After Prom Parties

[Saphire]

Just wondering what your kids will be doing (or what you did) after your senior prom. Seniors around our area have lots of different kinds of plans. It is always a bit difficult as a parent.

 

[EthansMom]

When I was growing up, it was pretty common to go out for a bite to eat at a late-night diner. One year, we had a post-Prom ice cream social at one of my friend's homes.

That's the kind of thing I'd like to do for my kids when they get older... offer them and their friends a safe place to "hang". It'd be worth missing a little sleep due to the loud music and teens in the basement to know that DH and I could check to make sure that no drug use/alcohol consumption/wild orgies were going on.

 

[DawnCt1]

One family, a nurse and a former police officer in Portland, Ct. decided to host an "after prom" party. They didn't provide the alcohol but they knew that the guests would "sneak" it in so they confiscated all of the keys. Their theory? "Kids will drink so we will make sure they don't drive". However, maybe there are guests attending the party whose parents don't want them to drink. It didn't matter much anyway, because the police didn't want them to drink. The party was busted. Many tables and tents were found in the back yard with plenty of "adult beverages" and the parents, (if you can call them parents) were fined $500. It is unfortunate that the party attendees took up a collection to help them pay the fine. They should have dug into their own pockets, all by themselves.

 

[SamRoc]

My dd's senior prom is in NYC so alot of the kids are going to a comedy club there afterwards. My dd and the other couples in her limo aren't sure what they are doing yet (the prom is in 2 weeks) They are just talking about going home, and the next morning going to the beach and water park.

 

[Acklander]

The after prom party here is a big beach party with a huge bonfire, live band, and other activities. In the morning the parents show up at the beach with all the makings for a big breakfast, the parents then cook it up for all the kids and we all eat while watching the sun rise together. After this everyone heads home. The band/activities are paid for by student funds raised through out the year. I'm sure there is some drinking going on during the party (at least there was when I graduated) but since none of the kids are driving (dropped off by various limos the night before, and picked up by parents in the AM) it's not really an issue. It's a tradition that's been going on for years and years. I've seen references to the " Annual Graduation Beach Party" in a newspaper from the 1940's. It's a right of passage around here.

 

[luvdzny]

DD and her boyfriend and 2 other couples spent the night at our house. They all crashed on the living room floor and we made them breakfast the next morning. Now I will go put my flame suit on 'cuz I am sure that some people with have problems with this.

 

[Acklander]

DD and her boyfriend and 2 other couples spent the night at our house. They all crashed on the living room floor and we made them breakfast the next morning. Now I will go put my flame suit on 'cuz I am sure that some people with have problems with this.

OMG!!!!!! You made them breakfast?!?!?!?!?!?!!!!! Glad you have your flame suit on

 

[pumba]

my granddaughter went to her senior prom last Saturday evening.....they had photos before they went out to a restaurant.....6 couples.....and then they went to the prom...at midnight they all changed from their formal attire and had snacks and games at one of their homes......8 people stayed at the home of one of the girls and they had a blast .....the parents were home and they made sure there was plenty of food and fun for all.....kids fell asleep around three or so and they woke up at 9 am and went to a local restaurant for breakfast......they had a good time .....

 

[Beth76]

and the parents, (if you can call them parents) were fined $500. It is unfortunate that the party attendees took up a collection to help them pay the fine. They should have dug into their own pockets, all by themselves.

Dawn, I find it highly amusing that you think the parents should pay the fine instead of the kids, yet you chased down "guests" of your son's and forced them to clean your house.

 

[DisGirlAllie]

Dawn, I find it highly amusing that you think the parents should pay the fine instead of the kids, yet you chased down "guests" of your son's and forced them to clean your house.

link please.

 

[DawnCt1]

Dawn, I find it highly amusing that you think the parents should pay the fine instead of the kids, yet you chased down "guests" of your son's and forced them to clean your house.

Are you kidding??!!! The parents KNEW and ALLOWED their teenage guests to bring alcohol to their home and they not only looked the oher way but they encouraged the drinking by taking the keys with a wink and nod. I chased down the guests because I certainly didn't want kids who snuck booze into my home when we weren't there to leave after they had been drinking. By having them clean up, it was a way to observe their sobriety and for me to call their parents. It was a "consequence" not a quid pro quo. Since that episode and the drama of me chasing teens back into the house, we have not had underage drinkers at our home since. Lesson learned!!! The parents should pay the fine because they knowingly allowed an alcohol party and looked the other way deliberately.

