Angry Mom Vent!

[Biscuitsmom31]

My daughters, basically good kids, have made me very angry. I'm typing now while I decide how to react to the situation. If I don't cool down I'm going to blow up on them. They are both 8 years old. They kept getting up and playing around after I told them to go to bed. So, I told them to get in bed, go to sleep, and no more running around. So anyway, I'm headed for bed myself and I walk past their room and their (new) bed has a HUGE wet spot in the middle of it. I asked them what happened and they said they had both PEED in it. Both of them, wide awake, decided to pee in the middle of their bed and then use the excuse that I told them to stop getting up.

What on earth am I going to do with them?

 

[momrek06]

I would strip the bed of those sheets and then make them make it up themselves or sleep on top of the mattress with no sheets. I can absolutely see why you are so angry. It is late to begin with, they are fooling around and not doing as they are told...but whatever gave them the idea to PEE in THEIR beds? Especially, where this is a NEW bed for THEM!! They must have been pretty mad at you to begin with to come up with that idea...but you need to calm down and everyone needs to get to bed now and tomorrow you need to have some rules about bedtime!!!

to you Biscuit!! You have certainly had a night!!!

 

[Cool-Beans]

Burn them at the stake! Get me on your jury, you'll get off.

Kids, can't live with them, can't tell the judge they weren't really yours.

 

[Luv'sTink]

Oh My Gosh! I don't know what you should do with them.

I think I would take the bed out of the room and make them sleep in sleeping bags on the floor and tell them if they dont value things that are given to them any more than that then they don't need them. It really is a hard one!

 

[Stacerita]

I would let them strip the bed and teach them how to wash the sheets. Then let them make up a new bed. At 8 they are old enough to know whats a good reason to be out of bed and whats not. They were just being bad. Since they both want to be up this late and goof around, I would also think about giving them another laundry type chore to do and scrub the toliet. Well the toliet scrubbing is mostly because I hate scrubbing the toliet. You can substitue any chore you like.

Good think you aren't reacting right away and blowing up at them. They need to hear what they did was wrong and not acceptable. Not just hear you yell and be angry.

 

[mimif1]

Yep, mine would be stripping the bed and washing the sheets. Then they would be scrubbing the mattress to get as much wee out as they could. And since the bed wouldn't be dry, they would be sleeping on the floor. If the bed still smelled in the morning, we'd repeat this process! There would be loss of priveledges also (computer loss is the worst for them!). Also, there would be no sleepovers for the rest of the summer as they are no longer potty trained! I feel for you! Let us know what you came up with.

 

[daisyduck123]

I'm too in shock to come up with an answer.
Eight-year olds deliberately peeing in their bed?

 

[cinmell]

Also, there would be no sleepovers for the rest of the summer as they are no longer potty trained! I feel for you! Let us know what you came up with.

Good one! Perhaps take that thougth a little further. For example, if you are not old enough to go to the bathroom on your own then you are not old enough for the computer, video games or any other favorite activities.

 

[indigoxtreme]

I would do all of the above. Change linens themselves, wash matress, restrictions from the things that are age appropriate.

 

[CEDmom]

I'd definitely have them strip the bed wash everything and remake it. As a side note I'd tell them what time they need to be in their room at night and as long as they aren't noisy not bother making them go to sleep (how can you really do that anyway). Of course, I'd get them up in the morning and if they're tired they'll learn pretty quick not to be staying up so late.

 

[Mermaid02]

What did you do? I might have made them sleep on the floor in sleeping bags since the bed was wet. Since they did this maliciously (in my opinion) I would make them wash the sheets and make the bed- TWICE for practice.

 

[ohiominnie]

My daughters, basically good kids, have made me very angry. I'm typing now while I decide how to react to the situation. If I don't cool down I'm going to blow up on them. They are both 8 years old. They kept getting up and playing around after I told them to go to bed. So, I told them to get in bed, go to sleep, and no more running around. So anyway, I'm headed for bed myself and I walk past their room and their (new) bed has a HUGE wet spot in the middle of it. I asked them what happened and they said they had both PEED in it. Both of them, wide awake, decided to pee in the middle of their bed and then use the excuse that I told them to stop getting up.

What on earth am I going to do with them?

OUCH. EIGHT? My ds did this when he was 3. I sent him to his room and told him he could not get out until I gave him permission to get out. He was only in there about 5 minutes when I went to check on him and talk to him (5 minutes being an ETERNITY for a 3 yr old) He had pee dripping down his leg and a wet spot on the carpet. He gave the same reasoning your dd's did "you told me not to come out of my room."

