Any advice or suggestions regarding-filing for the divorce on mon.

[Sugarbaby]

I've been there too,and once it's all done,you'll be so relieved. Just make sure you decide how you will divide up the cost of things your kids will need: clothes,medical bills and perscriptions not totally covered by insurance,college costs,etc. Even if he is agreeable now,things could change,so it's best to have everything in writing. Good luck,darlin'. You will be just fine. Keep us posted on how you're doin'.

 

[snoopy]

No advice, but plenty of virtual hugs.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Laurie}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Thinking of you, sweetie, and holding you close to my heart.

 

[CRB#33]

Laurie. I've been down your road and I just want to tell you that there is a beautiful light at the end of this tunnel you're walking through.

Just keep walking, keep believing in yourself and loving your children with all your heart.

Life is beautiful and we do grow so much through our troubled times. It makes us who we are and oh, so much stronger and more mature.

Take care

 

[Pooh67_68]

I know many people who have gone through a divorce, and the only thing I can say is YOU WILL SURVIVE

 

[newmousecateer]

Just wishing you the best of luck, and the best of times to come.

 

[danacara]

Is his name on the joint bank accounts? Is that where your money is? Filing for divorce might tick him off ... I would be sure to hide the money for now ...

 

[piglet too]

No advice, just wanted to send you a cyber-hug and let you know I will think of you on Monday.

 

[missypie]

I don't know your situation at all but don't date anyone until all is said and done. I filed for divorce 2 years after DH told me he was seeing someone else, and 6 months after he moved out of state to live with her. I started dating after that (over 2 years after DH had started dating!) and my lawyer told me that that could make ME look really bad in the divorce porceedings! Not fair, of course, but it's a short term issue.

My divorce is one of the best things that ever happened to me.

 

[TigerBear]

Originally posted by missypie
My divorce is one of the best things that ever happened to me.

Mine too, and he left me!

 

[aprincessmom]

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Originally posted by missypie
My divorce is one of the best things that ever happened to me.
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Mine too, and he left me!

Me three!

 

[powellrj]

no advise, just

 

[Serena]

I'm taking notes. Any other suggestions or ....?

 

[tiggersmom2]

Serena,
I know this must be painful for you even if it is the right thing. You are in my prayers tonight.

 

[Brer_Papa]

Good thoughts for you on Monday....

Best wishes all goes well.......

 

[Serena]

Um, let's see, since all this started. I've got my own bank account, my own credit cards, I'm occasionally seeing a counselor, I'm on an antidepressant. I do have a job, even if I don't know how long it'll be open.
And best of all, I actually feel stronger than I did. I need this finalized. It's past time.

Oh, btw, I haven't dated anyone.

 

[C.Ann]

When I was married to my first husband, I started the proceedings and then stopped them - after he begged, pleaded and promised he would change..

He didn't..

When I filed again, it was because he did something that endangered the life of my DD.. He begged, pleaded and promised again - but at that point I knew there was no forgiving on my part and no turning back..

I was SOOOOO scared though.. I had 3 small children, no money in the bank, no credit cards, and had never held a real job.. I didn't ask for or receive alimony - and his child support payments were far and few between.. I didn't know what was going to happen to me - or my children - but my heart told me it was the right thing to do..

Four years after I divorced my first husband, I married my present husband.. Today is our anniversary - 26 years - and I have to say, getting that divorce was the best thing I ever did..

I think you're ready now.. And it's going to be okay - I promise!

 

[tiggersmom2]

C. Ann,
I just wanted you to know that I loved your post. Happy Anniversary!

 

[Serena]

How come every time someone tells me I'm going to be ok, I cry?

The future on my own scares me to death. I went from my parents, to being married. I've never been on my own. I don't know how it's going to work out, but I'm gonna find out.

As long as I have the internet, I'll be alright.

 

[C.Ann]

Originally posted by Serena
How come every time someone tells me I'm going to be ok, I cry?

The future on my own scares me to death. I went from my parents, to being married. I've never been on my own. I don't know how it's going to work out, but I'm gonna find out.

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I went from my parents to being married the first time two days after I turned 17 !! So - I'd never been on my own either..

I promise - it's gonna be okay..

 

[tiggersmom2]

Serena,
I was married at 17 also. I knew it was time to leave when I felt more alone with him than I did actually being alone. That may not make sense but I do feel your pain and I believe with all my heart that things will work out for the best! I met my DREAM man a few months after my divorce and I am so happy!