Princess4Eeyore said:
Hi Everyone
Firstly, I have posted on here a twice, earlier on ... I am really just having a bad week and instead of keeping my feelings inside of me I decided to post for once. I will be 30 in two weeks and my dh turns 38 in later this year. For medical reasons we had to wait before conceiving. I had a couple surgeries. We have always wanted children.
Firstly, I dont know if anyone has any problems with their in-laws but after being married almost six years, I just cant take their comments any longer. Secondly, the stress the last few months has caused my periods to become very weird - I mean no actual pain but I have had my period for 10 days once, then spotted for almost 2 weeks and now I have had my period going on the second week but its very light. I did go to the doctor - had tests done and he said it seems like its just stress
Sorry to go on but I just feel like crying.
I wish everyone much love and more pixie dust.
Thanks for reading
Just wanted to say
. Your post struck a cord with me, particularly about the in-laws. I got along great with them for the first few years and then we got married. The comments about "when are we getting a grandchild" started almost immediately. The pressure was huge, and then we had problems conceiving, went through all the fertility testing and such. When I finally did get pregnant on a fluke, I asked that they stop chain smoking in front of me when we came for a visit (4 family members at a time all together in a closed up house...) and his mother and aunt pretty much gave us the silent treatment for a few months. More little things over the years, then we had some marital problems and of course he went to his family for solace during that time, so they really think I'm the devil now.
We're back on track as a couple, but needless to say, I haven't spoken to my in-laws in well over a year. Much better in my opinion, but I know it does bother dh. At least his family have been real boneheads to him lately (not coming to his graduation etc) so he actually understands a little why I don't want to have anything to do with them and has stopped bugging me about it.
Whew...sorry for dragging on with that!
Anyways, we're just gearing up to start trying for #2 and I'm anticipating the same ttc problems again. I'm 34 and dh is 30. We were 31 and 27 when Connor was born, 2 years almost to the day after we started trying. We are one of those couples with "unexplained infertility". I just don't get my periods when I stop the pill and on the pill they are weird like yours. But I've already decided I'm not going through any of the testing and pills and shots and such again. Too much stress and my work situation is not as conducive to taking off a few hours all the time for cycles now because of staffing issues (plus I hated looking like a freakin' drug addict with the bruises on my arms!!). If I get pregnant, woohoo! If not, we'll just try to have fun practising!
We haven't ruled out adoption either. But I am adamant about not having anything to do with my in-laws through this whole process. The stress is just not worth it.
As my mom told me once (she had similar problems with her in-laws her whole married life), "our family starts with us" meaning her, my father and us kids. I totally feel the same way. Although I get along fabulously with my parents, expecially my mom, my family still starts with me, dh and Connor (and hopefully #2!). Remember, you are not responsible for anyone else's happiness, just your own and your kids (until they turn 3...but that's a whole other story!!
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Hope you're feeling better soon. Deep breath! I also find pulling strategic phrases from Disney movies periodically helps...
1. Just keep swimming, just keep swimming...
2. Just smile and wave boys, smile and wave (ok, ok, it's not Disney...)
3. Whowetalkingbout?
If you ever want to vent again or chat at all, feel free to pm me or post here again...ttc-ers tend to stick together to keep eachothers spirits up, here and other places I've found.
She is so positive and always lifts my spirits.
and 
everybody.
Carla! I hope all of your wishes come true!! 
Then, she plays the guilt card....I'd better hurry up because she might not be around much longer. She's only 53. She's had ever test known to man and she's perfectly healthy. This cycle has been so much less stressful without her constant badgering. 
I love the smell of a clean baby with Baby Magic... It makes me 
Happy Birthday Carla
