Another silly question: How do you split the household chores?

[acejka]

DH takes out the trash, helps me vaccum the staircases since its really akward and hard to do because of our vaccum, Helps with folding our sheets and blankets since they are so big and I am so short; I do everything else.

 

[NCRedding]

Source of major contention for me.

DH and I both work full time together. He expects me to be the breadwinner at the office, and handle all of the managerial aspects of small business ownership. He takes only the cases he wants, while I have to accept everything else to keep the doors open.

At home: he does the regular laundry while I do "delicates'. With my work wardrobe, and DD's clothes, we have a lot of delicates. I probably do 1 load for every 3 he does. He will not check the pockets prior to washing, so I do that or risk ruining clothes. He will not put away clothes.

He empties the dishwasher but will not put away hand washed items.

He takes the trash and recycling cans to the street and back but will not put the trash and recycling from the house to the cans.

His major job is to make sure the recliner in the den remains in its place. He accomplished this by sitting in it for hours on end.

I do everything else in the house. Do I sound a little bitter?

 

[MichelleVW]

DH takes out the trash and mows the lawn. Everything else...me....

 

[Caradana]

DH and I joke around that in many ways, we reversed stereotypical gender roles with this one.

DH, who is physically home more than me: does all the laundry, handles all of the dry cleaning, loads and unloads the dishwasher, writes the check for and communicates with the cleaning lady and the lawn mowing guy, takes out and brings back the trash, pays the bills, runs errands, writes and mails all of our cards (he is one amazing "let us express our love for you" card writer. People cry. He is the best at that)

I: food shop, gift shop, handle long-term financial planning, keep track of and handle car maintenance, plant flowers.

I really don't pull my load but I regularly work 65 hour weeks, so he has always agreed to take on more. We've had this arrangement going a few years now. It's a little complicated because we have both a house in NJ and an apartment in NYC, so there are two households going for 2 of us, but he handles it brilliantly.

 

[cuterlt]

I'm pretty lucky in that DH does almost everything around the house. I do the bills, and occasionally cook. But he does the laundry, dishes, cleans the house, outdoors, cat and car maintenance. He also usually does the grocery shopping. I do the list.
He works 4 10 hour days, I work 6 12 hour days, so I think it works out pretty well. It took a little bit of work to get him to understand how difficult it is for me to do much with one day off. And he'd rather spend that day off together with me, instead of me doing chores.
The thing I should really mention is that he does not complain about it one bit. He does complain if I go grocery shopping with him though, because I like to go down all the aisles, since I don't go often, and see what's new. He likes to get in and out of there.

 

[PaulaSue]

guilty as charged.....

I am a SAHM with 3 in school full time. Dh works 50 plus hours a week but I go in and help out when needed.

I do 90% of the cleaning, all the shopping, all the bills, trash and 50% of the cooking. Dh is great throwing stuff together and it is heavenly. I need a reciepe and to stand over it like an OCD person for it to just be good. He helps sweep now and then and the tubs. He also feeds the cats since he is the first one up and they would eat him if he didn't.

 

[njcarita]

we are me, hubby and 3kids ds14 ,dd12 ,dd8....
I work part time and go to school part time..... husband works fulltime....

everyone is in charge of their own laundry...........

I do all the food shopping cause I love couponing....

during week kids take out garbage, put away clean dishes and keep their room clean( sort of)....

I cook on the nights I'm home.... husband cooks on nights I work ( about 3 night a week)....

Husband is in charge of mornings with kids ( breakfast and getting them off to school)....

one day a week we have a family cleaning (1-2hourswith all 5 of us)... we all do all the vaccumming... windex... mopping ....... etc etc together and get it done...

kids and hubby do the shoveling...

husband outside stuff and pool maintance, cleaning etc...

i do all finances, bills , taxes , vacation planning etc........

since I'm home more hours... I am usually the one who does the daily quick run thru putting things away in house...

dishes I handling during the week..... husband usually does on weekends....

 

[JVL1018]

I work very very part time (about 10 hours a week), my husband works full time as an accountant, plus is chief of the fire dept. so I do pretty much everything. No reason for me to wait for him to come home and vacuum when I'm home during the day and can do it.

My husband does the trash/recycling/outdoor chores like mowing the lawn/ and pitches in with loading the dishwasher and starting it. He also does all the bill paying and errands like dry cleaning or picking up take out.

If he gets out of bed last(rare) he'll make it, otherwise I do it.

He will do anything around the house if needed and asked, I just don't need or ask usually. It's a lot easier now with the kids in school full day.

When I worked full time he did the laundry 100% of the time and did the dishes every night among other things, it was more equal. If and when I go back full time, it will go back to that way, but for now, I'm home so I do it.

 

[dislaney]

I get my dh to do as much as possible and then I do the rest. Some days it works better than others!