Acceptable $ gift for friend/neighbor's 2nd wedding

[ems_mom]

I live in the mid-Atlantic area and weddings are expensive. The bride (my neighbor; I attended her first wedding), gave an on line link to the venue. They give a price minimum of mid-70's to 100,000+ per 100 guests. (not including music, flowers, transportation, etc.)

What should my wedding $ gift should be? I want to be generous but finances are particularly tight right now. (Including, but not because, we have a WDW vacation coming up in October!)

 

[ShesAPirate]

Wait, am I reading this right? $70,000 to $100,000 per 100 guests?! If so, that is outrageous. And I am a NYC native currently living in Northern NJ, so expensive weddings are not foreign to me. If that's the price, the couple is clearly not thinking they're going to make the money back (unless all their friends and family are millionaires). Just give what you feel comfortable giving.

 

[ems_mom]

All right, mid life brain freeze has taken hold... I looked back at the e-vite information and the location is $70-$100+ per person. (of course, not on the traditional mailed invitasion.)

So what is acceptable as a wedding gift? 100? 150? or 200? (for 2 people)

 

[golfgal]

The value of your gift should not be reflected in what the bride and groom choose to spend on a wedding, especially a second wedding. For second weddings I often give a nice picture frame or maybe a gift certificate to a nice restaurant. The whole purpose of wedding gifts is to help a new couple start outfitting their home. When a couple already has a home and all that 'stuff' the gifts should reflect that. If they want to spend $100,000 on a second wedding, by all means, do so but I would hope they are mature enough to realize that gifts should in no way reflect that.

 

[ShesAPirate]

I looked back at the e-vite information and the location is $70-$100+ per person. (of course, not on the traditional mailed invitasion.)

So what is acceptable as a wedding gift? 100? 150? or 200? (for 2 people)

Okay, that's MUCH better than $70,000 - 100,000 Either way, I would give 150 or 200 for 2 people. I'd give more if they were really close friends.

 

[wvjules]

What if it is his first and her second? Do you take the amount you'd give for a first wedding, add it to the amount you'd give for a second wedding and split the difference?

I don't understand what difference it makes if it is her second or first wedding? If it were her 8th then yea...

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Since you say neighbor and not close friend, I would give $100.

 

[mjkacmom]

$200.