Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[LisaB]

Well good luck with the sonogram on Monday Kristy. I guess I am back on the 2ww list

 

[Jen_in_NH]

Happy Friday everybody!

Nicole - good luck today. And congrats on finding the egg donor! That's excellent that it all worked out!

LisaB - happy 2ww. Isn't it the longest wait in the world? By the end, I've talked myself into every symptom known to man.

Kristy - good luck with the u/s. Hopefully this cycle will work better.

Carla - how did the acupuncture go?

Have a great weekend!

Jen

 

[LisaB]

HI everyone Well tonight Kevin and I are going to a wine tasting dinner which I won tickets to. $100 a piece WOW

 

[LisaB]

Good morning all. Kevin and I had a great time at the wine tasting but I drank way too much. It was a really fun night

 

[AllyandJack]

Morning, all! Another rainy day. We're supposed to get storms here today. I just hope it's not while I'm at acupuncture because if we get hail, my car will be out in the open.

Nicole, how did the B&W appointment go? Any new insight into what's going on?

Kristy, today is the u/s, right? I hope they're able to see something so you don't have to have the lap.

I'm still plugging along.....metformin is seriously putting a damper on my fun. I don't think I can eat another salad, but it's one of only 5 "safe" things I can eat. I think it's just combined with my colitis and decided to take over my life. Today is my first "real" acupuncture treatment. He took a look at my arms Friday and decided not to stick any more needles in me. Bless his heart. No blood results yet - she said it could take 2-3 weeks and today is only 1 week. Awaiting the glory that is the colonoscopy. I have so much to look forward to!

 

[7beasley]

Hi Carla -- good luck with accupuncture -- let us know if it helps!

Nothing new at B&W - liked the Dr. very much though (Gargiulio) but he concurred with the POF diagnosis and said medically there was nothing he could do to fix it or help me get preg. naturally. Antedotally however he said that he had 2 patients recently who had same diagnosis and got preg. on their own. He said I was young (almost 33 is young for preg????) and my husband and I should take some time and keep trying. He is clearly an optimist as we have been trying on our own for 14 months with no sucess!

Anyway -he agreed Egg Donation was the way to go. We are hoping to have the implantation go forth end of Oct. beginning of Nov. That is right around the corner! Yeah!

Carla - what were your blood tests all about - 3 weeks to get results? I am guessing they did chromosone/DNA stuff?

Kristy - good luck!

LisaB -- wine tasting sounds super fun! Glad you guys had a good time.

Hope everyone has a good day today!

~Nicole

 

[AllyandJack]

Nicole, I guess they consider anything under 35 "young" - that's great, but that doesn't mean we have all the time in the world (or WANT all the time in the world). We'd be due around the same time if it worked for both of us. That would be fun. I'm in this MONSTER buddy group on Fertility Friend. There is going to be one heck of a Baby Boom in the spring/summer of 2007 judging from the size of this group. I had the auto-immune panel, the clotting panel, and keratotyping done. DH had his keratotyping done with the urologist, so he's good. It's a shot in the dark, but maybe something will show up to explain something. I almost hope they would find something just so they have something to fix.

Are you going to stick with your original doctor or see the new guy? What did he say about the positive beta??

 

[Minnesota!]

Hey ladies - I hope you are all doing well..

Just wanted to pop in and let you know I got 2 BFP's this weekend! Can you believe it? Oy. I am going to be calling for a beta/prog check in a bit, but wanted to let you all know what is going on in my little world...

Hope you are all doing well. I am under a huge project at work, so I don't get much time to respond here too much. But I read and pray!!!

 

[2bemarried]

Lisa, glad you enjoyed the wine tasting!

Carla...when do you have to get the colonoscopy done? How was the acupuncture? Sweet of him to agree to stay away from your arms

Nicole...ditto Carla's question...are you going to stick with the original doc?

Minnesota...CONGRATS!!!

I had the 3D sonogram done this morning. It wasn't pleasant but it wasn't horrible either. It's basically like the HSG. They insert a catheter and then inject a solution into the uterine area to see everything. The doc saw both ovaries with no problem. She checked out the endometrian lining and didn't see fibroids or polyps. So I just have to wait for a call from the office on what my next steps are.

 

[7beasley]

Hi Carla and Kristy -- yes - we are going to stay with the same place - the Reproductive Science Center (RSC) in Lexington. The RE I have been seeing (and have really hated - he is a big cold fish with no emotion or sympathy) is Dr. Michael Summers and while he is a RSC doctor - he will no longer be my doctor -- my new RSC doctor is Dr. Pang (who I have not meet yet but have heard good things about). Dr. Summers does not do the egg donor stuff - that is Dr. Pang's job.

We decided we wanted to stay with RSC instead of B&W - they are both great places but we just like RSC better. Although I like Dr. Gargiulo from B&W best as a doctor!!

Dr. Gargiulo tells me he does not accept any donors less than 25 years into his program but he would make an exception for us and our donor (she is 31). We thought that was very nice of him. When I pushed him why no one over 25 he said the younger the donor the better the success rate (I personally think he does it just to keep his numbers good - and frankly his numbers are great at 100% --- but again all his donors are 25 or less!)

