yeartolate said:
Poohandwendy, thank you for your insight.
But it makes me wonder why your sister's kids were taken out of her custody and Andrea Yate's children were not.Andrea Yates entered the mental health system a multitude of times, but what was the barrier that prevented the protection of her kids? Even the most proprosecution slanted timelines really make me wonder why she was ever allowed alone with her kids....even for a second.
Thanks for asking, you bring up a very important point.
The only reason my sister is/was not raising her children is because her DH left her in a psychiatric ward, literally took the kids and moved out of state (actually back here, they were living in Alexandria, Va at the time). I give him credit for making that decision, it was the right one. (as painful as it was for everyone involved) Even my sister eventually agreed that it was the right thing to do because she simply could not care for them in any sense.
However, he waited until she was severely ill for a long enough time that HE couldn't handle it an longer and she was alone with the kids while he worked, up until he left. She had no resources in the area and very, very bad things could have happened. (remember, they were all under 5 at the time, including infant twins) I also want to express that our side of the family knew she was religiously preoccupied at the time (we were all in Pgh and she was in Va), but had no idea of the extent of her illness until I went down and brought her home. If we had, we would have tried to get the kids out of there. Not sure how much we could have even done, to be honest. But, my BIL was in his own denial and kept telling us she was 'fine', up until the day he showed up here with bags packed and kids in tow.
My neices and nephews are now 19, 17 and 15/15. Forunately, she has really great relationships with them, in spite of the fact that she did not raise them, all that happened during the divorce and her hospitalizations/her illness.
There are very few 'barriers' within the system to protect the children. Unless there is a threat made or someone calls in CPS due to gross neglect or something, the children are left in the home with sometimes a SEVERELY ill person. Or, unless the family members realize they need to take over.
The sad truth is that there are children being left alone with severely mentally ill people every day.