An open letter to teenagers who rolled their eyes at me in the line at the Subway

[Freyja]

Wow, I didn't get the feeling she was saying that. I think her life is normal and, OP, that was very well put!

Teenagers and elderly parents... BTDT. It is a difficult time of life.

I agree!

 

[Christine]

Apparently, I do not deserve the Captain Obvious title, because it is not obvious to me why the OP is being attacked. I'm going to assume prior history and move on, I guess. Sorry you had a bad day yesterday, OP, and I hope the rest of the week is better for you.

I *think* there might be some history on one of the parenting threads going on a few days ago.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I *think* there might be some history on one of the parenting threads going on a few days ago.

Not with me there wasn't.

 

[cardaway]

Apparently, I do not deserve the Captain Obvious title, because it is not obvious to me why the OP is being attacked. I'm going to assume prior history and move on, I guess. Sorry you had a bad day yesterday, OP, and I hope the rest of the week is better for you.

No prior issues here either. As for what started it downhill, that would be the snide CO comment and the others she made like it.

I have one last thing I want to say.

Given what the OP described I think some simple eye rolling was acceptable. There were no words exchanged. Nothing (according to the OP) beyond some simple eye rolling. People can expect others to have no negative reaction at all, but it's not a realistic expectation IMO.

IMO it is realistic to expect others to keep their reactions to things as simple as rolling their eyes and moving on.

 

[MzDiz]

Man, what the hell is going on here lately. From someone that didn't read these other threads all the way through, it looks like a couple of you are being *really* nasty.
Breathe, people!
If I've got to ignore posts about how Suzy and Perla are someone's mommy, you can ignore someone's rant, right?

 

[chobie]

I *think* there might be some history on one of the parenting threads going on a few days ago.

There is no history with me. I thought what she said about not assuming things about people was lovely advice and I just wanted to politely and gently point out that I hope she will practice what she preaches.

 

[chobie]

Man, what the hell is going on here lately. From someone that didn't read these other threads all the way through, it looks like a couple of you are being *really* nasty.
Breathe, people!
If I've got to ignore posts about how Suzy and Perla are someone's mommy, you can ignore someone's rant, right?

Yes, I agree. The OP calling people "Captain Obvious" and saying that I "must be one of those parents " was really nasty.

 

[ZuZugal]

I'm making it sound worse than it is. Really I was just reflecting on teenagers. After getting yelled at by them in traffic the other day and then this, I was just wondering if they really do know what it's like to be an adult with a couple dozen layers of responsibility.

The simple answer to that is "no, they don't".

I am not sticking up for the teens, nor am I bashing the OP. The funny thing about being an adult and having to handle difficult adult situations is YOU MUST FIRST BE AN ADULT HANDLING DIFFICULT SITUATIONS. There is no other way to get life experiences but to experience them. When I was a teen I had NO CLUE whatsoever what it was like to be an adult. Now that I am an adult, I really have no knowledge of what it is like to be a teen in today's world.

this does not give the teens the right to be disrespectful....at all. The teens could have given the OP the benefit of the doubt and been a little more patient. Also, the OP could have done things a little differently too, although it sounds like she was just too harried to pull herself together at the moment. We've ALL had those moments.

To the OP....take a deep breath, focus on something positive, and try to have a better day tomorrow. Our time is only what we make of it.

 

[offwegotoneverland]

Does anyone but me find the Op having a moment where being in the "sandwhich generation" is to much in a sandwhich (essentially) shop kinda funny in a weird way?

OP sorry your were having a rough day..much better to vent here than in the sub shop really!

 

[Nancy]

Roll eyes...Sorry, I'm not a teenager, but your post still made me roll my eyes. All I hear is blah, blah,blah. Did it really bother you that much that it was worth such a drama filled post?

Right back at cha. Did it make you feel better to do that? Was your response to her post really needed?

And maybe it did bother her, and maybe her posting it made her feel better, so what? What it hurting you?

To the OP

 

[grlpwrd]

For a happy Disney board, this is one of the meanest places on the planet... Some of you people need hobbies.

I didn't think this turn into a M.I.D. hatefest.... Hugs to you, M.I.D! You have a lot on your plate right now...

 

[brerrabbit]

To the OP, I get it completely. I am a 47 year old only child with a "crazy" Mother in a nursing home that I will not be able to pay for completely in two months if the VA does not come through with benifits for her married to a DW of 24 years as of yesterday who has a worthless brother who is 45 and still lives at home with my MIL who is quickly loosing her mind. I do three tax returns a year, deal with three sets of bills a month, and still have a full time job, sing in a Choir, bowl in a league, am VP of a High School Band Booster Club, work in the Pit Crew for all football games and at all Marching competitions, with a son in college to pay for and a daughter who is a junior and only two years from college. I have too little sleep, too little time, too little money, too much work, and an over active mind that thinks about it all way to much of the time. I can sympathize with your situation completely.

