advice on seperation/divorce??UPDATED LAST PAGE

[slinky101]

sorry nat only just noticed your question, our house was in negative equity at the time so we really couldnt sell as there was nothing to split, I kept the house and paid the mortgage, as the mortgage was in my ex name only I had another mortgage to buy him out but, we agreed that i would get a mortgage for what we owed the building society and pay them off so no one made anything it just sort of changed hands, if you follow! my ex got a flat with a housing association and he is still there now, and I am still in the old family home.
this probably doesnt help with your situation but thats what we did.
take care......

 

[natalielongstaff]

thanks for the reply clair

 

[Netty]

Nat sending you

 

[Clare D]

Hi Natalie
I am very sorry to hear your news. My advice would be book an appointment to see a number of solicitors as some offer the first hour free and this way you could get some of your questions answered.

Before I had Joe I was a Financial and Mortgage Adviser so if you want to PM me any questions relating to your mortgage please do not hesitate to do so. I still keep a hand in as I still work for the same firm.

Sending you all at this difficult time
Clare

 

[fizz13]

Hi Nat,
Haven't been around much lately but wanted to reply in some way to your post. Looks like you have been getting lots of support and good advice from round here and not sure what I can add. I know your post touched a nerve with me, as me and Dh have been going backards and forewards the last couple of years over whether we should be together or not and I really think our holiday in August (without the kids) will be the decider, maybe yours will be for you too.
Just wanted to say that I think you are incredibly brave to have made the decision, braver than me anyway, and that you seem to be doing really well thinking about the kids. Must be hard keeping it together some days but you're doing great.
We're here when you need us as you know and please feel free to vent, gossip etc. as the need arises
wishing you all the luck in the world,
Claire xx

 

[alisonbestford]

When I was 14 ( ) I had a patch on my jeans that said 'Today is the First Day of the rest of your life'.

In no way do I want to make light of the difficult situation you are in but I do tend to reflect on the message when things are difficult

Only you, and DH (and the kids, probably ) know what's the right way to go for you but loads of hugs and Pixie dust to help you on your way

What a lovely offer from Claire
Good luck

 

[natalielongstaff]

clare d i have PM'd you

 

[sharon78]

Sorry to hear this Nat

All the very best to you and your family,whilst you go through this difficult time.

 

[natalielongstaff]

DH and I have decided to give things another try.....we had some long chats on our holiday and we have decided to give ourselves six months to try and work things out.
its obviously early days but so far we are both trying to make more of an effort in the relationship

 

[florida sun]

Thats great news Nat, good luck and best wishes to the both of you

 

[KayleeUK]

Great news Nat...wish you all the best.

 

[cannp123165]

I hope everything goes well for your both

Caroline

 

[Funniebunny]

That is some good news. I really do wish you both well

 

[ely3857]

That's wonderfull news, this way you eliminate any doubts either of you may have before it's too late



Jodie

 

[gilld]

Wishing you both luck.

 

[wideeyes]

Hope things work out for you both. Best of luck.

 

[TracyK]

Good luck to you both

Tracy

 

[Nubbedy]

Good luck - hope everything works out well for all of you.

Sara.

 

[Jules224]

That is great news, i really hope you manage to work things out.

 

[Lizzy Lemon]

Good luck, its great that you are trying to sort things out. Should be in the marriage ceremony to love, honour and talk.