I totally know what you mean. On our second trip I actually felt lost walking around the Grand Floridian looking for the Grand Floridian Cafe.
Looking over your list there's only a couple where you'll have to remember which stop -
Raglan Road, if you aren't taking the boat. And I can't help you with which stop is closest because we so seldom go to DTD and always get off at the stop by the Christmas shop.
Boatwrights, again if you aren't taking the boat from POFQ. It is the first bus stop/main building. You'll know it when you see it because the other stops there are out in parking areas.
The other resort meals you have planned are at resorts with only one stop -
For Boma, just make sure you get off at Animal Kingdom Lodge, not Kidani Villas, and you'll be fine.
California Grill is easiest from the monorail. Elevator down to the 2nd floor to check in, then the express up to the restaurant on the 15th.
Kona is easiest from the monorail too. It is just to the left as you walk in from the monorail platform at the Poly, and Ohana is just past Kona. I've never taken a bus to the Poly so I'm not sure where the stop is, but you'll want to avoid the boat because that means walking all the way across the resort to get to the restaurant.
The Grand Floridian Tea Room is another where you won't want to take the boat, for the same reason. Bus or monorail over, because those drop off at the main building where the tea room is.
Captain's Grill is on the water side of the Yacht Club building, so the distance from bus and boat is roughly the same. If you take the boat just walk straight into the building from the dock and the restaurant will be just to the right when you enter.