But at 3, that's different. It wasn't willfull disobedience at that age. Just a farily newly potty trained kid who couldn't wait any longer.

I know it's the next morning now, but I'd definitely have gone with the kids stripping the sheets and washing them on their own. And I think that there would be other unrelated punishments......like the loss of TV or computers.....instead they can help you clean house. Also I think I'd pack in a lot of exercise time (bikes, roller blades, swimming, etc) so that at bedtime they are too tired to even THINK about goofing off.

 

[annegal]

So are they lying in wet underwear? Or did they take off their panties and stand in bed in pee? I'm just fascinated how a little girl would do this. A boy, I can see doing it, well not really, just visualizing "the act".

 

[arminnie]

Ultimate punishment - tell their friends. no i'm really not advocating that but it might make a good threat.

 

[lucyanna girl]

Ultimate punishment - tell their friends. no i'm really not advocating that but it might make a good threat.

I thought the same thing. Not to really do it but the idea would absolutly kill most kids.

Penny

 

[minkydog]

Yep, mine would be stripping the bed and washing the sheets. Then they would be scrubbing the mattress to get as much wee out as they could. And since the bed wouldn't be dry, they would be sleeping on the floor. If the bed still smelled in the morning, we'd repeat this process! There would be loss of priveledges also (computer loss is the worst for them!). Also, there would be no sleepovers for the rest of the summer as they are no longer potty trained! I feel for you! Let us know what you came up with.

I'm still in shock that 2 8yo kids would do this--this is a very defiant act. I agree with mimi--huge loss of privileges,plus laundry chores. I would not make them wear a diaper, as one poster suggested, but I would not allow any "big girl" privileges and both kids would have early bedtime until school starts(3wks here). I would also expect a written note of apology from each girl--require that they sit down and write, and nothing fun happens until it's done. And if the apology is not acceptable("I'm sorry I peed on the bed because you wouldn't let me come out" is not an apology ) they do it over again.

You are in a power struggle, my dear. Good luck. You have to win this one.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

All is I can say, they would be hating life right now here....
I would suspended all parties, playdates, etc...
Take away toys and they would clean everyday, until I see they are really sorry for what they have done. But at least 1 week, for sure.

Welcome to bathroom cleaning 101.
Not too mention they will learn how to do laundry, make beds, and lots of dishes.

In fact my 15yodd can clean pretty well....it is one of my best punishments.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Wow!!!
I agree with a lot of the ideas posted.

As many of you here on the DIS know, I can sometimes play the devil's advocate. And, at the risk of being 'flamed', I want to throw out a few other thoughts.

In situations like this, I think it is important for the parents to step back and take a look at how their actions and attitudes are contributing to the problem. I am thinking that maybe there are some other things going on? First, the one poster who mentioned 'control issues'... Bingo!!! Secondly, I am thinking that there may be other bedtime issues. Now, don't get me wrong here, I shared beds with my siblings when I was little... But, if at all possible, if bedtime/sleeping is a problem, I think it would be best if each of the girls had their own bed. (am I reading correctly that they have (one) bed?) Or, perhaps there is some other reason that the girls do not like the new bed, and they thought that if they had an excuse to ruin it, then they might get another?

 

[Biscuitsmom31]

They have a day bed with a roll out trundle. They both peed on the day bed. I agree that it's a power-struggle. I made them clean it up and my DH promised them they would be working all day today. I also like the idea of taking the bed away and making them sleep in the floor but we don't really have anywhere to put the bed...

 

[barkley]

boy howdy i'de be hopping mad! i'de likely be instituting the pre potty trained lifestyle with them-going up to them every 30 minutes and making them go into the bathroom WITH ME WATCHING and sit down on the toilet to 'try and make tinkle', no consideration of sleep-overs or the like until we've had at least a month of 'successful no-accidents days and nights'-pull out that old tired copy of 'once upon a potty' and replace it for their chosen video viewing pleasures, when they've successfully 'gone potty' announce in a loud voice (for dad and any other family around to hear) 'big girl-you made poo-poos, did you remember to wipe?"

but then i'm a 'mean mom' (or so the kids sometimes tell me)-my son (then age 8) started smart mouthing me such at one point that i asked him 'would you talk to your teacher that way'-he said 'no', so i told him i was temporarily resigning my position as 'mom' and reclassifying myself as 'teacher'-made him call me 'mrs. x' and would'nt answer to mom, made him raise his hand to ask questions, had to have permission to go to the bathroom...it actualy worked out pretty well.

good luck-update us and let us know what you decide on.

'mommies united will never be defeated!'