Disnee Dad Says...................................Never been there, never did that. Just thought I could add a liitle male perspective.
First off, forget the past. Anyone who could do this to you is a piece of garbage, it may smell ok for awhile but in the end it always stinks.
Be thankful the kids were basically spared from a divorce war.
Go have fun, you are no longer wife of Mr. Un Appreciative or mom of kids. Well, you are mom of men! Hopefully fine gentlemen who learned well from thier mother!
Make over, if you need to lose weight do it, switch from glasses to contacts, do it, turn your hair purple, wait no don't do that!
The point is change what you want to change.
And always remember COP. "There's a great big beautiful tommorrow, standing at the end of every day, a great big beautiful tommorrow is just a day away" Ok the words aren't perfect, but they are close. Best wishes, and a little PD!