We flew on 9/28/01 and I remember the time between 9/11 and our trip and the horrible nightmares I had. We debated over cancelling the trip but we think that if we do stop flying, *they* will have won and in all honesty, if it's our time to go, it's not going to matter if we're on a plane, in a car, walking down the street. At some point you have to have faith in a higher power and/or fate.
That being said, I have not been a good flyer for most of my life. My 2nd flight (ever) at age of 19, the oxygen masks dropped and we descended very rapidly - the next time I was on a plane I nearly had to use an airsick bag sitting at the gate. I've been hit by lightning in a plane and have wiggled wings at take-off (not for fun, but wind, then over-correctedness to re-adjust us) and I've made it through them all. There is an *excellent* book out there Flying without Fear by Duane Brown
I highlight recommend to anyone who has fears about flying