Annoyed at and hurt by my inlaws

[GoofyPrincess]

Not justifying their behavior at all, but one thing I noticed is that our news (in the Mid West) completely under-reported the hurricanes. My sister lives in Naples and got hit hard, but all of our news stories talk about how everythig is fine in Florida. Huh?! I just got off the phone with my sister (after not being able to reach her for 48 hours ) and everything is NOT fine!!

Maybe they had similar reporting where they are and didn't realize how bad things are - I know my neighbors were all shocked when I described how devistated some areas are.

 

[Stitchfans]

I am so sorry. I can totally relate to what you are saying. I have the exact situation. Don't care one bit about us, not even DD. Who can figure?

 

[cristbaby]

I'm really sorry you had to deal with uncaring in-laws on top of no power because of the hurrican. I can relate though. I have been married for 32 years and my in-laws have never treated me as part of the family. I was always very civil because of my children. Once they grew up and got married that was where it stopped. I no longer go out of my way to do anything for them and don't miss all those hurtful years. I do feel very bad for my husband though. They don't realize how much they have hurt him. I hope you can resolve this issue and move on.

 

[jfulcer]

They can kiss my Country Style Butt!

Lol! Country Style as opposed to Urban Style?

 

[Zandy595]

I know how you feel.

We also live in south FL. The eye of the hurricane came right through our town. We weren't even finished getting our house ready for the storm when DH's parents called to ask if he had put their shutters up yet. They just had a house built for an investment and plan to sell it in a few weeks. They live in another state. I would have thought that they would put their son's and grandson's life (I'm not including myself because I know the house would come first) ahead of a house they will never even live in, but I guess not. DH got fed up with all the phone calls from them and drove almost 30 minutes (one way) to spend hours putting up their shutters by himself.

Immediately after the storm they wanted him to go up and see how the house made it through. Now I'm not talking about a couple days, but a couple hours. We didn't have power, our trees had fallen over, there were downed power lines everywhere, and local authorities were telling people to stay off the roads, but he had to drive to the next county to find out if the house was OK. When he got up there he got the car stuck in flood water and didn't think he'd be able to get out. He finally did get out though.

It just amazes me how selfish some people can be.

 

[lvs_eeyore]

We finally heard from my inlaws late last night. If possible dh and I are more disgusted than we were before. They called us last night to tell us they were in town, complained about the little bit of damage they had, didnt even ask to talk to their grandchildren, basically in a round about way told us not to ask to stay with them....they mentioned the parking problems.....we werent going to ask anyway, and informed us that they would NOT be meeting us at church this monring because my MIL doesnt feel like getting up early! My kids desperately want to see their grandparents and it seems they just dont care! Thankfully dh was the one to answer the phone last night and handled it a lot better than I would have. He was very matter of fact with them and figures they know we are not happy with their actions. Oh and NOW they ask if their is anything they can help us with. Like DUH if WE cant get it THEY cant get it here either! The time to ask that was when they were still up north and could get what we need. Oh well we now see how they really are and we know where we stand with them. Its been a learning experience thats for sure.

 

[Sleepy]

I know how that feels. While my husband was on a deployment, the area my son and I lived was hit with a hurricane. My in-laws never once called. We lived on the coast. They lived 4 hours inland. Their answer was that they got hit just as hard and that I should have cared enough to call them! I should have known. Never in the 15 year history of my marriage have they EVER called my house when my husband was on a deployment. Why should I think they would care during a hurricane?