Any Single Disney Men Out There?

[DisneydaveCT]

Welcome KK and Lizzy. You will both find that there are plenty of single Disney fans who have come to the realization that we each need to find another Disney fan to have a romantic relationship with...someone who "gets it." And like many, you may find that a LTR with a fellow Disney fan may start as a long distance relationship. But most of all, I think I have enjoyed chatting with Disney fans that I have met through this board and Dismates. It has been fun.

 

[sandy5764]

Someone who "gets it" - that about sums it up for me Disneydave. And in reality, the long distance thing doesn't seem like such a big deal anymore. It really is fun chatting with other disney nuts such as myself. I've even met a few during a June solo trip to the world.

 

[CoasterAddict]

Sandy, Dave, so true!! As time passes I've come to realize that things I thought were essential to a relationship a few years ago aren't so important after all. Finding someone who can share my passion for Disney and tolerate (or maybe even share) my other quirks is crucial. And I've said it before, here and elsewhere...most of my life is pretty portable when you get right down to it. Or maybe I could find someone who is also portable and would enjoy a skyline view...

And romance or no, I'm having huge amounts of fun meeting like-minded Disney adults! (Sandy, next time we'll pace ourselves better, huh?)

 

[kkmauch]

Ok, well this thread is much too long for someone who is new to read through and try to find people who they would potentially want to talk with.
Here is what I suggest...what if we have one thread where all you do is post your name, your age, your location, any other bio info you want and then a pictures if you're interested. We could have one for men and one for women. That would be easy to do, then we could go back and edit if necessary, add upcoming trips to bio information, etc.

 

[CoasterAddict]

KK...have you looked at dismates.com? It's possible to post a fairly detailed profile there, also to search, send messages, etc. Lots of us who frequently post here are regulars there as well...

 

[kkmauch]

I'm signed up there, just waiting for my membership to upgrade so I can send messages and such.

 

[Lizzybee]

This isn't really as cynical as it might sound but I think "dating" sucks! It's so stressful and icky, I just don't know a better word. I think looking at someone as a friend first and then seeing if there is anything there sounds good to me. It's just hard to meet people once you get past a certain age (I'm past it, I'm not sure exactly what age that is, I just know I'm past it). I can't meet guys where I work, they are cops, lawyers and criminals...well who would you pick out of that bunch???? I don't go to bars. I met my last boyfriend online but again the first "date" was so stressful. I guess I'm just saying it's hard getting out there. Maybe there's something to meeting someone who "gets Disney" because it seems to me that would require at least a little bit of hopefulness. It's kind of odd because when I ended this last relationship one of his last ditch efforts to convince me to stay with him was "I'll EVEN go with you and the kids to DISNEY", like as horrible as it would be he'd make that sacrifice. I thought about it for a minute and realized "yeah but I don't want to go to Disney with you".

 

[Cheshire Figment]

I have been a member of Mensa for many years. In 1979 Judy joined and we met at a party. We just got to know each other a little over the years. Since we lived about five miles from each other, at times we we not not going with other people sometimes I would call her and offer a ride, or she might ask me for a ride to an event. This was not dating, it was just transportation. Finally about mid-1986 we decided we liked each other and seemed compatible, and decided to get married, which we did in 1988.

Big thing is neither of us was particularly looking for a marraige, it just happened. and BTW, when we met I was 40 and Judy was 38.

 

[chell]

Lizzybee it does suck and I don't know all the rules to the game either. I just recently met someone a lot younger (but at least legal) and I don't know what is what. We have only been out twice so far but I already find myself thinking about him a lot.

 

[Disneyfan63]

...or I truly suck at it. Because it's so hard to find someone compatible, I think I'm better off "shutting it down" for awhile--but hopefully not for nine years, which may as well turn into forever.

Good night.

Jim

 

[Johnfish]

Come on Jim hang in there we are all pulling for you. Go back and reread some of the posts and take the advise to heart. You never know what might happen!


John

 

[mickeysbestfriend]

Hi All!

God....this is starting to sound like a whiners forum rather than a place to find FRIENDS. FRIENDS is where all good relationthips start. FRIENDSHIPS grow and develop slowly over time. Sure, having Disney in common is a great place to start, but believe it or not, if all else is positive, I'd rather be with someone who accepted my love of all things Disneyana but didn't necessarily LOVE it the way I do. I (Hopefully) won't change my passion but there is room in here for someone who isn't at the same level I am.

