Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Becky I am sure things are fine!!!!

If you become even more concerned, you can ask if your Doctor's office will do a beta test on you to test your HCG levels. I don't know if they will do this for a first pregnancy (is it your first???)--but who knows--they might.

 

[beckmrk04]

Thanks guys. Yes- this is my first pregnancy, so it's kind of a blank slate- I have nothing to compare it to. So, as when I was charting, I am overanalyzing every twinge and feeling that I have.

I am going to be a misery to those around me, I can tell.

Thanks again for the reassurance. I'm feeling a bit vulnerable, and I'm so glad to have this support!

 

[Syrreal]

Hi girls.

I tested again today. I'm feeling a bit irrational. See- yesterday and today I haven't really had much by the way of morning sickness and my breasts aren't *as* sore as they were....

Hi Beck,

My m/s has gone down too (now it's down to night time and every time I eat instead of all day every day). I think it's just our bodies' ways of giving us a break.
When do you have your dr appt?

 

[beckmrk04]

My first Dr. appt is July 18th- that's in my 8th week.

I think I will feel better once I have the OFFICIAL stamp of pregnancy from the doc.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Beck--you can continue taking your temps (same time as before)---continue the charting and as long as the temps stay above midline you are good--you may have erratic temps--but as long as they are consistently above the line--that could be some reassurance. (there will be dips though).

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

My first Dr. appt is July 18th- that's in my 8th week.

I think I will feel better once I have the OFFICIAL stamp of pregnancy from the doc.

Any concerns and you call them sooner!

 

[beckmrk04]

I can't decide if temping will make me even more

I think it might.

Right now my plan is to try to relax and take it easy, and not worry so much. Whatever happens, happens. If I notice anything really strange, I'll call my doc and get in earlier, but I think I'm just hormonal and stressed and making things worse in my head than they really are.

 

[MommyBryn]

Hi girls.

I tested again today. I'm feeling a bit irrational. See- yesterday and today I haven't really had much by the way of morning sickness and my breasts aren't *as* sore as they were... So of course, I assume the worst. But, I got a plus. But now I'm overanalyzing that- it didn't seem as strong as the first two tests I took a week ago. The positive line was just more faint this time, it seemed.

I'm sure I'm jumping to conclusions, but I'm still a bit worried.

I am actually hoping for worse morning sickness, just so I feel more pregnant- I know you guys will know what I mean.

Boy do I hear ya. I would've taken full-blown m/s by the time I got pregnant. I didn't have ANY "symptoms. It took a looong time for it to sink in because my body wasn't acting like it was pg! (I even had 3 u/s's by 12 weeks and I STILL wasn't convinced.

If you're really worried I bet you could get in for a beta. You can get one done anywhere...it doesn't have to be through your OB if they won't do one yet. My early betas were just at a family practice clinic. Just make sure you ask for a quantitative rather than a qualitative.

 

[Syrreal]

I just wanted to add that when I'm not nauseous, I don't even "feel" pregnant. It hardly seems real, even though I know it is, because I don't feel any different. Liek I said, its only when I am not sick <lol>

 

[7beasley]

Just checking in...

Becky - I agee that charting temps is a good idea - I am sure everything is ok though. Maybe give your Doctor a call and see if you can get the appt. moved up early!

LisaB - so sorry "she" showed up! Good luck with Dr. phonecall.

Carla -- in one of your recent posts you mention "FF" and postings of someone with POF (which is what I have...) -- does "FF" stand for FertilityFriend.com ---- I just tried to read the message boards on that site and you have to PAY for a subscription and since I was not sure that was what you were referring to - I did not want to pay for anything yet...especially because husband and I are saving every last cent we can get our little hands on for this egg donor!!! I know they say the person is a "donor" and you are "compensating" them for their time and discomfort for the medical procedures...but it sure feels like a high end transaction to me and I am just literally buying an egg!! So unfair that people without eggs have to pay people with eggs thousands of dollars!! (sounds like the egg donor alone is going to be about $6000+) -- anyway.... I hope you are doing better Carla.

