Amanda & Eric 03/03/10- WP/WHP/Sago Cay Centerpiece Ideas!

[Jazzylolo]

Hello from Rhode Island! I love the golf theme reception. Eric is going to love all of that. The invitations are cute but if you use that language I will judge you a little bit Where is that Il Mulino restaurant?

 

[Pirate's Princess]

Congrats on choosing the escape! 2:30 sounds awesome. I want an early ceremony so my whole day is the wedding day! Instead all that time to prep and get nervous.

All the golf stuff looks super cute! And I'm loving the purple. I'm veering towards purple now, but I can't do lilacs...DF is SUPER allergic. I love calla lillies and orchids more anyway but I do love that lilac smell!

And PS I never realized you were from Rochester...or if I did, I forgot. I went to UR my freshman year of college.

 

[DisneyMissy]

Haha that wording is too funny, definitely a little overboard though! I love everything!

 

[MainStMandy]

The first limo came at 1:30. The second at 2pm. Ceremony form 2:30-2:45 ish. Staged exit etc for pics. Cake cutting, toast, and first dance. Then everyone hung out on the tables, mingled, and we all ate cake.

While they still did that at about 3:45pm ish we went with Misty all around the Boardwalk til 4:45pm. The guests knew to go to the limo to be brought to GF for dinner. Since it was the Boardwalk, we figured even if they were all done eating cake etc there is so much to see on the BW they could entertain themsleves while we took pics. With such a small informal wedding of 15 guests we didn't feel we had to keep everyone "entertained" every second and we got many compliments on our wedding, how much fun it was, how pretty, and relaxing. We then hopped in the 5pm limo and went to the Grand, had a few more pics and that was it. It worked out perfectly.

I highly reccomend that you make sur eyou take the time to go around the BW with your photog. We got soo many great pics.

I know I still owe you pics. I promise I will get to them this weekend

Thank you for that. It was very helpful. I had the same though too...there is enough to do at the Boardwalk that if there is time to kill there is plenty to keep them occupied!!

I think i'm going to talk to DF about chaing the time to 2:30 but we'll see.

I love the golf themed reception! The cakes are adorable and the invitation verse is hilariouse! Loving everything!

I am sure you can work your magic on him lol. Men just need some reasoning some times...once I explained to DF why 5 doesn't work he came around.

Hello from Rhode Island! I love the golf theme reception. Eric is going to love all of that. The invitations are cute but if you use that language I will judge you a little bit Where is that Il Mulino restaurant?

Aawww I miss you!! But I love that you are on the dis
And don't worry....I won't use that verse!!

Il Mulino is at the Swan...or Dolphin, lol. Somewhere over there. DF found Shulas and liked that too. He really wants steak for our wedding dinner I am not crazy about the menu being on Footballs though...

Congrats on choosing the escape! 2:30 sounds awesome. I want an early ceremony so my whole day is the wedding day! Instead all that time to prep and get nervous.

All the golf stuff looks super cute! And I'm loving the purple. I'm veering towards purple now, but I can't do lilacs...DF is SUPER allergic. I love calla lillies and orchids more anyway but I do love that lilac smell!

And PS I never realized you were from Rochester...or if I did, I forgot. I went to UR my freshman year of college.

I am super excited...now if we could only sign the contract!

Oh UR is like 2 minutes from my parents house!!

Haha that wording is too funny, definitely a little overboard though! I love everything!

Lol I agree!!

 

[Jazzylolo]

Aawww I miss you!! But I love that you are on the dis
And don't worry....I won't use that verse!!

Il Mulino is at the Swan...or Dolphin, lol. Somewhere over there. DF found Shulas and liked that too. He really wants steak for our wedding dinner I am not crazy about the menu being on Footballs though...

I miss you too! It feels like it has been a while since I've seen you with how busy we both have been. This is a very relaxing vacation. Just hanging around the house we rented, going for amazing walks along the coast line. It is going to be amazing

Ok...menus on footballs...don't know about that. There isn't another place with steak?

