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[froglady]

Ah, the plot thickens. In this circumstance, I would have warned my child that many people (because of the newspaper article) might be questioning the legitimacy of her illness, and armed her with a response.

"If anyone says anything, Honey, let them know that you WERE sick but felt much, much, better after your nebulizer treatment." As long as it's the truth, no one should question it further. As mentioned, we've all been in circumstances where a single treatment has made us feel 100% better, and ready to tackle life again.

Had you or your daughter responded to the teacher in the above way, then perhaps HE might have felt embarrassed at jumping to conclusions.

 

[JulyGirl]

You guys were so BUSTED! It totally reminds me of Ferris Buhler. We busted our teacher once BIG TIME. He called in sick and we had a sub. The "Phantom Menace" Star Wars movie was being released at that time. Well, my mom and I happened to be watching the news and who should pop up on camera? Mr. Bradley! He stood in line all day to be at the midnight showing. He never lived that one down.

 

[WIcruizer]

I wonder why teachers and schools "think" they can tell you how to raise your child. Its YOUR child and you can do what you feel is right .. and its no ones business except yours.

It scares me how many people think like this. Do whatever you want, and it's nobodies business. That really is pathetic. Teachers have every right to have rules in place- especially at a private school. So if I let my son where a t shirt that says "f *** you" it's not the teachers business. If I decide science isn't important, there should be no reason my little Susie should have to do science homework.

That is a slippery slope that leads to chaos within a school setting.

 

[froglady]

I think it was uncalled for..... I wonder why teachers and schools "think" they can tell you how to raise your child. Its YOUR child and you can do what you feel is right .. and its no ones business except yours. I would probably tell that to the teacher. I wouldnt go to the principal unless the teacher continued to make a big deal. Teachers are there to teach, love and nurture...not to make rude, condasending(sp?) remarks to little kids. I'd be a little more ticked than you seem to be.

That may be a generational thing. My parents expected my teachers to teach, and to be polite about it, as long as I was polite and willing to learn. If I wasn't, I would hear about it both in school and at home. I don't think ANY teachers loved me, nor did anyone expect them to. Nuturing was my parent's responsibility; if I did have a nuturing teacher it was wonderful, but I never expected it.

 

[CookieGVB]

Tinkbell,

So, you feel it was perfectly OK for the teacher to make these personal comments in front of others?

I do. I'm sure most of her class thought the same thing when they saw her picture in the paper the next day, as well.

It's kind of hypocritical to think that the student stops being a student when she leaves the school grounds and can do what she wants, but the teacher always remains a teacher and always has to answer to the principal for remarks made after school hours. I'm thinking the student is always a student if the teacher is always a teacher - wouldn't you agree?

OP and her DD got busted, plain and simple.

I'm quite sure the teacher isn't going to dog her heels about this for the rest of her life, but at least now the DD knows the possibility that you may get caught in a lie and called on it. Pretty valuable lesson taught by the teacher, IMHO.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

You guys were so BUSTED!

yeah,

but it'd be alot funnier if the Teacher took the News Article and Picture and posted it on the Class Bulletin Board.

 

[mickeyfan2]

Sorry I agree with the teacher. If you kid was too sick to stay in school, they she was contagious and should have not been out in public. Oksana is not a good enough reason.

 

[disykat]

.not to make rude, condasending(sp?) remarks to little kids. .

I seriously must have missed something. Did I miss where she said what the teacher said?

 

[Wishing on a star]

My DD's private school also lets the kids know that just because they are out of school, they still represent the "community" of the school and their actions could reflect on the school. They are told to always be mindful of their behavior because they just never know when the headmaster, coaches or teachers will run into them or see them in their outside life.

This kid made the paper because she was in line at a promotial event to meet an accomplished athlete...
Not being arrested for some 'unbecoming' behavior that would reflect on the school!!!!

Geez, people, just where are the lines here!!!

 

[poohandwendy]

I wonder why teachers and schools "think" they can tell you how to raise your child. Its YOUR child and you can do what you feel is right .. and its no ones business except yours.

LOL, when it comes to school attendance, it absolutely is the schools business. They aren't telling you how to raise your child, but they do have the right to question a questionable absence. This was definitely a questionable absence. One that I am sure could have easily been handled by explaining the situation to the teacher. That would be the OPs responsibility.

 

[Wishing on a star]

You know, this whole thread has really gone nuts.

NOBODY here has suggested that the OP mention this any further, or take any further action regarding the teacher. Nobody at all!!!

But, just because some posters feel that the teachers comments may have been 'questionable'...

HOW DARE WE!!!!

 

[Anewman]

I really do agree with both sides here, because both sides are right.

I am the parent of two, and I can CHOOSE to take them out of school for whatever reason I CHOOSE.

And I understand that those actions WILL AFFECT my kids grades and may incur other consiquences, like detention or a lecture. All of which is my fault.

 

[MinnieM3]

I still think the OP was wrong to take her out of school for being SO sick and then let her go to the skating rink.