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Question: as some of you may know, I was recently diagnosed with Premature Ovarian Failure (POF) which is kind of like early menopause-- I basically don't really have any eggs left - even though I am only 32 years old. The doctor however told me that ovulation could "wax and wane" but the problem was that I would never really know when I was ovulating to time sex...so - I was thinking that I would invest in a Clear Blue Easy Fertility Monitor. I don't know if it would work for me but I thought it might be worth a try.

I understand you can buy the monitor much cheaper on EBAY- what about the test strips though -- how much are those and how many per pack? Also - does anyone know if the CBEFM will work with something like POF -- my appointment with my RE is not until July 14th and I wanted to buy it prior to then.

Thanks!
Thinking of everyone and sending lots of baby dust!!

~Nicole

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I just registered free with fertility friend today. You can do charting for free with them.

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/ttc2/login.php (click join now it's free button on top left--the weight charts require a paid membership--but the cycle charts are free).

Ovusoft has messageboards and they have electronic tracking...you download the software for $40. Perhaps that is the one you are thinking of. They have a 15 day free trial. http://www.ovusoft.com/products/

 

[LisaB]

I would think that with u/s and estridil testing the RE could tell you when you were ovulating.

 

[AllyandJack]

Becky, it's not uncommon for symptoms to come and go. Plus, those tests use different levels of ink so you shouldn't compare darkness. But, if you have any spotting or pain, call them ASAP. I don't understand why doctors make you wait that long. If my doctor had waited that long, I'd be sitting here with one less tube - or I might not be sitting here at all. I wouldn't worry unless you have bleeding or pain.

Nicole, I pay for Fertility Friend. I get a yearly membership - I think it's $45. or something for the entire year. You can chart for free, but you have to pay for the message boards. I LOVE my CBE Monitor. I don't use it much anymore - only during off cycles to let my RE know what's going on. The sticks are $30. a pack for 30 sticks. The monitor usually asks you for sticks around CD6. Once it gets to know you and your pattern, it'll change when it asks you to start (mine usually starts around CD9). Once you've used 20 sticks, if it hasn't detected a Peak, it'll stop asking. So, you'll have to reset it when you get your period and start over again with a new cycle. That's a lot of money for a donor egg. I know in some countries, they offer discounted IVF if you donate eggs during the cycle so the recipient doesn't have to pay for the donor. I don't know if they do that in the US. I would do that - I don't pay for it, but I'd be willing to donate. They don't allow that though. I can donate my embryos after 3 years, but not eggs. For some reason, BCBS doesn't want me slipping some eggs to other people.

How is everyone? I'm back at work finally....it's been almost 4 weeks. I go back tomorrow for blood and an ultrasound to see what's going on in there. Fun.

Do we have anyone waiting to test or are we all just waiting to wait??

 

[beckmrk04]

OK ladies- I got up and took my temp (like I totally wasn't going to do), and it was 98.1, which is the highest its ever been. So, I feel a bit better.

Yeah- I don't know why the doctors make us wait that long either. I guess by 8 weeks miscarriage is a bit less likely, and they wait because of that? But what about us anxious nervous-nellies? Have they thought about what that wait does to people? Gee whiz, all I have done for months is wait.

Wait to O. Wait for AF. Wait for AF not to show. Wait for 10dpo so I can test. Wait another day because the test was BFN. Wait for my doctors appt. Wait for this kid to come out so I can meet it already...

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

:

Nicole, I pay for Fertility Friend. I get a yearly membership - I think it's $45. or something for the entire year. You can chart for free, but you have to pay for the message boards. ?

That's funny--Ovusoft you pay for the charting and the message boards are free. I don't know why that amuses me--but it does.

I know that those on Ovusoft will help review your FF charts---so I use the free part of both sites.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

OK ladies- I got up and took my temp (like I totally wasn't going to do), and it was 98.1, which is the highest its ever been. So, I feel a bit better.