Anyway - we are going to stick with RSC - for us - they are the better choice. And from all reports and people I have spoken to - RSC and B&W are both excellent places and are really interchangeable.

Carla - that would be great if we were both due at the same time! I (and I am sure you and Kristy feel this way too) can't wait to join a Moms to be Online SUpport Group!!

In other news - I finally got my period today -- today is day 66 - longest ever! Prior to this my longest was 45 and shortest was like 15 -- this is way outside of even my norm though. Guess I really am screwed up. At least I can start taking the estrogen/progesterne now.

As for the false positive -- the B&W doctor did not really give me a good answer other than to say since all my hormones were screwed up that was giving off a mild/low reading but it is not a real positive. He told me to go home and take a HPT to put my mind at ease -- which I did and it was negative!

Can't wait for the day I get 2 lines. Even though it will be diagnosed first by blood test (test done 2 weeks after implanation) - if I get a positive I will probably go home and pee on a stick just so I can see what it looks like!!


Congrats Minnesota - so happy for you and your great news!!

Stay well and happy ladies - keep reminding yourself that our day will come!!

~Nicole

 

[mickeyboat]

Minnesota - Congrats!

Everyone else I have been working my tail off and can't wait for vacation next week!

Denae

 

[connorsmom911]

Hey all, checking in to say hi!!!

AF showed up yesterday finally...those stupid HPTs were getting expensive, especially when they're all BFN! So, at least I can start all over again. I sorta gave up charting last month, but I guess I'll get at it again and see if I can actually make sense of my temps and see if I am o'ing. Here we go again!!!

Minnesota...congrats!!! Wishing you a happy pregnancy!!!

LisaB...jealous!!! But at least you can still drink, that's about the only bonus to all this!!! I'm taking that perk pretty seriously...hehehe!

Carla...let us know what you think of the accupuncture. I had it done after my last pregnancy cause I got wicked carpal tunnel that turned into tendonitis in my wrists. Seemed to help, so I'd be game to try it again.

Nicole...glad things are moving along and that you've settled on a donor. I'm crossing my fingers for you. You're the first one I've read about doing the donor thing, so I'm curious.

Everyone else I missed... and

Hope everyone is enjoying the summer. Our heat wave finally broke and it's beautiful and breezy here today. I'm stuck at work, but at least it's OT, actually getting paid what I'm worth

 

[lil mermaid]

Hi everyone,

just checking in! I haven't been here in a while. We just got back from visiting my parents and inlaws in New England. We were in Mass, NH and Maine.

So - here are my thoughts on the trip. New England is gorgeous. Everytime I go back, I am struck by the natural beauty of the place. Sigh...made me a little homesick. But I probably will never ever go back because my parents and my inlaws drove DH and I both nuts. But you NH girls are so lucky to see all of that beautiful scenery every day.

Lisa glad you enjoyed the wine tasting! I love wine tasting. We lived in the SF bay area for two years and went to Napa or Sonoma just about every other weekend. Wineries are fun, fun fun!

Minnesota, congrats to you!

Carla - I am glad you were able to get your testing done. At least now you know. I know after I miscarried the first time, the thought that there might be even the slightest possibility that something treatable caused my mc - well, I just wanted to know so that I could prevent it from happening again if I could. Big hugs to you. I had a colonoscopy once - just make sure you get the good drugs, and all will be fine.

Congrats to any other BFPs that I am sure I have missed.

So - I am now on CD 33 and so far no AF. I can't believe that I haven't tested by now - I just can't bring myself to do it. I got really depressed last month when I got a BFN. I don't feel any pregnancy symptoms..but where is AF? I guess I should test...

Laurel, Mommy to Maddie

 

[kimntrent]

I have been off of depo since 2/03. In that time I have had two m/c one in 2004 and one exactly 2 years later. We have been to fertility dr's and as they put it unexplained infertility. I am hoping that my upcoming trip to WDW will give me good vibes since my first pregnancy was a cause from a WDW trip.

 

[AllyandJack]

Hi, Kim....sorry about your losses. WDW is always good for getting you back on track - at least it's a nice diversion.

Laurel, are you going to test? Test....we want to know. My gastro said he's going to slip me some extra Demerol because I had pain last time and I'm getting some extra Versed because I remember the entire thing. He said I shouldn't remember it. I remember them rounding that last corner and that terrible pain. He's good about giving the drugs. During my upper endoscopy, I kept trying to pull it out and he told the nurse to knock me out.....and they did.

connorsmom, they need to make a reusable HPT. They could easily make the digital ones able to be used over and over and all we'd have to buy are the test sticks. I don't see why they can't make the CBE Fertility Monitor an HPT (the box of 30 sticks is only $30.). I know why....$$$$$.

Kristy, what did the doctor say???

Nicole, bedside manner is so important in this field. One GYN resident was assisting my RE at one of my retrievals and she was a twit. Anyone that says, "You do realize your only other option is adoption, right?" shouldn't be an RE.

