Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[DisneyGirl4188]

Elaine and Michelle, I am so sorry.

 

[mickeybar]

Hi y'all! I know a few of you have had great news! I am thinking good thoughts and sending sticky dust your way.

Me, on the other hand, the ultrasound did not go well. The sack has kept growing, but the baby has been absorbed. There was nothing there

We are hoping for the D&C to be scheduled tomorrow, or I won't be going on the trip.

Michelle, my heart is going out to you right now

I'm so sorry Elaine. I had a m/c in August when I was 8 weeks, but I did it naturally as well. If you need to talk, vent, etc. I'm here for you, Just pm me. I found that it helps to talk to people who have been through similar situations. I'm very, very sorry.

 

[Tasha+Scott]

I am so sorry, Helenabear! I can't imagine how heartbroken you are right now and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Michelle~ I am sorry for all you have been through on your journey. I can't imagine how hard this has been for you. I hope you will have good news soon!

 

[ashjohnson80]

Michelle and Elaine to both of you.

 

[kellyf2626]

Elaine and Michelle....my heart goes out to both of you. I truly believe there is a reason that woman go through all of this (as opposed to men!). We are strong, resilient individuals. I will pray for both of you as you go through this hard time.

Disneygirl - My OB said to wait 48 hours b/c EWCM comes before you O, as a predictor. By waiting 48hrs, it allows DH to "build up" a lot of swimmers so that when we bd when I O, we will have a strong chance! I have about 32-33 day cycles, but I tend to get EWCM early (I started getting it today - CD 11). I know I really won't O for about another 5-6 days. So, last cycle, DH and I were bd'ing every-other day. By the time I O'd, he was probably depleted of a good "sample". So, I think that is why she told me to wait the 48 hours. It may not work if you have a 25-28 day cycle, and O the day or 2 after you see EWCM. For me, I know I have EWCM for a while before I O. So.....we will see how it works for this month!

I also love your pug!! I have a pug and a chocolate lab - they are best friends!! I will have to post a pic when I get home.

 

[helenabear]

Thanks y'all! It might sound weird but I am not 100% shocked. Maybe all the ohter bad that happened had me more cautious and not very optimistic, but I am just not 100% shocked. I won't deny, it does hurt... we wanted this one so bad and had been trying for so long (okay 10 months felt long to us). I just can't say I am shocked to hear the news.
I would let it go naturally, and my doctor let me decide, but since she thinks the baby has been gone for at least a few weeks, I would start to run the risk of infections and other bad things happening. My body still feels pregnant, so the hormones are still kicking in. If the sack weren't as large as it was, and if were weren't scheduled to be on a flight monday morning, I would let it go. I just am so far along that she would worry about me being that far away and maybe needing a visit to the ER.

Not something I want to do while at the in-laws.

So thank you all... I'll still hang out here and give y'all my support!

 

[Minnesota!]

Michelle - I am so sorry, sweetie, for the BFN. Cry and be pissed all you want. ((((((hugs)))))

Elaine - I have to say, I am SHOCKED by your news. I am so sorry. I have also been there. I went in for a u/s at 9 weeks and baby had reabsorbed. Awful awful time. Heartbroken doesn't even touch how I felt. I m/c naturally, but it was the MOST painful thing I have ever done....and I still say that after laboring/delivering my son. I think a D&C is the way to go. I am so sad for the loss of your dream. How is your Dh doing? (((((tight hugs)))).

 

[Jen_in_NH]

Elaine - I am so sorry. I can't imagine what you must be going through now.

Michelle - You've been through so much, don't give up just yet. As far as IVF, I had figured we couldn't afford it either. Carla had given me some information on shared risk programs (you pay them up front, if you're not pregnant afterwards, they refund you a good portion of the money) It might be something to think about.

Jen

 

[mickeybar]

Michelle - I am so sorry, sweetie, for the BFN. Cry and be pissed all you want. ((((((hugs)))))

Elaine - I have to say, I am SHOCKED by your news. I am so sorry. I have also been there. I went in for a u/s at 9 weeks and baby had reabsorbed. Awful awful time. Heartbroken doesn't even touch how I felt. I m/c naturally, but it was the MOST painful thing I have ever done....and I still say that after laboring/delivering my son. I think a D&C is the way to go. I am so sad for the loss of your dream. How is your Dh doing? (((((tight hugs)))).

