I was diagnosed with reflux about 6 years ago.
I had the whole barium swallow/endoscopy thing....which determined that I had an esophageal erosion.
They put me on Prevacid, then Protonix. Once I was healed, I was able to eat foods by trial and error. What I found was that I could have a glass of wine, if I didn't have any other trigger foods that day. But, too many trigger foods in one day and I was a mess.
I weaned myself off of the meds, and now take generic OTC famotidine 20 mg, probably every other day or so.
I still cough a lot at night.
I drink coffee but I shouldn't. I don't do soda anymore. Even tea/iced tea gives me issues. Red wine is a killer. Peanut butter, red sauce, onions, spicy food....all bad for me.
One thing that has helped tremendously is regular exercise. I started doing Zumba twice a week about a year and a half ago, and I feel better than I ever have.
Another poster mentioned almonds- YES! I also do this! Chew them until they are a paste. Then swallow. Also, papaya. That is supposed to help too!