Another Facebook annoyance....

[si-am]

I have THREE (well, I guess six) FB friends like this. It drives me crazy because I never know which half of the couple is posting, and I feel weird responding to a post of someone I don't know.

 

[krcit]

Maybe her DH can't have a facebook account due to employment or family issues.

I know people that could never post their real name on a fb account.

No, he has his own account also. Weird.

 

[golfgal]

Look in her "friends" does she have someone with the same name in there maybe? Does she have a common name and keeps getting requests from people that "think" they know her?? I have a couple friends that have accounts like this but the DH doesn't have an account and isn't really ever on Facebook. DH doesn't "do" Facebook--but he is always checking up on our friends through my account .

 

[suzannen]

My DH and I have a shared account. We basically set it up so we could see photos from family members. We don't go onto it daily, more like 3 times a week and usually while we're having a glass of wine and we'll say "oh, look at your brother's new dog" or "look at that cute photo" of kids of a friend. Anyone's page that we post to or anyone who posts on ours is either a mutual friend or family member. For more detailed conversations, we either pick up the phone or use personal emails. We recently celebrated our 20th anniversary, there's no trust issues at all, we really are an open book, and there's simply no real reason for us each to have a separate page. After a post we'll either sign it from both of us or simply put our initial so everyone knows which of us posted. So, sorry, OP, we certainly didn't do it to annoy anyone and I'm still not sure why it should bother you.

 

[krcit]

I should know better by now that no matter how silly the post someone will get offended. I guess 'annoyed' was the wrong word. Annoyed would mean that I really care about it. I was just on FB and just saw that she changed her name to include her DH who already has his own account. I think it is weird and posted about it.

 

[vettechick99]

I find it weird too. I know only the guy part of the guy-girl couple, but she's the one on there so much. So if I make a comment on a picture they've posted, I'm essentially talking to someone I don't know. It makes no sense.

 

[VAfamily1998]

I have at least 2 friends who have recently (maybe the last 2 or 3 months or so--at least that I've noticed) done that as well!

I was friends with the woman in both couples, and in the case of couple #1 had only briefly met the husband several years ago, and in the case of the other couple have never met the husband. It appears that all the postings are still from the woman in both couples.

 

[bumbershoot]

I have twins..........this is weird!

There was a set of triplets at my university that was similar. Now, I'm absolutely the worst at figuring out identical multiples, unless they really make an effort. Even though I know the info (one wears her hair short, the other has it long, etc), for some reason I can't ever remember which one does which. But I'm bad with names anyway, not a surprise that identical twins etc do that to me.

But the triplets made it extra difficult. Math majors, Softball players, all same classes, mealtimes, dorm, etc etc etc. They did not dress alike (at least by college, don't know about before), but if you just saw ONE the only way of knowing who was who was by the bangs. This was the late 80s, early 90s, and one had flat bangs, one had kind of sticking up bangs, the other had poofy bangs.

...I just don't "get" the whole facebook phenomenon. I mean its fine if that's what you want to do, but I just don't get the whole throw away all phone communication and just communicate via facebook, which is kind of like just having a website and only communicating via your website. Not that there's anything wrong with that. Its just not for me at all.

To me from what I've observed from others using it, looks like it just creates all kinds of new problems for friends and couples. Husband to wife, "who is Joe Blow and why is he posting about had a great time last weekend" Or "why is my friend ignoring me" or just all kinds of other things I see, and I just say to myself, well that's why I don't use it, plus I just don't have the time to do it.

Of course you don't get it; you don't use it.

Before FB, I communicated with people mainly by email. Before email, I wrote long letters. Phones were for use in high school. Once people get lives and husbands and children, a phone call can be intrusive, and there's always a time limit on one side b/c a husband comes home, etc. With letters, email, FB, there's no time limit that anyone notices. Communication with my friends and extended family is at a level it was never at before.

Sure, there can be problems in marriages. Sometimes I find out thoughts and feelings that hubby has by reading his FB page, and it bugs me (though I'm glad to find out the thoughts and feelings), but he's bad at communicating in those ways anyway! (almost put "IRL" ha ha) FB didn't create that problem. And at least I can read his page; if he kept a journal for those (usually schmoopy and sweet) feelings, I wouldn't snoop in there, so I'd never know!

 

[bumbershoot]

Oh, my wonder... Maybe she has someone trying to get back in touch with her, that she doesn't want around, so she wants to put her hubby's name in there, to really bring home the reality that she is "taken"?

 

[irishbosoxfan]

I have one like this on mine as well. She won't let him have his own. She doesn't trust him. He cheated on her about 6 years ago and she reminds him of it everyday. I asked her why she stuck around if she obviously couldn't get past it. She has no good answer.

She says that by not allowing him to have his own and having to be on hers lets everyone know he's on a short leash.

I couldn't live that like--I feel so bad for him having to have that thrown into his face constantly in front of whoever is standing within earshot.

 

[emer95]

I think it's weird!
I have a friend at work, we'll call her Sue. One day I got a friend request from Sue N Bob Smith (for example). I friended her, but it turns out it's really her creepy husband. I met him ONCE and I got a very strange vibe from him! She told me that she never goes on it, and he included her on the account so that "ladies won't try to solicit him on FB."

I'd like to unfriend him but I'm afraid it will somehow offend her, and I really do like her. What a conundrum!

 

[arielsleepingbeauty]

I have one with both mine and my daughter's name. She is 11, but has friends on here. I like to know what is going on. I don't post anything that I wouldn't want the whole world to know. In fact, I hardly post at all because frankly I don't think people care if I just left the gym, made a pot roast, or if my kids got straight A's.
I imagine that if someone REALLY wants to know if it is her or me posting, they would either IM or message me.