Originally posted by Eeyore1954
I don't understand why you get upset because of the choices you make. The place you live, the things you buy or don't buy, the extras you decide to have (pets, cable), and your employment situation are all things within your control. Your income is also within your control ... there are higher-paying jobs available, maybe not in your immediate area, but there is the option to relocate to another state in order to work for more money. Your DBF has made a choice that obviously limits your discretionary income. From what you've posted it appears that the situation you find yourself in is one of your own creation/choice.
If you want more discretionary income for travel, then you have to make some difficult choices, such as, giving up some things in your current situation (pets, cable, etc.) OR find a higher paying job, which may require you to relocate.
If one chooses to remain where they are and not make any changes, then one shouldn't complain about not being able to afford deluxe travel.