Any Single Disney Men Out There?

[CinRell]

Thanks John and you're right.... it's just so hard when you find someone who meets every quality you are looking for... and there are no problems.. and you grow stronger and stronger and out of the blue they tell you they don't want you anymore.

It's hard to have positive thoughts about yourself you know? I know time heals but time doesn't heal the ability to trust in my opinion.

 

[CinRell]

I'll post a new ad for me too. I'd been talking to a great guy from here but was scared of the distance and started seeing my now ex... I'm so sorry I ruined what might've been tho through it I have a dear friend. Right now I don't know if I"m ready for something serious.. but I'd love to have more friends and if something comes of it... I'd be so happy. I warn you though I have issues... and I know it will be hard to let myself get close to someone again. I'm going to try.
I'm very like mdh in that I need someone to demands respect (girl if we lived closer we'd tear up the town! lol!)...
I'm 30.. no kids, never married, moved back with mom to work out of debt and help her out since dad passed away. I love kids though and hope to have some. Wish I could visit Disney more but... as I said, working on my debt
I love animals and am involved in rescue. Here's me...
IF this pic is big I'm sorry

Anyway email me if interested. Or girls if you just wanna compare stories and chat, I'm always game for new friends.

 

[mdhkitten]

You're so pretty, mdh!

Aaawwww! Thanks, Cinrell! You're very pretty, too! I don't know what's wrong with all of those crazy guys out there that we keep running into! They must be crazy!

 

[slapwhitey]

I don't really know what to say about all these unfortunate and sometimes sad situations some of you guys have been experiencing. But I do think everyone should know that places like this and dismates really can make a difference.

I think sometimes the pursuit is what gets in the way. We're not patient enough to just wait and let things happen (my humbled opinion). We can't force situations and we also kinda have to roll with the punches as things change and progress in these relationships.

I for one was of course looking for that special someone just like the rest of you but I didn't really pursue. I chose to believe that when the time was right it would find me (or we would find each other). One cool, damp spring day that is exactly what happened and and ordinary March day turned extraordinary. Of course it all started with some friendly neutral chat but things quickly progressed to more substantial conversation as opposed to simple banter. I think more people have to be open to LDR's as well. It's not ideal for sure but it is what I believe helped my situation. We had no choice but to learn about each other and talk honestly. Because we couldn't just drive to each other and have a conventional "date" we never had to deal with the physical awkwardness, no hang ups, no preconceived notions or judgements. We were however afforded the luxury of knowing each other more personally and intimately than I've ever known anyone. Now I don't know if it's luck, fate or plain old circumstance but I do know through it all I have found the most incredible person I've ever met and my best friend. I can tell you that because of our unconventional courtship if you wish I knew I loved her even before I met her. I can also tell you that every time we do manage to spend a few precious days together my heart fills more and more with love and admiration.

In short, well, not quite short. I believe this is a great place to meet people and I think starting out as friends is the perfect way to go. So don't lose hope, I'm sure your day will come. Just be patient.

 

[tmli]

Thanks Slapwhitey you said it better than I ever could have. You see girls and boys it is possible and when it happens you KNOW its right, there is no wondering or guessing...its just right.

Our situation may not be conventional or typical but it is incredible and real and definitely worth the wait.

I wish all of the you the same happiness we have found.

 

[CinRell]

That's what I find terrifying right now. This guy who just left me.. I DID know it was right.. there were no doubts or guessing... he was the one for me...

 

[tmli]

Cinrell, I don't know your particular situation but maybe after a few days more have past you can have a more objective look. You may be right...but I often though I was with the "one" but in hindsight I was trying to make him into that role. I think its all too fresh right now but if soon you could take an honest look you may find a lesson or two to take through to the next time.

I believe things liek this are unanswered prayers....you wish for it so hard pray for it...think its perfect but that prayer goes unanswered. Then down the road something else comes along and you are like...now i get it...thats why the other prayers went unanswered they weren't meant to be.

This is the voice of experience, been exactly where you are and now I am through to the other side. I am exactly where i am meant to be in my life with the exact person i am supposed to be there with.

 

[coruth4]

What a great idea - a Disney single site! I usually just surf through here - but decided it might be fun to post. I am almost 37 (birthday in October), divorced with kids (3). I have only been to Disney once, but am planning another trip next year with my 2 boys. I think it would be fun to meet/talk with single Disney guys!

 

[rer1972]

Woo Hoo!!! mdhkitten and CinRell you guys are a couple of hotties. I have to say that your exes where crazy to let you guys go. No matter what happened though, you can't blame yourself CinRell. It's up to the other person to want to be with you, and if they don't you just move on. You may feel that you won't find anyone else like the person you were with, but you may actually find someone better. Keep your heads up, don't give up, and take care of yourselves.

P.S. Not all us guys are Crazy.

 

[CinRell]

Aw thanks, rer... sweet of you to say.... I know time heals.. just didn't want "time" or to have to "Heal" with this one. I've kissed so many damn frogs and am so synical about men this guy was a rarity for me. Sucks.

How bout some pics of you hotty single men out there for MDH and I to talk privately about? haha.

 

[mdhkitten]

Yes, thanks from me too, rer! Unfortunately CinRell and I have encountered men who are eerily similar to one another!

 

[DisneydaveCT]

What a great idea - a Disney single site! I usually just surf through here - but decided it might be fun to post. I am almost 37 (birthday in October), divorced with kids (3). I have only been to Disney once, but am planning another trip next year with my 2 boys. I think it would be fun to meet/talk with single Disney guys!

In what part of NH do you live? I used to live in Wolfeboro, and I still have family ties up there.

