Another Vent About My Parents

[disneyfav4ever]

Disclaimer - Yes, I know I should move out, and I'm going to, so I don't want this to turn into another 1,000 reasons why I should move out thread. My problems with my parents will still be there, even when I do.

Anyway, DF and I went out to eat the other day. We had gotten a big appetizer sampler that we couldn't finish, so I took the leftovers home. The next day, I went to get them out for my lunch, and my mom yelled at me that she was saving them for her and my dad for dinner.

I'm sorry, what? You're saving my food that my DF bought me for yourself. Not asking if she and my dad could have them, she just forbid me to eat my own food.

This makes me not want to bring home leftovers anymore. I could just not take anything home, but that would be a waste of food, and I can't eat the whole thing at the restaurant, that would probably make me sick, even with DF's help.

Okay, vent over.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

I was upset by the whole thing, since I had been looking foward to them for lunch.

 

[poohandwendy]

LOL, this problem won't still be there when you move out

I know that isn't what you want to hear, but maybe this is a sign?

Other than that, HUGS...

 

[LindsayDunn228]

Uh, yes you are able to have your leftovers. Straighten up your backbone and start confronting your parents when they pull this kind of thing.

And sorry, but you need to move out.

 

[trip]

Simple solution - leave the leftovers at DF's house.

 

[mrsltg]

Yikes. That's crummy! Yes, it is time to move out, at least this particular problem will be alleviated!

Good luck!

 

[Tybug]

Oh my. Now this is just down right silly. How would you react if they just ate it 'before' you wanted it? So it was gone without you noticing? Sure she shouldn't have laid claims to it for a later meal, I agree. But just be sure you ask before you eat anything in the fridge that you didn't buy...

Oh... and move out! If something so trivial is going to cause such an uproar, I'd say you have overstayed your welcome.

Tybug - who is quite cranky with a broken washer for the last 13 days...

 

[MushyMushy]

Just eat them.

 

[hentob]

Disclaimer - Yes, I know I should move out, and I'm going to, so I don't want this to turn into another 1,000 reasons why I should move out thread. My problems with my parents will still be there, even when I do.

Not if you move far, far away

May I ask how old you are?

 

[disneynutt1225]

I have the same problem in my house. DH and I live with my parents and 18 year old brother (which means we live with a perpetual eater, LOL). For the most part, they're ok with not eating "our food" but once in a while I catch them chowing down on something I bought for myself from the supermarket (during a trip where I've purchased food for the house as well).

For me, I wish it was as easy as "just move out" but we're helping them out financially and they just aren't anywhere near able for us to move out at this point. It's funny, we originally moved here so that we could save money for a house; and now we're living here so that we can help them out financially. Not saying I'm bitter about it, it makes me feel good that I can do it, I just wish we didn't HAVE to do it. KWIM?

 

[mickeyfan2]

Do you eat food that they bought. If so then anything in the fridge is free game for all who live in that house.

How will your parents be eating the food in your fridge if you are on your own.

Sorry their home, their fridge and they can eat what they want. Don't like it then move.

 

[daisyduck123]

Heck...you share a fridge, then you share food, IMO.

I don't know how old you are, but from the sounds of it you are old enough that you should've moved out a long time ago.
If I were you I'd either have DF take the food to his place from now on, or start looking for an apartment today.

**Why don't you shell out $90.00 bucks & buya dorm-sized fridge for your room?

 

[GoofieRuthie]

How old are you?

Why didn't you go on and eat it anyway??

I agree that it is their house, their rules, but even if my children bring home leftovers from a restaurant, it is thier food. I would never say, " I paid for it, it's my fridge, it's mine now". That's bull pucky!

 

[disneyfav4ever]

Do you eat food that they bought. If so then anything in the fridge is free game for all who live in that house.

Nope, not unless it's offered, and I definatly would never eat anything they brought home special to save for another meal. I know when I came home I said I was going to save this for my lunch the next day, and I then scribbled my initials on the box.

We do not share food at the house. If my sister buys food, it is her food, if I buy food, it is my food. If my mom buys food, it is her food. If my dad buys food, it is his food. Though my mom and dad will generally share with each other.

For instance, the other day my dad brought home a sandwhich. He ate half, I asked him what he was going to do with the other half, and he said, "why, do you want it?" I was trying to decide what I wanted for lunch, so said sure, but then he was like, well, I'm saving this half for mom. Then why the heck did you ask me if I wanted it? I come down later, when my mom gets home and is eating the sandwhich, with "my" chips.

 

[poohandwendy]

Sort of makes me wonder if they are trying to force you to move out, the more I think about it. Maybe a passive aggressive approach, but it sounds like they feel you need to be on your own if you want to be independent and not treated like a child.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

**Why don't you shell out $90.00 bucks & buya dorm-sized fridge for your room?

I have said I'll do this, since my parents, especially my dad will start a "it's my fridge thing," but they didn't like that idea, and I'm not allowed to have one. I think they just want to be able to eat whatever they want.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

I have said I'll do this, since my parents, especially my dad will start a "it's my fridge thing," but they didn't like that idea, and I'm not allowed to have one. I think they just want to be able to eat whatever they want.

How old are you again?

 

[disneyfav4ever]

Sort of makes me wonder if they are trying to force you to move out, the more I think about it. Maybe a passive aggressive approach, but it sounds like they feel you need to be on your own if you want to be independent and not treated like a child.

But when I did live on my own, they'd still just come over without calling, then when they came in, they'd tell me how I should clean differently, apparently there were streaks on my windows, or I'd not have dusted something right, or my bed wouldn't be made. My dad did show up once unannounced around 8:00 AM and my bed was not made yet, big deal. They'll go through my fridge, and tell me what I should and should not be eating, i.e; I should eat more fruit, I shouldn't drink soda. They'd go through my mail, etc, etc, etc. Hey, having my own apartment, was just like living at home.

And no, they didn't have a key, but if they came over they would ring the bell until I let them in. And I mean, I lived about an hour away, and they still would just "drop by." I really think they don't have anything better to do with their time then harass me.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

Uh, yes you are able to have your leftovers. Straighten up your backbone and start confronting your parents when they pull this kind of thing.

And sorry, but you need to move out.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

How old are you again?

I'm in my 20's.