 

[dhay]

I have eaten at both Il Mulino and bluezoo. Personally I like bluezoo better, but they both are terrific. Il Mulino seemed louder to me but if you are in a private room I gues it would not matter. I looove the modern atmosphere at bluezoo and the food us yummy. I think I had gnocchi at Il Mulino and I remember it being delicious.

Either way you can't go wrong with the food.

 

[DisneyMissy]

Another place to look at for steak is the Yachtsman Steakhouse over at the Yacht Club. The pictures look really nice...I have a thing for restuarants that use real table cloths so it caught my eye...haha. I looked at Shula's and thought "A football theme, that's cool...I love football" then I realized, it's not football themed, it's Miami Dolphins themed. I am a huge Patriots fan, so I wouldn't so much as step foot in there!!

 

[MainStMandy]

I have eaten at both Il Mulino and bluezoo. Personally I like bluezoo better, but they both are terrific. Il Mulino seemed louder to me but if you are in a private room I gues it would not matter. I looove the modern atmosphere at bluezoo and the food us yummy. I think I had gnocchi at Il Mulino and I remember it being delicious.

Either way you can't go wrong with the food.

Thank you!! I loved the look of Blue Zoo but the problem is the number of people we have. Apparently it's like a $1200 minimum...which isn't bad but that is PER room and each room only holds 15 people...we have 17. I just can't rationalize spending another $1200 on 2 people. Il Mulino looks great but not sure about it. I am thinking we might try it on our vacation. Thanks for the reviews.

Another place to look at for steak is the Yachtsman Steakhouse over at the Yacht Club. The pictures look really nice...I have a thing for restuarants that use real table cloths so it caught my eye...haha. I looked at Shula's and thought "A football theme, that's cool...I love football" then I realized, it's not football themed, it's Miami Dolphins themed. I am a huge Patriots fan, so I wouldn't so much as step foot in there!!

Lol ya I left that out when Eric looked at it...he's a HUGE Jets fan. I have been to Yachstman once and I remember it being good.

I guess the problem we are having is that Eric would like something a bit private. A lot of the private spaces are just not in our budget. We are going to have to comprimise somewhere.


I'm also having a dilema with something. I am really excited with the plans so far but my mom keeps bringing up throwing me a shower. I defintely don't want to be rude and turn it down BUT...I don't know what's tacky and what's not, being that this is my second marriage. What is proper ettiquette? What am I supposed to do or not supposed to do since this is my second time. My dad keeps making snide little comments about my previous marriage...like when we were moving in our apartment he said things like, didn't you have that BEFORE??? I don't want to be tacky or offend people.

HELP!

 

[dhay]

Thank you!! I loved the look of Blue Zoo but the problem is the number of people we have. Apparently it's like a $1200 minimum...which isn't bad but that is PER room and each room only holds 15 people...we have 17. I just can't rationalize spending another $1200 on 2 people. Il Mulino looks great but not sure about it. I am thinking we might try it on our vacation. Thanks for the reviews.



Lol ya I left that out when Eric looked at it...he's a HUGE Jets fan. I have been to Yachstman once and I remember it being good.

I guess the problem we are having is that Eric would like something a bit private. A lot of the private spaces are just not in our budget. We are going to have to comprimise somewhere.


I'm also having a dilema with something. I am really excited with the plans so far but my mom keeps bringing up throwing me a shower. I defintely don't want to be rude and turn it down BUT...I don't know what's tacky and what's not, being that this is my second marriage. What is proper ettiquette? What am I supposed to do or not supposed to do since this is my second time. My dad keeps making snide little comments about my previous marriage...like when we were moving in our apartment he said things like, didn't you have that BEFORE??? I don't want to be tacky or offend people.

HELP!

I know this is your second wedding but if it is the person you love I think you can absolutely do the shower and everything. You should be able to have fun and celebrate your upcoming marriage with all the traditional wedding activities. Maybe add a comment to the bottom of the shower invite of "your presence is gift enough" so people don't think you are tyring to be gift grabby (I am not insinuating you are- just trying to cover all your bases).

 

[DisneyMissy]

I agree, if your mom wants to throw you a shower, let her! It doesn't matter that it is your second marriage...it is your first to Eric and he's the man you want to spend the rest of your life with, so you should celebrate that!