It's like two people who love amuesment parks but one can't hadle rollercoasters and the other can't handle being on rides that are in the dark. It's doesn't mean they can't have a great time, but each has to compromise to make sure the other enjoys the day, projectilve vomiting aside.

There is no magical instantaneous love connection. If you feel something like that it's usually lust, or gas (hopefully not both at the same time). True feelings come from so deep within us that very few of us really plum the depths. And remember, not every two people that date are meant to be. Some times it takes longer to figure it out than others but wouldn't you prefer to find it out while dating than later on....when your attempts to reshape that person have failed?

Think with both your mind and heart....

Dr. Phil

 

[ugadog99]

A voice of reason steps in to guide us through. Thanks, mbf, you are so very correct. Now, everyone let's find some great Disney friends! Anything else that develops is just a great big bonus!

 

[CinRell]

I agree.. dating does suck. The guy I just broke up with (or got dumped by) was my best friend. I've never been happier and he claimed until last week the same. He was EVERYTHING I ever wanted in a guy and life finally seemed GREAT and promising. He made so many claims and promises and I STILL believe he meant it. Then BAM just like that.. he's done. We moved too fast. His feelings changed and we can't go backwards and he doesn't think he could ever get those feelings back. this is literally out of NOWHERE... how does that happen?

I don't know that i even WANT to date I feel like someone tore my heart out and I"m so confused.. would give anything just to see this guy again.. went from him calling me several times a day and seeing me several times a week to NOTHING. It's like a death...

Dating is so full of disappointment for me. I can't see getting back into it. And then what? I meet a great guy and am convinced it's going somewhere to have them out of the blue say their feelings changed within days?

 

[CoasterAddict]

Thanks, MBF...and the others who have spoken with wisdom in the past couple of pages.


As you travel down the road of life, whatever be your goal
Keep your eye upon the doughnut and not upon the hole.

 

[LindaR]

I sense that quite a few people think that finding a partner will make their lives happy. Wrong. You need to be happy, content with what you have in life and truly LIKE yourself......before another individual can ADD to your joy. Notice, I said "add" to your joy, not "make" you joyful. I think that people want to place the responsibility of happiness on someone else and not accept that responsibility themselves.

For example, I have been divorced for 17 years. I haven't dated in that amount of time either. Not because I wasn't asked.......I just wasn't ready. I needed to work on ME. I needed to really get to know myself, what I wanted, what I needed, what I could and could not do. I've been very busy! I haven't been LONELY.......just alone. Recently, I have been open to the idea of male friends. Who knows? What I DO know is that if I don't like where this new path leads me, I WILL step off that path, change direction and walk alone.

I don't NEED a partner (I've done it all by myself for 17 years and have been very happy and content and sometimes stressed!) but now, maybe I'd like to find a friend who is confident and happy, too.

Whatever is MEANT to be, WILL be.

Peace.

 

[LindaR]

BTW, that wasn't meant to sound "preachy"! I was just trying to be more of a "cheerleader" for those who are really down in the dumps.

 

[Johnfish]

Cinrell I am so sorry to hear about the disapointment. It certainily can be very frustrating. BUT isnt it better that he walked away now than after you had made a life time commitment? I know it hurts but like I said to Jim ... Hang in there you never know what might happen. Also LindaR has made some really good points. I was in a marriage where I was trying constantly to make the other person happy. It just doesnt work. I also was dependant on her for my happiness that is also a recipe for disappointment. I know now I need to be comfortable in my own skin in order to have a healthy relationship. Its taken me several years but I can say that I have finally reached that point.

Just my two cents!

John

 

[mdhkitten]

A little about me............I'm 32, live in Birmingham, AL, have a wonderful 2 year old daughter who already has two trips to WDW under her belt, I've been to WDW 29 times, I'm a Christian (which is important to me, but I'm not opposed to other faiths who believe in God.......my daughter's father is Jewish), I love animals, fine dining, wine, traveling in general, airplanes, museums, zoos, horseback riding, hiking, live theatre, sporting events, and lots of other stuff that I have yet to discover. One thing that potential suitors must know is that I'm VERY strong willed. I want to make the man that I'm with happy, but I must respect him, too. Basically what I'm getting at is that I need a man that can "put me in my place" if the time calls for it, and not let me walk all over him. I'll attach a picture of me and if anyone is interested then please pm me! I'm the redhead in the tank top.

 

[CinRell]

You're so pretty, mdh!