Yeah- I don't know why the doctors make us wait that long either. I guess by 8 weeks miscarriage is a bit less likely, and they wait because of that? But what about us anxious nervous-nellies? Have they thought about what that wait does to people? Gee whiz, all I have done for months is wait.

Wait to O. Wait for AF. Wait for AF not to show. Wait for 10dpo so I can test. Wait another day because the test was BFN. Wait for my doctors appt. Wait for this kid to come out so I can meet it already...

I think it is b/c there is nothing they can do--really between 4 and 8 weeks it is just unnecessary (for most) medical intervention. At that time all they really can do is a blood test--but I'm sure if you get concerned you can call in at any time and be seen earlier. They also can't detect a heartbeat (they can't really at 8 weeks either) and your uterus is growing--but not big enough for them to tell anything.

I know with my first pregnancy it seemed forever--but then on pregnancy #2 it wasn't far off at all...and this last time--I had to book it at 12 weeks b/c we weren't going to be home and they said that was okay b/c they don't really do anything but review prenatal care and such at week 8--something that we discussed over the phone. If I get preggers this month or next--I'm on target to not miss an appointment, but I do think I'll be demanding a Beta Test for assurance that my levels are where they should be.


But on that temperature. I know it may drive you crazy---but at least you can document for comfort.

I will be doing this as well!

And today--my temp dipped--so no rise...but I did have a cervical change.

 

[LisaB]

Good morning All Hope all is well with everyone

 

[FlyingBelle]

Do we have anyone waiting to test or are we all just waiting to wait??

I'm waiting... I'm 2dpIUI... I know - still a while to wait. I go in Monday the 3rd for b/w, and then Monday the 10th for the pg test.

 

[LisaB]

I will get my plan today and will go in for an u/s tommorrow or Saturday. How are you doing Carla????

 

[7beasley]

I am really so happy that I have found these wonderful group to join...

I am going to by a Clear Blue Easy Fertility Monitor but I am going to skip joining Fertility Friends...I am considering becoming a member in the POF society or group or whatever it is.

Becky - great news about your temp...

Carla -- I admire your strength and courage!! Hope work goes well!

Lisa Loves Pooh -- hoping things go well!

LisaB -- hope you are well!

FlyingBelle -- I am pulling for you -- the 10th will be here before you know it!

Schilipee (sorry - I know I spelled that wrong) -- thanks for the PM with the email address -- I am going to email your friend this weekend!

All the other great ladies on this board -- keep smiling - hope all is well!

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We are going to start interviewing egg donor agencies after the long weekend! The egg donor coordinator told me when we saw a profile - it would just click with us and we would KNOW she was the one...I am hoping they are right. I am not even going to be super picky...all I want is caucasion, brown hair, less than 5'5 (preferably), healthy, smart and if possible italian/irish or something similar and someone who has done this before (if possible).

Wow -- maybe I am being a little picky!!! Who knows though - we will aim for our wish list and see who is out there...I know the perfect egg is waiting for me.

You know - it is funny - I realized last night after my cousin wondered what kinds of woman donate their eggs for money...that the same reason that this woman can donate her eggs is the same reason that I can take them and implant them in me and just KNOW this baby is 100% mine and not hers! I think that reason is that these woman donating eggs look at the egg as just that an egg - they don't look at it as a baby or even an extension of themselves ( I would think they just can't) -- kind of like donating blood. And I look at this egg not as someone else's child but as the vehicle or help I need to create my own child. I guess my point is that for this system to kind of work...I think both the donor and me (the receipient) have to believe that the egg is not a baby...and that I am the one who will be creating the baby.

Perhaps I am over analyzing this too much...but I just find myself really needing to believe that this stranger is not giving me a baby but that me and my husband with his sperm and my womb are creating our own baby! Whether it is true or not - I believe it. I have to in order to get through what lies ahead!

Thinking of everyone!
~Nicole