 

[DisneyDmbNut]

We have a Shula's here in Miami Lakes and the food is awesome! I have never been to the one in Disney, but the last time I went to Yachtmans Steakhouse, our group was very disappointed. It seems the service has slacked since our previous trips.

I hear Flying Fish is suppose to be excellent..maybe try there.

As far and the shower..

When it comes to bridal shower etiquette for second marriages you will find some differing answers. Quite a few websites and books will say that bridal showers should not be held for second marriages, and these are the older and more conservative viewpoints. However, today people are more open when it comes to showers and quite a few couples working on their second marriages have showers to celebrate. It is completely okay for couples to have as many showers as they want as long as their friends and family members are willing to host them. It is not acceptable for a bride to hold a wedding shower for herself, but if her friends, co-workers, or family members offer to host a shower in her honor then it is completely acceptable.

If a bridal shower is held then the hosts should have bridal shower favors out for the guests. This is just like any other shower regardless of how many times the bride and groom have been married before. As a result the shower should be held just like any other. There is one thing that should be kept in mind, however, and that is the guest list. Only individuals who are very close to the couple should be invited. Others who are not very close to the couple may be offended to receive an invitation so simply host a small and more private shower than you might if it were for a first marriage.

I was always told that it is poor edict for the mother of the bride to hold the shower...Not sure about that..

 

[MainStMandy]

I know this is your second wedding but if it is the person you love I think you can absolutely do the shower and everything. You should be able to have fun and celebrate your upcoming marriage with all the traditional wedding activities. Maybe add a comment to the bottom of the shower invite of "your presence is gift enough" so people don't think you are tyring to be gift grabby (I am not insinuating you are- just trying to cover all your bases).

Thank you! That is where I am torn. I know that everything about this is RIGHT. Eric is definitely the person I have been looking for and am 150% sure that this is what I want and what will work. But without going into a lot of detail to my guests, I am just not sure, lol.

Part of me doesn't want the shower because we don't need anything, so I like the idea of your presence is gift enough. We have breifly talked about registering for the honeymoon at Disney

I just don't want to offend anyone...and I don't want Eric to miss out on anything just because this is my second (AND LAST) wedding, ya know?

 

[MainStMandy]

I agree, if your mom wants to throw you a shower, let her! It doesn't matter that it is your second marriage...it is your first to Eric and he's the man you want to spend the rest of your life with, so you should celebrate that!

Thank you!! That is my thought too, but I'm just worried about offending my family. We have had enough drama in the last year or so!

We have a Shula's here in Miami Lakes and the food is awesome! I have never been to the one in Disney, but the last time I went to Yachtmans Steakhouse, our group was very disappointed. It seems the service has slacked since our previous trips.

I hear Flying Fish is suppose to be excellent..maybe try there.

As far and the shower..


I was always told that it is poor edict for the mother of the bride to hold the shower...Not sure about that..

Thanks for the info on Shula's!!! And i've never heard that about the MoB NOT throwing the shower...hmmm.

 

[DisneyDmbNut]

My mother was always Miss Manners and I remember once asking why she wasn't going to throw my sister a shower..she said that the MOB should not hold the shower..I don't know why, it just stuck with me for some reason.

As a MOH, I have held showers as I thought that was part of my job...I also organized one for a friend who had family members that lived out of town and didn't have many friends in town..it was a virtual shower..haha

 

[polynesianbride]

I'm glad someone else has encore bride anxiety like me If you want to have a shower and your mom wants to throw you one I say go for it! If you're worried people are going to get their panties all in a bunch just don't call it a "shower". You could call it a "bridal tea" and have it be like a brunch or turn it into a fun little cocktail party in the evening. So it's something that celebrates your upcoming marriage but doesn't have to be the traditional "shower".

 

[NCRedding]

Emily Post, Amy Vanderbilt, Miss Manners: All etiquette books indicate that showers should not be thrown by members of either the bride or groom's family. The sole exception to this would be family members who are also members of the bridal party, when given with other members of the bridal party who aren't family members.

