first time, try it a couple of times then wait to see if the guy PM's you first when you come into the room the next time. That is one way to get around your shyness. Eventually those chats may turn into phone conversations...thank God for cell phones. After a couple of pleasant telephone calls, you may forget your shyness with that person and let romance blossom .

What if a guy on DisMates is not in chat? And I'm interested? And shy? And also worried about, you know, mass murderers and serial killers?

 

[DisneydaveCT]

What if a guy on DisMates is not in chat? And I'm interested? And shy? And also worried about, you know, mass murderers and serial killers?

Then get your two best single female friends and begin singing....

"matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match....."

 

[dee47]

Then get your two best single female friends and begin singing....

"matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match....."

hmmm...not very helpful. And you're up late!

 

[Cheshire Figment]

What if a guy on DisMates is not in chat? And I'm interested? And shy? And also worried about, you know, mass murderers and serial killers?

From the person's profile in DisMates you can send them a message. However, I think that you do have to have paid the $10 annual fee as a silver member to be able to send messages. This way you can get a conversation going. I have so far met one person in the parks this way.

And I'm not allowed to attend Catholic Church on Sundays as the Priest says that I murder the Mass. Also I do kill my cereal in the morning. But I do seem to get along on DisMates.