 

[DisneydaveCT]

Slapwhitey is right. I think Disneyfans in search of another Disney Fan for a potential LTR mate, must be open to developing a long-distance relationship. That doesn't mean that we each can't find a fellow Disney fan in our own community, but I think being open to a long-distance relationship can bring about that special type of Disney magic .

 

[djblu883]

I feel your pain girls...have been there and one that...now I'm just coasting..i found my soulmate when I wasn't looking for him and we had a wonderful and loving relationship...an accident took him from me so now I travel life's hiways alone hoping one day I'll find another friend to share my lifes many interests...a Disney guy would be a plus for me but just one who could enjoy some of the same things...or just sit together and talk, watch movies, go to concerts, camping...a PAL.....To find 2 soulmates in one lifetime is more than anyone could hope for but I feel blessed to have atleast had that short time to live as not everyone gets to...Good luck to each one of you...and congrats to those of you who have found what you have been searching for.I think of myself as "searching for Shrek"...I know not a Disney character but you get my meaning...DJ

 

[CinRell]

(((DJ))) I'm so so sorry. I can't even imagine. I keep saying losing this guy... who became my best friend... a constant.. my "soul mate" is like a death. I can't imagine if it really was. I'm so very sorry.

 

[nightowlky]

I sense that quite a few people think that finding a partner will make their lives happy. Wrong. You need to be happy, content with what you have in life and truly LIKE yourself......before another individual can ADD to your joy. Notice, I said "add" to your joy, not "make" you joyful. I think that people want to place the responsibility of happiness on someone else and not accept that responsibility themselves.

For example, I have been divorced for 17 years. I haven't dated in that amount of time either. Not because I wasn't asked.......I just wasn't ready. I needed to work on ME. I needed to really get to know myself, what I wanted, what I needed, what I could and could not do. I've been very busy! I haven't been LONELY.......just alone. Recently, I have been open to the idea of male friends. Who knows? What I DO know is that if I don't like where this new path leads me, I WILL step off that path, change direction and walk alone.

I don't NEED a partner (I've done it all by myself for 17 years and have been very happy and content and sometimes stressed!) but now, maybe I'd like to find a friend who is confident and happy, too.

Whatever is MEANT to be, WILL be.

Peace.

I could not possibly agree more with that statement!

When my ex first left a bit over 4 years ago, I tried dating right away and wasn't having much luck. I was trying too hard and had very little confidence. I was probably coming off a bit needy in that I was thinking I didn't want to be alone and needed someone else in my life.

Well, I finally realized I needed to go through the whole grieving process (denial, anger, grief, acceptance, etc.) Right now, I feel great and enjoy the life I have right now. I'd like to add someone else to the mix but I'm not forcing it or working at nothing but that.

 

[Disneyfan63]

Hi,

I'm not a hottie, or a coldie. Warm-blooded.

Jim

 

[Lizzybee]

Sorry guys I really didn't mean to make things take a negative turn by saying "dating sucks". I just mean the whole meeting someone for the first time, like blind dates. I think I'd rather become friends with a man who has common interests (like Disney) and then see if it grows into something more. There are days I'm not entirely convinced I want a "relationship" or a second marriage, not in a poor me kind of way, but I'm just pretty satisfied with my life as is. If I find someone, that's great, but I don't feel like I "need" it to be complete.
To those of you who are talking about relationship ending recently: I think I learned from my last relationship that just because it's "over" doesn't mean there's anything wrong with anyone. We just weren't right together. So if I start dating again some day and I end up getting dumped I can understand there's nothing wrong with me or how I am in a relationship it just wasn't right. It will probably take me a while to get to that point. I can't tell you exactly why I ended my relationship other than every time he took a step towards getting serious I felt like I was going to throw up. I can tell you this, it wasn't because I didn't care, or didn't love, or didn't think he was a great guy it just wasn't right. Just because a relationship isn't working right doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.

Oh and Nightowlky...great insight, very true words!

 

[CinRell]

Where is everyone today? Hoping people start posting. I'm having a *really* rough day and would love to chat.

 

[rer1972]

Hey CinRell,

I've been running reports all morning , and I had to take a breather from all the numbers. I've a couple of jokes saved up. Maybe this will make you chuckle...

15 Things to do when they drag you to Walmart…
1. Get 24 boxes of condoms and randomly put them in people's carts when they aren't looking.

2. Set all the alarm clocks in Housewares to go off at 5-minute intervals.

3. Make a trail of Mountain Dew on the floor leading to the rest rooms.

4. Walk up to an employee and tell him/her in an official tone,
" 'Code 3' in housewares".... and see what happens.

5. Go the Service Desk and ask to put a bag of M&M's on lay away.

6. Move a 'CAUTION - WET FLOOR' sign to a carpeted area.

7. Set up a tent in the camping department and tell other shoppers you'll invite them in if they'll bring pillows from the bedding department.

8. When a clerk asks if they can help you, begin to cry and ask,
"Why can't you people just leave me alone?"

9. Look right into the security camera & use it as a mirror, and pick your nose.

10. While handling guns in the hunting department, ask the clerk if he knows where the anti - depressants are.

11. Dart around the store suspiciously loudly humming the "Mission Impossible" theme.

12. In the auto department, practice your "Madonna look" using different size funnels.

13. Hide in a clothing rack and when people browse through,
say "PICK ME!" "PICK ME!"

14. When an announcement comes over the loud speaker, assume the fetal position and scream..
"NO! NO! It's those voices again!!!!"

15. Go into a fitting room and shut the door and wait a while and then yell, very loudly, "There is no toilet paper in here!