Just wanted to say that my natural m/c at 8 weeks was not really painful at all and I'm a small girl. Just felt like some light cramping/contractions. The worst part of it for me was actually having (tmi) it come out of me, and luckily my DH was wonderful and took care of it so I didn't really see much. I think everyone is different, but I get very painful cramping so my period cramps were much, much worse then the m/c cramping.

Hopefully I will never have another m/c, but I would 100% for sure, definitely do it naturally again if I had the option.

 

[helenabear]

Right now I am waiting on the call back for the surgery. I was left a v/m while I was out getting my hair cut. Diversions are always good, right?

I think if I were only 8 weeks along or less, I would let it go naturally. She said since my body was growing like the baby was still there (if that makes sense) she was seriously worried about clots and other bad things that happen. And with Thanksgiving next week and us going out of town, I'm just not willing to try this. I think it would break my heart to have to watch it all. I'm also not convinced my body will figure this out before something bad (like infection) would set in. When we thought we were losing the baby at 6 weeks or so, I would have voted for natural (even though normally I have horrid cramps)... but I really admire y'all who were able to do it.

Right now I am not sure I am wanting to try again for a natural baby. I was an emotional wreck before all of this. Who knows what I will feel when the time comes for us to be able to try again.

I really don't want to be too much of a downer for y'all! I don't want those who are trying to lose hope either. I'm not giving up hope on being a mom... just not sure how this all will work out for me.

 

[mickeyboat]

Michelle - I know you are alone on business, but know all of us are right next to you here in cyber-land.

Elaine - I am so sorry about your loss. I am so sad for you. Good luck with your proccedure. I have had both a D & C and a miscarriage, and I would highly recommend the D & C, especially since you are going out of town.

Denae

 

[helenabear]

I am scheduled for the D&C tomorrow at 3PM. I can eat until late and then I can drink tea until 11 am or clear liquid. I go in there at 2 and they are just so nice. I feel this is the right choice... I'll be out for the worst of it.

 

[exwdwcm]

Elaine, i just saw your news. i managed to get online while here in class. i am so so sorry. it makes my situation seem stupid. i can't imagine what you are going through and i am so sorry. what's really weird is a good friend of mine basically just had the same thing happen yesterday. she went in for the u/s and nothing. no heartbeat or fetal 'pole' (what's
that?). she is doing a D&C today to remove the placenta. she was 6 wks and very excited (her second). i feel so bad for both of you. i am trying to keep my chin up, you do the same!

thanks for all for the kind thoughts. i am pretty strong in groups, i don't cry except when alone. so i got it all out this am in the hotel and then pulled it together as usual. it still hurts, but again, i still don't have AF, so there could always be a small chance, but i am NOT counting on that. from now on, i am not getting my hopes up ever again. we'll just keep trying and try our 4th IUI with our second round of injectables. grandpa is coming to visit next week and we might bring up the IVF stuff.......he has lots of inheritance money that will be coming to my family and my mom said they would ask him in advance for it to help us out, so we could try IVF if we wanted. so there's a small chance to do it maybe. I'll have to find out more on the shared plan stuff i guess. i guess there is always that possibility. my DH, lord help him, is cheap, so he hates dishing out all this money. but hopefully it's worth it in the end.

well back to class. Elaine, you are in my thoughts.

 

[helenabear]

Michelle, I just saw your post! Your situation isn't easy either. So hush you on saying your situation being stupid. It is all emotional situations that we have to deal with. Nothing is easy I do pray that you'll have your own baby soon! Maybe that visit will be a blessing for you all... I don't want to say keep hope (been there myself with TTC) but don't give up yet. I am like you, I cry alone. I didn't shed a tear until I left the office. So hang in there and good luck to you!

 

[luvgrumpy]

Hi all. I just found this thread. I can't sit here and read the whole thing, nearly 3000 posts. Especially on dial up. I've read through some and I just want to lend you support. I've been there. It took several years for us to have our first child and several more for our second. That is several years behind us now but I can sure feel your pain. Back then we didn't have the internet it just seemed like we were going it alone. I did have some relatives go through some of the same stuff but not at the same time. I'm glad you all have each other to lean on here. This is wonderful. Maybe I'll drop in and check in on you now and then. Kind of makes up for some of the pain of going it alone back in the dinosaur age. I wish you all the best in all of your procedures and I'll be thinking of you.

