A Whine

[vanyel]

Ok guys, I need a place to whine, complain, carry-on.... My dh is in seasonal work so the winter is a bit rough. He went back to work on 3/1, things are looking up, we order new windows for the house which we desperately need, work on paying off some things, including the IRS, and then, yesterday, he gets laid-off again. I came home from work, he's sitting in the d*** lazy boy, pardon the expression, and says, "read the e-mail on the desk". So that's how I find out he's laid off.

Anyway, I'm depressed, down, angry at the company and at him (because he knew this job was tenacious at best and he hasn't looked for anything else). I'm not one for sharing the negative personal stuff usually which is probably why my shoulders are tight all the time so I hope you guys don't mind my saga.

I know I'll get over it and things will get better, but right now I'm in a funk!

 

[PrincessNancy96]

I'm so sorry.. I have a friend who is dealing w/ the same thing right now.. Tell him to get out of the lazy boy and go to unemployment, get the ball rolling.. my friend did that...and was offered a temp job on the same day... and was told Monday to apply for a full-time position... and has been hired full time..
Maybe it could go that well for your DH...

Hugs, and any time you need to vent.. we are here for you!!!

 

[KAMommy]

I'm so sorry, Vanyel. I agree with Nancy, just convince him to get moving...things rarely come to the lazyboy.

 

[vanyel]

I'm so sorry, Vanyel. I agree with Nancy, just convince him to get moving...things rarely come to the lazyboy.

Thanks. I appreciate the support.

I know he's down, but either being in or acting the lazyboy won't change a thing. And I've been trying to be up and encouraging for the last several week because we thought this might be coming, but right now I'm worn out and a bit tired of the attitude.

Cathy

 

[rlovew]

I'll be praying for you, it is always hard when our DHs are down about work or lack thereof.

Rebecca

 

[maria34a]

It is especially hard for a man because they feel they have to be the breadwinner and take care of the family and when they can't do that, they feel like they are failing, not only themselves, but letting down their whole family and not doing their "job" of taking care of their family. The best thing you can do in this situation is to just stand by him and tell him that you will stand by him in whatever decision he makes, but he has to make some kind of decision. You know he is in a tough bind and all you want to do is help him any way you can. Be that creating a resume with him, helping him on the computer with a job search, posting on Monster.com, whatever you can do to help him out. Cater to him a little, sometimes men need this during this time. I know it can be difficult and hard, because you are frustrated too. Just think long term and focus on the end result and it will pull you both through the difficult times. I hope this will help you out!!! It helped with me and my husband when he was alive.

Good luck and I hope better times are in your near future!

 

[Mickster]

Phooey. I'm sorry this happened. I'm sure this is a difficult time. It can be so hard to remain supportive and understaning. But, like Maria said, this is when they need it the most. Take a deep breath around him and vent to us! We all understand and we're here for you!

 

[New England Eeyore]

Sorry to hear that, but I'm glad you can vent here. That's what we're here for! Prayers and pixie dust that things will improve.

 

[vanyel]

You guys made me a little bit teary-eyed. Thanks so much for the positive thoughts, prayers, encouragement. I really appreciate it. We're taking a hiatus from talking about this for tonight - I think we both need the break.

His resume is on Monster and he applied for a job several days ago. I talked to a friend who knows someone in HR from the company and she gave them his name so maybe something will turn up there.

Thanks again everyone. You don't know how much I appreciate this!

*Good thing I didn't go to Michael's for that Cricut

 

[party of 3]

hang in there. my dh and i have been thru this a couple of times. you just have to be supportive and know that "this too shall pass". i know (for a fact)
that its hard while you are dealing with it, but it WILL get better.
always know that you can come here and put your feelings down in words and it gets it off your chest and that's what we are all here for. to help each other out!

 

[maria34a]

I just want you to know that I am still thinking about you guys and praying for you!!!

 

[vanyel]

I just want you to know that I am still thinking about you guys and praying for you!!!

Thanks to all of you! Last night, we finally really talked about this, and addressed some of the fears that we both had, and they weren't all the same. I'm not angry anymore even though I'm still feeling a bit uncertain. We can handle the needs, it's the wants that get put by the wayside. And there are more important things in life, in the scheme of it all.

We're still going to the Smoky Mountains in less than two weeks and that's already paid for, thank goodness!

I have to say to you all, that reading your responses and thoughts helped me work through things and let go of the "I" response to this. We're working on getting back to "we". A to you all!