? about step children and vacation

[Skyw]

I did do Disney with my SD. She was 10 at the time and she pulled all of her tricks out of the trick bag when we went. We still had fun. It is Disney!!! Now she is 19 and still does cause alot of stress. But it is only because of the way her mom brought her up. She was neglected and lonely. She lives with us now and is making great headway. My advice is two part. If you really want some relief.....go to counseling. Chances are that nothing will change since you are at Disney, but you can change how you deal with it. And if you go with/out the counseling, get some time alone during the day so that you can recharge your battery's. OH yeah...one more. Make the rules very clear before you go for all of your kids. You might have to be the one that does it. Sit them all done and treat them the same.

 

[padams]

You're not taking family vacations with the whole family because the kid acted up 4 years ago? Are your children always perfectly behaved? With your attitude it is no surprise that your SS may not like you. Why would he like someone who has made it clear he is not a part of his dad's current family?

How would you and your child feel if your husband refused to take that child on vacation? After all, it's not his kid. If you don't accept SS and make him feel a part of the family, your husband may tell you to take a vaction- permanently.

 

[Skyw]

Hey now,
Some of these post assume that you are the wicked step mom!!!! Just like on Cinderella. I have been a step daughter and a step mom!!! Both are hard.!! I think there were some great advice given on this thread too. I had another thought...maybe your Step-son would rather spend a smaller vacation with just dad and not go to disney. Have you asked? My SD would have loved that more then a trip to Disney.

 

[noodleknitter]

Both may be hard, but the adults are the ones who caused the issue, and it is their job to take care of the children. Pure and simple.