- Feb 3, 2008
These are all great thanks for the tips! and HECK YES -- my cats come for love at the end of the day and I just can't even. It's very hard some days as my DH is gone for 11 hours a day and my one year old is super super clingy, nothing like my three year old. We get through though. I will be going back to work beginning of September so I'm trying to enjoy these next two weeks as I'm both excited for this new opportunity and feeling the mom guilt.Oh my gosh, I remember that! I'm an introvert too, and when DS was little, I would feel soooo "touched out" sometimes. (Poor DH!) But I would get to a point where I didn't even want the cat within six feet of me.
Just recognize that feeling and arrange a few minutes - that's all it takes if those few minutes don't get interrupted. (That's the key!) Let your DH reconnect with them for a bit while you sneak off to your room for a quick break, maybe trade playtime with another mom once in a while, or put on an occasional guilt-free video.
It's also good to have a few spur of the moment activities in your "mommy bag of tricks" that make the kids feel like they have all your attention, but make you feel like you have some personal space:
* Have a photo shoot or make a video - puts the camera between you and them.
* Ask them to sing for you - on a little "stage" a few feet in front of your "audience" spot.
* Get outside - where they can run around and you can connect with the fresh air and breathe.
* Build blanket forts (w/ chairs, sofa cushions, etc.) - kids love that you made something for them, but then happily ignore you while they play in them.
And remember - this time is going by faster than it feels like! Mine is about to head off to college, and every hug is precious now.
I take up LOTS of space!