An old high-school boyfriend sent me a friend request...

[Conservative Hippie]

....and I did ask DH if he was comfortable with me accepting it. (I have a lot of male friends on FB, mostly people we are both friends with, but no ex-boyfriends until this one.) So, I accepted and started looking over what he is up to. I sort of knew he had graduated from college, gone back for a master's, and gotten married from some mutual friends I keep up with. Turns out he married a girl with same name as me (spelled different), she kinda looks like me, and she likes a lot of the same things as I do. I guess I was his type and he stuck with it!

 

[Disneyland1084]

How ironic!

 

[bigredbill]

I guess he knows what he likes.

About six months ago, I received a friend request from an old girlfriend. Took me a couple days, but decided to accept it -- our relationship was over 15 years ago. I received a message from her shortly afterward, she had seen my pics and commented on what a nice family I have now. She then asked to meet me later that week for a "hook-up". I have learned my lesson -- sometimes the past is better left in the past.

 

[kaleighmariesmom]

I guess he knows what he likes.

About six months ago, I received a friend request from an old girlfriend. Took me a couple days, but decided to accept it -- our relationship was over 15 years ago. I received a message from her shortly afterward, she had seen my pics and commented on what a nice family I have now. She then asked to meet me later that week for a "hook-up". I have learned my lesson -- sometimes the past is better left in the past.

sounds like an episode of Modern Family! the same EXACT thing happened!

 

[sweet angel]

I have several ex-boyfriends as Facebook friends, and my husband has several ex-girlfriends on his. It's never presented a problem for us.

 

[CharliNye]

I have several ex-boyfriends as Facebook friends, and my husband has several ex-girlfriends on his. It's never presented a problem for us.

Yup, this.

In fact the guy I was with for a year, who I broke up with right before I dated my husband, is still one of my best friends and we see him and his fiancee every so often and I talk to him often.

I'm still friends with a lot of my ex's. It's just how I am. Unless it was a mean breakup and not just a matter of growing apart/not compatible romantically I find that it's kind of nice to just still have them as friends.

I don't get people getting weirded out over long ago ex's on fb. That's part of what FB is about, getting in touch with old friends etc.

 

[Avery&Todd]

I found an ex from HS on FB - and he didnt have many pics under his profile, but I looked through his "friends" to see if I knew any of his FB friends since we dated in HS...

but I found his wife...

who looks JUST LIKE ME.....

and they have 2 boys...just like DH and I do..

I know I'd never friend him and he'd never friend me....I was dating this guy when I met DH - and I dumped him for DH....and he *hated* me afterwards...(you remember all that HS drama that used to be sooooo important?? )

but on the bright side, DH and I have been married just over 18 years!!

 

[Erin1700]

I found my old college boyfriend on fb but did not friend him. We were close to getting engaged and had talked a lot about thee future. I was completely weirded out by the fact that he is married and has 2 kids. Both kids are named the names we picked out for our future children. While you might think, so what, he liked the names, the daughters name is the name I liked spelled in a weird way just like I wanted. (I did not name my own DD that).

 

[Princess Dolly]

Oh man! I bet he is still secretly pining away for you with his wife having ALL of those similarities. I am sure there can be no other explanation! I would be careful being friends with him on Facebook. Who needs all that drama?

 

[duffy]

Oh man! I bet he is still secretly pining away for you with his wife having ALL of those similarities. I am sure there can be no other explanation! I would be careful being friends with him on Facebook. Who needs all that drama?

 

[DeaverTex]

I've friended two old girlfriends, one of whom was a fairly serious, long-term item when I was in college. (I sent both requests.) Neither one posts that much, but one of them -- not the long-term one -- actually named her son the name that I once jokingly told her she should name her first-born. Geeze!

She's as active in scouting in her area as Mrs. Tex and I are where we live, and we've all met up a couple of times. Mrs. Tex has NOTHING to worry about. And neither do either of my exes' husbands. I know when I've got it good.

 

[superme80]

My rule is: If I dated you, had serious feelings for you, or fooled around with you, we will not be facebook friends. I know I am happy, but it makes my DH breath a little easier that I refuse to reopen that chapter in my life.

 

[scrapquitler]

I don't get people getting weirded out over long ago ex's on fb. That's part of what FB is about, getting in touch with old friends etc.

I agree. The whole thing about asking the spouse if it's okay to accept a friend request from a high school boyfriend seems so weird to me. High school was more than 25 years ago. I've been married to DH for more than 20 years, I don't think he's too worried that getting a few FB messages from a boyfriend from when I was 16 is going to jeopardize our marriage. And even IF an old boyfriend was one of my FB friends and asked me to hook up, I'd tell my DH about it, and we'd probably have a big laugh over it.

 

[violetrose]

My rule is: If I dated you, had serious feelings for you, or fooled around with you, we will not be facebook friends. I know I am happy, but it makes my DH breath a little easier that I refuse to reopen that chapter in my life.

Amen to that! Any romantic entanglement is best left in the past.

 

[Goofyluver]

Oh man! I bet he is still secretly pining away for you with his wife having ALL of those similarities. I am sure there can be no other explanation! I would be careful being friends with him on Facebook. Who needs all that drama?

I think lots of people are having a bit of a flashback to HS on this thread.

 

[meandthemouse]

hmmm I wouldn't do it but that's just me. My ex went absolutely insane after I dumped him. He used to show up unannounced at my job, wait for me after class, call my parents house a million times, show up at my parents house unexpectedly and demand to see me (why did we not call the police?!?) and he even waited behind at school on the day of my prom with a bunch of his loser friends and wanted to kick my new boyfriends a LOL like he really could do that? please. I have now been with my new boyfriend for almost 7 years and couldn't be happier he makes my life so much better than I ever expected and saved me from the torture that was my ex. I am actually embarassed to say this kid was ever my ex at all. My two cents, even if you ex was a good person I think it's weird to friend them because I bet they want something. Or just to spy because they want to see how you are living without them.

 

[KristaTX]

but one of them -- not the long-term one -- actually named her son the name that I once jokingly told her she should name her first-born. Geeze!

That's an unusual name .

 

[krcit]

I agree. The whole thing about asking the spouse if it's okay to accept a friend request from a high school boyfriend seems so weird to me. High school was more than 25 years ago. I've been married to DH for more than 20 years, I don't think he's too worried that getting a few FB messages from a boyfriend from when I was 16 is going to jeopardize our marriage. And even IF an old boyfriend was one of my FB friends and asked me to hook up, I'd tell my DH about it, and we'd probably have a big laugh over it.

 

[lizabu]

If you don't add him how are you supposed to see how fat and bald he got? DH's around the world should encourage their wives to add exes. When I see some of the bullets I dodged I'm pretty happy with my DH

 

[Riverhill]

If you don't add him how are you supposed to see how fat and bald he got? DH's around the world should encourage their wives to add exes. When I see some of the bullets I dodged I'm pretty happy with my DH

I couldn't agree more!!!!! When I see what I could have had I thank my lucky stars that I have my DH. He has never looked more attractive then when I compared him to the alternatives. I am a lucky woman.