A "What would you have done"

[lovetoscrap]

So, what did you do?

The recipe used Pepperidge Farm as a base, then added a bunch of finely chopped things, some cooked seperately, some added at other times.

I gently told her that I could tell from the recipe that my DD's and I wouldn't eat it and asked if we could make half just plain, and 1/2 from the recipe. She said she didn't realize that none of us liked it last year and it wasn't worth the trouble to make if no one was going to eat it.

If it was me making the recipe I would rather that someone tell me they didn't care for it and not to bother. However, we wouldn't have to worry about that as I would have just gotten a box of Pepperidge Farm.

We really prefer just plain boxed stuffing. Some things added are okay but this was just too much "funky" stuff. The funny thing is that part of the title of this recipe is "something, something and Onion Stuffing"-- and my in laws know that I hate onions and won't eat things with onions. My kids like onions, but there were some other things in it they wouldn't like- and the way it all combined was just

MIL and I are closer than I am with my own mother. I would feel worse about her going to all the time and trouble to make the dish knowing that we weren't going to eat it at all. Since they are made into large muffins, it is just not possible to take a small amount. You have a huge one. And we all clear our own dishes so she really has no idea what we do and don't eat. And really we had so much leftovers of the stuff that we loved that it is impossible to tell if someone didn't like something. For 6 people we probably had enough food for 15! Lots of leftovers for today!

I know that I certainly don't want to go to the trouble to make something labor and money intensive if the people that I am making it for have no desire to eat it!

If it were a distant relative or stranger or someone I am not close with, I certainly wouldn't say anything. But I really don't understand not being comfortable enough with your own close family to not say anything and just let a bunch of food go to waste.

 

[bballmom56]

MIL and I are closer than I am with my own mother.


If it were a distant relative or stranger or someone I am not close with, I certainly wouldn't say anything. But I really don't understand not being comfortable enough with your own close family to not say anything and just let a bunch of food go to waste.

Thats's wonderful that you have such a great relationship with your MIL!

But it is not a matter of being comfortable enough in our family, it's that we know it would not go over very well and could blow up. Depends on what mood MIL is in that day. So in our case, it is better to say nothing.