And don't call me sweetie

[wvjules]

I hate when servers refer to you as honey, sweetie, darlin, etc. I had one at lunch today and I wanted to slap her. (It probably didn't help that I was on a 45 minute hold with the IRS. )

But in all seriousness, why do they do that? I know I can't be the only one that hates it. It's not endearing, its annoying!

 

[Help Please!]

Drives my mom crazy, too! lol! Doesn't bother me, down here in the south I think it's just a friendly term.

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

My aunt does it to be condescending. So we find snarky "endearing" terms to respond to her with (her son and I).

 

[ols386]

Doesn't bother me if they call me honey or sweetie.

I know it does bother some folks, but for some reason, not me.

 

[Acklander]

They don't mean anything bad by it, so I accept as a friendly greeting. I save my outrage for comments people make that are intended to hurt or put others down in any way.

 

[KMarston]

I'm not a server but I use to nurse. I call everyone honey or sweetheart or some variation! I didn't realize it would offend anyone! Being from the south its bot unusual. I don't however like dear! I have a friend who was raised in Jersey and she does it to be condescending!

 

[Laura66]

Doesn't bother me at all!

 

[NY Disney fan]

It bothers me when a person younger than me calls me sweetie. It does not bother me when an older person calls me that.

 

[wvjules]

Never said that they meant anything bad by it. However, it still annoys me. Stick with Sir or Ma'am. No need to be all cutesy with me. I'm a customer.

And yes, I'm aware I'm well on my way to being a crotchety old lady.

 

[acourtwdw]

I'd rather be called sweetie than ma'am. That makes me feel old and I'm only 43.

 

[TheAviator]

For servers its a knee jerk reaction for some to be "overly nice." Others I think its just an annoying habit people get into, but I agree its like nails on a chalk board for me too. Now if its a hot girl that I'm really attracted to, then I can deal with it. But in the other situation

A gas station I go to lady calls everyone sweetie, and another I see calls everyone baby, like 5 times in one sentence, which is a bit much. Ok baby, not a problem baby, ok baby see you next time baby. OK I got it after the first baby.

But I do like it when Sacha Baron Cohen does the Dictator and calls girls sugar _______ that's pretty funny.

 

[wvjules]

It bothers me when a person younger than me calls me sweetie. It does not bother me when an older person calls me that.

Maybe that's what annoyed me. She was much younger. I also don't mind when an older server calls me sweetie, darlin, etc either.

My mom calls servers sweetie, darlin, dear, etc. It drives me insane too! lol

 

[KimR]

I don't like it either but I do think it is a Southern thing. One thing I find very ironic about southerners is that the same people who insist their children call them "ma'am" and "sir" often think nothing of calling strangers 'sweetie', or 'darling'. And I don't mean that in a disparaging way because I live in the south....I just think it's funny.

 

[aprilgail2]

I'd rather be called sweetie than ma'am. That makes me feel old and I'm only 43.

I agree---hey I would rather be called sweetie, honey or even idiot over being Ma'am'd LOL--that is the ultimate insult!

 

[GeorgeG]

It usually doesn't bother me unless it's excessive. My first mother-in-law was way excessive with use use of endearments.

One young waitress at a place we often have breakfast at always greets me with a "good morning, Sunshine"! It's sort of a running joke because she knows I'm not a morning person. It's a small place and we're all friendly.

 

[katy621]

They don't mean anything bad by it, so I accept as a friendly greeting. I save my outrage for comments people make that are intended to hurt or put others down in any way.

My parents were born & raised in the midwest, so I'm pretty used to hearing hon, sweetie, etc... I also agree with what Acklander said.

 

[North of Mouse]

I hate when servers refer to you as honey, sweetie, darlin, etc. I had one at lunch today and I wanted to slap her. (It probably didn't help that I was on a 45 minute hold with the IRS. )

But in all seriousness, why do they do that? I know I can't be the only one that hates it. It's not endearing, its annoying!

Don't come down south then. It's a way of life here, and we all love it! Ma'm & Sir is too!

 

[snapppyd]

I swear I was going to post this exact thread the other day. Then I said to myself "the Dis (among others) will call me a cranky old lady"! It does irritate me a little when someone much younger call me sweetie. But then again, a few years ago "Mam" bothered me because it made me feel old maybe we should all wear nametags

 

[chobie]

I swear I was going to post this exact thread the other day. Then I said to myself "the Dis (among others) will call me a cranky old lady"! It does irritate me a little when someone much younger call me sweetie. But then again, a few years ago "Mam" bothered me because it made me feel old maybe we should all wear nametags

Yes, I would much rather be called sweetie then ma'am.

 

[keypooh90]

It doesn't bother me, but it intrigues me. I'm 22 but look much much younger (like early teens). I'm also a seasonal cast member at Epcot. The thing that is funny to me is when I am not working, I get called "honey, miss, sweetie, darling, princess) and even get asked if I need kid"s menus when working out, but when I'm in costume it's "ma'm, mrs.,)