 

[Minnesota!]

Michelle - what DPO are you again? With my current pg, I tested at 13dpo and the line was SOOO faint. If I had tested earlier, it would have been a BFN. Not trying to give you false hope, but just wanted to let you know you aren't out until the hag shows. ((((((hugs))))))

Elaine - I know you are so emotionally confused right now, but clearer thinking will come in the weeks ahead. You will be in my prayers tonight and tomorrow. I hope all goes smoothly and painlessly. (((((hugs))))) again.

 

[mickeyboat]

I am scheduled for the D&C tomorrow at 3PM. I can eat until late and then I can drink tea until 11 am or clear liquid. I go in there at 2 and they are just so nice. I feel this is the right choice... I'll be out for the worst of it.

When I had my D & C the nurses were very nice. I was shivering in the OR ad they loaded me up with warm blankets. They didn't knock me out for the procedure, but they gave me some kind of sedation. I think I knew what was going on around me, but I didn't feel much (I did feel some, though). I will warn you, I was trying to be very strong for DH, and didn't shed a tear all morning, until the meds started kicking in. Then I started sobbing uncontrollably. The nurse was very understanding, and told me it was o.k. to be sad.



Denae

 

[DisneyDreamer8]

Elaine-I'm so so sorry. I hope your procedure goes well. I can only imagine the pain you are going through and I hope that your emotional pain heals

Michelle: Stay positive until AF shows...you never know!!!





Edited because I was having a brain freeze...wrong person...sorry

 

[7beasley]

Elaine...I am so sorry for your loss...you are in my thoughts and prayers. I know you are going through so much grief and sadness right now - I wish I could reach out and give you a hug. I know you have been on a rollercoaster lately of happiness and worry and now profound sadness and all I can tell you is that it will get better and the sun will shine again and you will become a mom to the children you are destined to parent --- but for now, I hope that you can be at peace and I am so so sorry!!

Michelle...sorry about the BFN -- I can imagine how frustrated you are -- I hope that when you test again...you get the news you are hoping for. In the meantime, we are all here for you!

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I know I have been MIA lately with regards to posting but I have been lurking everyday and I have been following all of you girls and your good news (yeah Emily and Mel and Mickeybar) and your 2ww (kelly and skuttle and michelle...) and I am thinking of everyone.

Every since that stupid IVF thread - I have been just too bummed out to post on the DIS -- and I have been so so worried about Carla and have been really feeling guilty that I got her caught up in that thread...the last thing she needs is any stress.

Carla -- if you are lurking too -- I hope you are okay - we miss you!

Thanks Jen in NH, Minnesota and Elaine for your kind thoughts inquiring as to my whereabouts -- I appreciate it!

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I am ok - saw the IVF clinic last week and retrieval is going to be in February -- the statistics for % of IVF that take and # of embroyos we are likely to get from the egg donation were very discouraging (50% chance of success and we should get about 2-5 embroyos) So for now we just patiently wait and pray for our miracle.

I will continue to lurk and post every now and again...

I hope everyone has a great Thanksgiving.

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And again -- Elaine -- I hope all goes well with the D&C - prayers and pixie dust to you...hopefully you can still enjoy your disney trip!

-Nicole

 

[exwdwcm]

Michelle - what DPO are you again? With my current pg, I tested at 13dpo and the line was SOOO faint. If I had tested earlier, it would have been a BFN. Not trying to give you false hope, but just wanted to let you know you aren't out until the hag shows. ((((((hugs))))))

Elaine - I know you are so emotionally confused right now, but clearer thinking will come in the weeks ahead. You will be in my prayers tonight and tomorrow. I hope all goes smoothly and painlessly. (((((hugs))))) again.

Today was 13DPO. The RE told me to test tomorrow, but i cheated a day. so i'll test again tomorrow just in case. still no AF, so i'll just continue testing until she comes i guess.

Nicole- great to hear from you and glad you are back! I hope the ER goes well in February!

Rebecca- no procedure for me- but my friend is having a D&C today. she's been a great support to me through all this so i am so sad for her. she has a beautiful 3 year old and this was going to be their second.

well time to grab some dinner somewhere out here in Prescott, it gets cold here at night in the desert! i am used to the humidity in TX!