Minnesota! Congrats!! (they need to make a blue bouncy thing)


Acupuncture was OK. I go back tomorrow. I can't say I left feeling all "enlightened", but it wasn't terrible. He put one in my foot that hurt, but he moved it. The acupuncturist gave me a referreal to an infertility counselor and I called her Monday and saw her yesterday! She's awesome - and in Durham, NH so I don't have to drive though the Big Dig or into MA, which only causes me more stress. It's nice to see someone who specializes in infertility and pregnancy loss. We talked about how I prefer the emotion of anger over sadness/depression and how that's very common in infertility patients because anger has ENERGY behind it and sadness/depression doesn't have that energy and makes us feel more helpless. We talked about my road rage and how I feel slighted when I'm cut off - because I follow the rules of the road and "deserve" to "get home first" and along comes some idiot, not obeying the rules and acting irresponsible, and they just cut me off and "get home first". She really understood me....and it's nice to know there is something behind all of this and I'm not just some road-raging nutjob. It's good to get this relationship established in case this round is a failure and I have my final breakdown.

 

[LisaB]

Nicole, bedside manner is so important in this field. One GYN resident was assisting my RE at one of my retrievals and she was a twit. Anyone that says, "You do realize your only other option is adoption, right?" shouldn't be an RE.

And you didn't answer sarcastically " No I didn't realize that adoption was an option silly me."

 

[LisaB]

Well good morning ladies I don't really know what day past ovulation it is but it is day 21 past AF. Some cramping and some sore breasts so who knows

 

[AllyandJack]

And you didn't answer sarcastically " No I didn't realize that adoption was an option silly me."

My RE jumped in and told her it's not my "only" option and to leave me alone. I guess I told her off while under anesthesia....I was nice and very matter-of-fact and told her it took a special type of person to be an RE and she just wasn't that type. She wanted to take a poke at me with the needle, but my RE wouldn't let her participate in the retrieval, she just handed things to people. I guess she was on punishment or something.

 

[exwdwcm]

Hi ladies, just dropping a quick hello before heading to my appt today. it's cycle day 12, and i am having my first sono to prepare for IUI. i've had pain in the right side since monday and pain in the left since yesterday, so maybe the follicles will be big enough. we will see. i have my shot ready to go and I guess they will give me instructions on that today. DH can't come today. He also said it's stupid for him to come to the actual IUI-i made it clear he should be there, heck, we might be conceiving our child in that room! i'll definitely be pushing that issue. things are just crazy at his work, so he hates having to take off.

so i'll post up later the results of the sono!

Nicole- welcome back! glad you had fun in vegas!

 

[7beasley]

Hi Guys...

Carla - glad you told off the stupid RE intern...I am really starting to hate all people!!

So here is my big fat vent -- ARRRGHGGH --- I HATE HATE HATE HATE GREAT WEST INSURANCE COMPANY --- if I could kill them I would. People suck and they have no compassion and have stupid rules!!

We *were* on target to do the donor's retreival and my implant in October but I called Great West yesterday to find out how much of my $15K cap I still had availble to me (I have $13K) and they said that the donor's retrieval was not covered - only my implant. I said that previously they told me it was covered and that everything up to $15K was covered and the woman said she checked the computer notes and that either I misunderstood or the girl I previously spoke to misunderstood....

Apparently when I asked if donor egg IVF was covered the girl said yes because IVF was covered and did not know what I meant by donor egg...the donor stuff is not covered.

I was on the phone with various people for OVER AN HOUR!!!!

And the cherry on top of the infurating phone call was that I asked the supervisor if I needed a kindey transplant would the donor stuff be covered and she laughed (she actually laughed!!) and said "of course donated organs and stuff like that is covered - but you want an egg and thats not an organ" - ***???? People SUCK!!! I told her it was no different and she said I wouldn't die without an egg but I would die without a kidney -- I would like to have punched her right in the face.

So now we have to go through an appeal -- which I am sure will have little to no chance of sucess but I have no choice. The thing that really gauls me is that the most the insurance compnay is EVER going to spend on this stuff is $15K -- whether I have one IVF cycle with donor egg retrieval or 100 cycles retrieving my own eggs...the most they are paying is $15K - so why do they even care one bit how I spend that $15K????

Anyway -- we are continuing the process adn doing the appeal -- once we find out when the retreival is scheduled for we will make a decision --- if it is early October - we will pay the extra $5000 out of pocket (mind you this is on top of the other $20,000 we have already paid!!!!) and just do the retreival and if it is more like November or beginning of december then we will put the retrieval off until the beginning of January when we switch to Tufts insurance (because Tufts covers both the donor's retrieval and my implanation!!)

UGGGGHHHH

Sometimes I hate life and hate this stuff and just want to throw in the towel...but I will keep plugging away and chanting my mantra that it will happen and someday I will forget about all this stress and look at my baby and know it was all worth it!!


Carla --- I need to find a counsellor like the one you are going to -- she sounds great!! I am going to look into that.

Happy thoughts to all of you wonderful ladies!

~Nicole