 

[mickyzzzzz05]

Our community hosts an "after-prom" party for the students. The students have to have a contract signed by a parent to attend and on the contract the parent can select to be notified when their child leaves the party or not to be notified. Once the student leaves they are not allowed back in.

In the past there has been a hyponotist for entertainment along with Kareoke. They are able to play various types of games and can win fake money. They get fake money for singing at the Kareoke too.

The evening winds up with an auction where they use their fake money to purchase prizes. Tv's, DVDs, small ref, fans, gift cert. There are also door prizes offered through the evening so everyone goes home with something. Most of them stay around for the auction for a chance to get the prizes. They head out the door about 5 am and some go to breakfast.

Over 80% of the students attending prom attend this party. There is no charge to the students. It was started by a local women's group and now the volunteers are parents of the junior and senior class. The entire cost of food, entertainment and prizes is covered by donations from the community and many supportive area businesses.

This was started to provide the prom attendees an alternative to after prom parties and has been going for over 20 years now.

 

[DawnCt1]

link please.

There won't be a link but DH and I were out one evening and I called home. DS#4 was home. I heard some voices in the background and suspected that there was a party. We told him that we would be very late and surprised him 20 minutes later entertaining a housefull of teens. They attempted to flee the house, like rats from a sinking ship and I herded them back in, made sure they were sober and called all of their parents to let them know that there was drinking going on at my house, unbeknownst to us. We made them ALL clean up, dump out the beer, etc. I chased one car down the street in my gown in the rain. Sometimes you have to break a few eggs to make an omelet. It was the talk of the high school the next day but we haven't had drinking guests at our home since. The kids were prepared to be thrown out, not thrown back in and have their parents called.

 

[pumba]

granddaughters school does this graduation night........they have the busses ready to pick them up one hour after graduation excercises are finished and they go someplace within the state and it goes on until 8 am and they are wisked back to the high school where they are fed a big breakfast by the junior class officiers and the staff of the school......

 

[DisGirlAllie]

There won't be a link but DH and I were out one evening and I called home. DS#4 was home. I heard some voices in the background and suspected that there was a party. We told him that we would be very late and surprised him 20 minutes later entertaining a housefull of teens. They attempted to flee the house, like rats from a sinking ship and I herded them back in, made sure they were sober and called all of their parents to let them know that there was drinking going on at my house, unbeknownst to us. We made them ALL clean up, dump out the beer, etc. I chased one car down the street in my gown in the rain. Sometimes you have to break a few eggs to make an omelet. It was the talk of the high school the next day but we haven't had drinking guests at our home since. The kids were prepared to be thrown out, not thrown back in and have their parents called.

Good job Dawn!

 

[aprilgail2]

A lot of the kids here rent houses at the beach ( a group goes in on it together) and go there for the weekend after the prom. Back when I was in school you rented a limo, went to the prom then drove around NYC for a few hours (some went and spent the night on the beach instead). Came home, went to six flags for the day then came home and slept for the next 24 hours!

 

[mmcguire]

I went to prom with my best friend's brother, and their mom cooked a very elegant early "breakfast" for a group of us -- there were about 4 couples total. We didn't stay overnight, but we all met there after the prom, ate, talked, and then the boys drove the girls home. We all got to stay out really late and hang out with people we liked, but all in a safe environment.

 

[Desnik]

After my prom our group of friends went to about 3 different clubs in NYC. We had the limo for the night. It was 4 couples and then we spent the night at a hotel.

 

[DawnCt1]

Good job Dawn!

I have to say, I got flamed here for that one. One would think that I couldn't clean my own house. I can clean my house faster than anyone I know. It wasn't about having a clean house. It was about making a lasting impression that anyone underage who drinks in my house will remember. It also served to humiliate DS#4, who so richly deserved to be brought down a few pegs. When I tell you it was the talk of the school, that is NOT an exageration. Teachers commented on it; rather positively I might add.

 

[Desnik]

The after prom party here is a big beach party with a huge bonfire, live band, and other activities. In the morning the parents show up at the beach with all the makings for a big breakfast, the parents then cook it up for all the kids and we all eat while watching the sun rise together. After this everyone heads home. The band/activities are paid for by student funds raised through out the year. I'm sure there is some drinking going on during the party (at least there was when I graduated) but since none of the kids are driving (dropped off by various limos the night before, and picked up by parents in the AM) it's not really an issue. It's a tradition that's been going on for years and years. I've seen references to the " Annual Graduation Beach Party" in a newspaper from the 1940's. It's a right of passage around here.

I think this is great! I would've loved that my senior year!!