Justanopinion
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So I didn't read all of the spanking thread. And now there is a thread about do your parents know the grudges you hold against them.
That one got me thinking.
My mother and I are very close. I used to often call her for advice on my kids. At one time I had 4 teenagers in my house, my two and my two step kids.
Since the time that my son was very young he always knew that not only did he have to answer to me but to my parents also. My parents often backed me up in things and if they disagreed they would tell me privately but never in front of him.
Well, as my teenagers got older, my step kids complained that I told my mother too much. She would sometimes "lecture" them on things they had done, but she also praised them on the good things also.
So after they started complaining I didn't tell her as much that was going on with them but I still talked to her everyday just to talk to her. They didn't see it that way, they weren't happy that I was talking to her. I tried explaining and even letting them hear my conversations with her so that they would know I wasn't talking about them.
I do know that part of the problem was that their grandfather would not and still will not believe that they can do any wrong. He wouldn't then and still won't discuss things about the kids with us.
Do or did your parents help with your kids? Do/did your parents hold your kids responsible with you?
That one got me thinking.
My mother and I are very close. I used to often call her for advice on my kids. At one time I had 4 teenagers in my house, my two and my two step kids.
Since the time that my son was very young he always knew that not only did he have to answer to me but to my parents also. My parents often backed me up in things and if they disagreed they would tell me privately but never in front of him.
Well, as my teenagers got older, my step kids complained that I told my mother too much. She would sometimes "lecture" them on things they had done, but she also praised them on the good things also.
So after they started complaining I didn't tell her as much that was going on with them but I still talked to her everyday just to talk to her. They didn't see it that way, they weren't happy that I was talking to her. I tried explaining and even letting them hear my conversations with her so that they would know I wasn't talking about them.
I do know that part of the problem was that their grandfather would not and still will not believe that they can do any wrong. He wouldn't then and still won't discuss things about the kids with us.
Do or did your parents help with your kids? Do/did your parents hold your kids responsible with you?