An option for the OP I think would have been, go see DD at school, have temp. taken, give her her nebulizer treatment in the nurse's office (we have kids do this all the time at my school), have DD lie down for a while, and then consult with DD about how she feels and whether or not she feels like she can hang in there the rest of the day (MISSING is WHAT TIME the OP took her home), reminding her that it's Oksana Day at the rink and that she'll have to miss it if she's so sick that she must miss school. Then let DD make up her mind about how she feels. Doesn't sound like she was horribly ill. Then maybe DD would have chosen to stay in school, get her work done, go get her autograph and do to bed. If she was still sick, she could recoup at home the next day. More honest approach.

Quoting myself here because I think I had a good alternative action the OP and DD could have taken and I still want to know when the DD went home. I feel so invisible!

 

[poohandwendy]

You know, this whole thread has really gone nuts.

NOBODY here has suggested that the OP mention this any further, or take any further action regarding the teacher. Nobody at all!!!

But, just because some posters feel that the teachers comments may have been 'questionable'...

HOW DARE WE!!!!

What exactly were the teachers comments? I must have missed them, were they ever mentioned?

 

[Planogirl]

Quoting myself here because I think I had a good alternative action the OP and DD could have taken and I still want to know when the DD went home. I feel so invisible!

My comments are being ignored too, don't feel bad.

I like your approach. It's honest and it teaches the kid to be honest.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Teachers have every right to have rules in place- especially at a private school. So if I let my son where a t shirt that says "f *** you" it's not the teachers business. If I decide science isn't important, there should be no reason my little Susie should have to do science homework.

That is a slippery slope that leads to chaos within a school setting.

I can't even believe I am reading this!!! This is just warped....

Teachers only have rights to have rules in place, in their classroom.

This whole, 'Teachers are Gods' thing just doesn't fly with me.


Again, if my child wants to wear a particular shirt outside of school, then that is OUR business. My childs teacher has no right to enforce any dress code outside of a school setting.

What happens once my child leaves school grounds is MY business. I am the parent.

 

[horseshowmom]

Have to add that I don't think the OP lied to the school. DD came home sick, was feeling better later and she took her out. For something like this, I would have done the same thing. However, if it had been a regular weekly activity that night, I would have made her stay home.

I don't think the teacher was out of line. He has the right to question a sickness absence that miraculously gets better coincident with an event the kids wanted to do. However, as a parent, I would have chimed in "yep, she was feeling so much better so I took her to the event". Show's the teacher I understand where he was coming from, but also letting him know that I'm the Mom and I get to make those decisions in my household. I also think he was making a point to other kids that you do get caught in this life ... and that's a good thing to show kids these days.

MaryLiz

I agree with this completely as both a parent and a former teacher/current administrator. (And the fact that it started at 3 did make it look more like a "convenient" illness even if it wasn't.)

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Well...this is what happens when they are adults, in the military, and really sick...and then pull a stunt:

My ex-step-father...home b/c he was sick (verified ill even at the clinic). Okay. By evening he was feeling better. Him and my mom decide to go to the fair. No harm no foul right? It's night time....he wouldn't have been on duty anyway. WRONG. He got busted. He was spotted by someone (not sure if a superior or just a fellow co-worker). He got reported. He got the Navy equivilant of being "grounded". He had to move on base for 30 days and sleep in the barracks. He was not allowed to do anything. And he had to get a new do (he had an allowed cut--but he had to get a REAL militar haircut!).

Now...when I was growing up--I personally never wanted to do things when I was really sick..and no so much b/c I was sick..but b/c I didn't want to get busted and have someone think I was lying.

I am not clear on if you lied about your daughter or not. If she was really ill--and then you decided to permit her to get an autograph...okay, not a big deal.

But if you lied just to get her out of school...that is a problem. It's a problem in what you are teaching her (why not check out and be honest that you are going to the rink?).

I have done things while sick--Heck, I ran the Disney Marathon with the flu. But when I bow out of things--I bow out and I get better. If there could be consequences for even the perception of deceit...I just wouldn't risk it.

When I was in 7th grade I got in HUGE trouble for cutting class. My teacher made me cry in the statements that she was saying to me...in front of the entire class. However--only one problem...I didn't cut class. It was make up picture day--and I guess there was some miscommunication. So I don't know if I really did go at the incorrect time..but all I know is I went at precisely the time I was told to go...and then my teacher had a cow about it and humiliated me as a result.

Regardless if the child did wrongdoing--if the teacher is making these comments so that other students can hear...then he is crossing the line. JMHO.

 

[poohandwendy]

I see you both and am not ignoring you PG and Minnie...lol, I think you both make good points and I think the bottom line for me (of this sort of scenario), is the message the kids are getting about honesty and integrity. If things happened just as the OP said, then she should have cleared this up with the teacher right then and there. If not, then there is an issue of dishonesty that I would be incomfortable with.

I would have been honest with the teacher either way...I have no doubt they would have understood and if they didn't I would think the consquences would be worth it because I wouldn't pull my kid from school unless they were.

 

[CheshireVal]

I think it was uncalled for..... I wonder why teachers and schools "think" they can tell you how to raise your child. Its YOUR child and you can do what you feel is right .. and its no ones business except yours.

Scary.

I hope you homeschool!