Both of above. I can't imagine being in a situation where I'd be asked out on a date and not know some basics about a person. That basically, they are choosing to date me because of looks only, and me them.
I am an artist, very right brained, non-linear, multi-tasker type, into 3-D thinking, thinking out of the box to design and create something new. My favorite people to be with are other creatives, where we can talk for hours about creating something, share ways of thinking that are new, exciting, different and that we have a passion about.
I know myself well enough to know I'd never be happy with say, an accountant type. A left-brained, linear, one step at a time, non-creative person who only thinks in empirical terms. Someone who looks at a work of art and the first (and only) thing he asks is, "How long did it take to make it and what are you charging? So, you are basically making $XX amount of dollars per hour?" And totally misses the ARTISTRY, the CREATIVITY put into taking an IDEA and trying to create it into concrete, physical form in this reality, and sometimes that takes longer to actualize than an object or idea that is already in existence.
I cannot and will not spend time trying to explain what creating is about to a DATE who simply cannot see that, nor understand that, and never will. BTDT, not interested. I can't imagine even spending time on a date with someone who thinks and speaks in binary zero or one terms, when my life, language, and creativity is about the 2, 3, 7, 9, 11, 13, 17, 19, etc. in life.
I don't think that at all; just the opposite actually. But then again, maybe I'm idealizing how easy it was in the "olden days". One thing I do remember for sure is that all the men I met were in places that at least implied we had some common interests (work, church, sports teams, volunteering, etc.) or we had mutual acquaintances who could give some background.
Hey, want to get together? 