However, I remember a time when there was no such thing as cell phones. I loved those times. I could go to lunch and concentrate on lunch. I could go to the grocery store and not have to be run over by grocery carts being pushed by people not paying attention because they were on their cell phones. I could drive down the road and not be slowed down by the car doing 30 MPH in a 55MPH zone because they are dialing their phone. Heck I could even enjoy a nice quiet meal with my wife without having to listen to other dinners shouting into cell phones. I survived 30 years of my life and did everything I needed to do without cell phones as did everybody else in this world. However today in order to complicate our lives even more we have cell phones and it seems that the prevailing rules of society dictate that we have them set to their loudest ring tone so they can interupt church, school, meetings, intimate gatherings, choir concerts, and any other gathering where they are most inappropriate. Calls from people we see and talk to every day of our lives suddenly take precidence over everything else in life. Answering the phone is suddenly more important than talking with a person face to face. We can be rude crude and generally socially unacceptable and expect to be excused from any and all situations because our phone rings. My phone (and yes dispite it all it serves a purpose) is carried in my pocket on vibrate. I will never answer it if I am talking to real live in my face person. I will not answer it in any form of meeting, or gathering while listening to or watching a presentation. I can literally give you thousands of examples of rude behavior related to cell phones, but will not do so here. I would merely like to point out to every cell phone user in the world that one of their many, many extrodinary features include in virtually every phone sold today is voice mail. Use it and lets be a little more kinder and gentiler nation because of it.

In otherwords yes the teenagers certainly have no idea of lifes many pressures, I agree and should not be rolling their eyes at you. But if I wind up in line behind you and roll my eyes, please understand I know how tough life is. I'm not rolling them because of your problems but because one of them, the ringing cell phone is a very simple one to solve.

 

[Poppinsme]

A good Subway story.
This is the 1 year anni. of Hurricane Katrina today. After the storm passed and I made my way back on that tues. morning from Baton Rouge nothing of course was open. We had damage like everybody else and no power for 2 weeks etc. Anyway, the first place to open ergo fast food was a Subway. Not McDonalds or B. King or Popeyes or Wendys, just Subway. After making my way back from hauling water for my horses I saw that wonderful sight. It was a 1 hour wait to get to the counter and when I got there all they had was white bread. Didnt matter. Best sandwich I ever had and it was hot. The teenager behind the counter making the sandwiches was exhausted but still very nice asking everyone how they were. Many people cryed that day in that line at Subway because it was the first thing of normal we had seen in awhile.
To the OP I understand completly. We here in New Orleans have learned if anything great patience. Waiting in line now for 2 hours or more is a normal thing. Peace.

 

[missj1975]

I do? Everytime I make a mistake in my life, I'm to expect comments from the peanut gallery? Because they are perfect?

Really. If I go out into public I realize I have to accept what people dish at me. But whatever happened to: patience, manners, decorum, and a host of other non-existant qualities? I see strangers make mistakes, and just plain act the fool, on a daily basis. But I do not point it out to them; what's the point of that?

Love the quote, you are so right!!!

 

[Snowysmom]

To the OP: I completely understand what you are saying. It is tough to be taking care of our kids, our parents, and our home life. My father is 88 and in a nursing home. I also have 2 boys, one a teen, one a young adult college student. We all have days when it seems to be too much. I hope things get better for you soon. Take care.

 

[TDC Nala]

for the whole thread.

 

[Miss Inga Depointe]

There is no history with me. I thought what she said about not assuming things about people was lovely advice and I just wanted to politely and gently point out that I hope she will practice what she preaches.

Sorry, but of all the weirdo things that this thread brought out, , I guess I'm sorry I brought up the whole thing and feel a little silly, but you, dear, are the one that has put me over the edge and made me want to take a little break from this board, so congratulations, you win.

Apparently no one can have any difference of opinion or criticism of anything to do with parents or you go ballistic. Grow up.


I really don't know what your problem is, and frankly don't care.

 

[chobie]

Sorry, but of all the weirdo things that this thread brought out, , I guess I'm sorry I brought up the whole thing and feel a little silly, but you, dear, are the one that has put me over the edge and made me want to take a little break from this board, so congratulations, you win.

I really don't know what your problem is, and frankly don't care.

Great YAGE!

 

[cardaway]

Even more drama.

 

[chobie]

Sorry, but of all the weirdo things that this thread brought out, , I guess I'm sorry I brought up the whole thing and feel a little silly, but you, dear, are the one that has put me over the edge and made me want to take a little break from this board, so congratulations, you win.

Apparently no one can have any difference of opinion or criticism of anything to do with parents or you go ballistic. Grow up.


I really don't know what your problem is, and frankly don't care.

Sorry I posted before you added the last line. Again, try taking your own advice, Captain Obvious.