Of course, in general, these days, most rules of etiquette are being thrown out the window, for a variety of reasons.

 

[Jazzylolo]

Ok MOH here ...time for some etiquette I learned during my wedding! MOH throws the shower, not the MOB. My mom thought the same thing. She thought it would be at her house and she would handle it but then my MOH (who is totally miss etiquette) told her that she is not suppose to do it. It is one of the MOH responsibilities So, I am more than happy to throw you a shower and your mom is more than welcome to help me with it but it is in no way her responsibility. The shower doesn't happen usually until at least a couple months before the wedding so we are talking December or January or even later so we have plenty of time. Also, it is in no way tacky! We can do fun things like have everyone bring you a recipe to share with you instead of a present. There are other things people can give you besides household things. We had a ton of stuff already when we got married but we registered for things that were beyond necessities. Things we would buy if we had a little extra money running around

I would love to throw you a shower is basically what the paragraph is saying. Your mom is welcome to help but she can't do the whole thing. That would be bad etiquette on my part! Maybe the two of us can throw it together but I refuse to let her pay for it all or take on that responsibility alone. It would make me feel like the worst MOH ever!

 

[MainStMandy]

I'm glad someone else has encore bride anxiety like me If you want to have a shower and your mom wants to throw you one I say go for it! If you're worried people are going to get their panties all in a bunch just don't call it a "shower". You could call it a "bridal tea" and have it be like a brunch or turn it into a fun little cocktail party in the evening. So it's something that celebrates your upcoming marriage but doesn't have to be the traditional "shower".

I know I shouldn't be worried about what everyone things...just don't want anymore drama! I like your ideas though!! Thanks...and I am glad to hear someone else is going through the same thing.

Ok MOH here ...time for some etiquette I learned during my wedding! MOH throws the shower, not the MOB. My mom thought the same thing. She thought it would be at her house and she would handle it but then my MOH (who is totally miss etiquette) told her that she is not suppose to do it. It is one of the MOH responsibilities So, I am more than happy to throw you a shower and your mom is more than welcome to help me with it but it is in no way her responsibility. The shower doesn't happen usually until at least a couple months before the wedding so we are talking December or January or even later so we have plenty of time. Also, it is in no way tacky! We can do fun things like have everyone bring you a recipe to share with you instead of a present. There are other things people can give you besides household things. We had a ton of stuff already when we got married but we registered for things that were beyond necessities. Things we would buy if we had a little extra money running around

I would love to throw you a shower is basically what the paragraph is saying. Your mom is welcome to help but she can't do the whole thing. That would be bad etiquette on my part! Maybe the two of us can throw it together but I refuse to let her pay for it all or take on that responsibility alone. It would make me feel like the worst MOH ever!

THANK YOU!!! You are seriously the bet Moh EVER

I like your ideas too...I guess I just didn't want a traditional shower where everyone sits around staring at me opening gifts I don't need. No presents...I do like your recipe idea. And we just got back from La-Tea-Da and I mentioned to my mom that it would be a cute place for a bridal brunch...no presents

 

[Shyvioletisme]

And i've never heard that about the MoB NOT throwing the shower...hmmm.

I wouldn't worry if she wants to throw it...I've known MANY brides whose mother threw their shower and never heard any negative comments about it...even so, who cares??? It isn't their wedding. ....Sorry the whole idea of "Wedding Etiquette" bothers me, I feel like people should just mind their own business and let everyone do their wedding how they want...I mean really their isn't a right or wrong way to do it.

 

[Jazzylolo]

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THANK YOU!!! You are seriously the bet Moh EVER

I like your ideas too...I guess I just didn't want a traditional shower where everyone sits around staring at me opening gifts I don't need. No presents...I do like your recipe idea. And we just got back from La-Tea-Da and I mentioned to my mom that it would be a cute place for a bridal brunch...no presents

Awwww thanks

I was thinking of the same thing actually. I heard of someone who had bridal shower there and she liked it a lot. Tara did a brunch at Mario's that was AMAZING! Don't know how much it is though but it was a lot of fun and very pretty. I'm sure there are plenty of choices in Rochester. I will look around and see what there is. This could be fun