A Suprise, Need Guidance

[ChasingLeslie]

Absolutely no way I'd go through with mid-September plans! She's due the first week of September but most babies aren't born on their due date. She could be late or require more recovery time. Are they really going to travel with a newborn that is potentially just a few days old...?

Sounds like a disaster!!!

 

[Dismama2boys]

I missed that she'd only be weeks post-partum. I would never have felt good enough to go to Disney two weeks after giving birth, ever. Maybe at a month. But, my babies have been c-sections.

Also, to whomever upthread mentioned not having an adult beverage while nursing, that's not true! Nursing moms can have a cocktail or a glass of wine or beer, totally. The rule is that if you're okay to drive, you're okay to nurse. They make test strips just for this, if one is unsure about it. Even many lactation consultants will tell nursing moms to have a dark beer every day to help milk production. I always feel totally comfortable having one (just one though). My kids nurse for YEARS....no way I'm going years without an adult beverage. The more you know, and all that.

 

[robinb]

Your trip is mid September and she is due in the beginning?

There is no way I would be planning a vacation for 2 weeks after giving birth.

Absolutely no way I'd go through with mid-September plans!

I missed that she'd only be weeks post-partum.

@Dismama2boys , you didn't miss anything. The other posters did. The OP clearly says that the DIL asked him to push the trip back:

Need advice. Situation: we have a family vacation planned for mid-sept. Me, my DW, 2 grown sons, 1 daughter-inlaw and 2 kids, 5 & 11. We are DVC members and our stay is for a week at OKW. Just found out a week ago son and DIL are expecting, due.....first week of September.

DIL wants to move the trip out a couple weeks and take a newborn on the trip. My DW and I are completely against this. A plane trip with a baby only a couple weeks old, not to mention, a new mother just doesn't sound like a good idea. We talked with DIL last night and I suggested pulling the trip up to April or May, but met with great resistance because she would be 4-5 months along. Our other alternative was to simply move the trip to next year.

I guess I am venting more than anything, but would welcome comments. Maybe we are overreacting, but it just doesn't seem like a good idea to take a baby on a week long trip to Disney world.????

The trip is now scheduled for mid-September and the DIL asked it to be pushed back a few weeks so it won't be until October.

 

[Hikergirl]

@Dismama2boys , you didn't miss anything. The other posters did. The OP clearly says that the DIL asked him to push the trip back:



The trip is now scheduled for mid-September and the DIL asked it to be pushed back a few weeks so it won't be until October.

The OP says a "newborn a couple weeks old", that to me means 2 weeks.
Even still anything under 4/5 months old would be a no go for me so it doesn't really change my advice if the trip is now in October instead of mid-September.

 

[KrazeeK120]

The trip is now scheduled for mid-September and the DIL asked it to be pushed back a few weeks so it won't be until October.

I don't think there's that huge of a difference between a 2 week old baby and a 5-6 week old baby. They're tiny, helpless, and unvaccinated. Mom will likely be more recovered at the 4 week point, but I didn't really feel totally normal until about 8 weeks postpartum, honestly. Im sure it varies from woman to woman.

My advice would be to go before baby arrives or wait until baby is 6-ish months old. I did Disney pregnant and had a blast! My son is the light of my life, but any outing, small or large, is much more challenging now!

 

[monorailsilver]

If it were me, I'd move the trip to the following year.

I remember how tired I was during pregnancy and couldn't wait to go to bed. I also had swelling so I had to elevate my legs and I had BPH (high blood pressure) so that required rest as well. So because of the risks that you don't know about until they happen, I wouldn't move the trip earlier.

As far as moving it a few weeks later, how old will the baby be? I know mine never slept, ok they did but I nursed which meant they never slept nor did me and I was nursing countless times during the day and 2-3 times at night. Then to go walk a park would not be my idea of a vacation, only to find some place to nurse.

My personal preference would be to wat a year. Yeah a toddler age isn't great but they take it all in.

 

[ndavis]

As someone who had morning sickness for 40 weeks, I'd never go while pregnant. My parents pushed me into moving up a gatlinburg trip, and let's just say I know the restrooms at Dollywood all too well. If they are comfortable, I'd say 4-6 weeks post partum would be fine. And she will appreciate being listened too I'd say, just my two cents.

 

[Dismama2boys]

And she will appreciate being listened too I'd say, just my two cents.

Oh my goodness, this. Perhaps it's because I have the most overbearing mother-in-law who thinks she knows everything and can never be wrong, it would do some serious damage to our family dynamic if my wishes were disregarded about something like this.

 

[KrazeeK120]

Oh my goodness, this. Perhaps it's because I have the most overbearing mother-in-law who thinks she knows everything and can never be wrong, it would do some serious damage to our family dynamic if my wishes were disregarded about something like this.

I kinda think if you're footing the bill, you do get a say. If the family with the baby were planning and paying for the trip all on their own, then yes, absolutely, it's no one else's business. I don't think paying for a trip entitles you to make ALL the rules, but I think it at least entitles you to discussion.

 

[Dismama2boys]

I kinda think if you're footing the bill, you do get a say. If the family with the baby were planning and paying for the trip all on their own, then yes, absolutely, it's no one else's business. I don't think paying for a trip entitles you to make ALL the rules, but I think it at least entitles you to discussion.

Definitely entitled to a discussion. I would just hope the mother's wishes would be respected, rather than her being told what's best for her and her baby. Again, I'm sure I'm projecting my own MIL here - she's extremely controlling, to put it as nicely as possible. I'm positive my opinion is heavily influenced by that.

 

[halfpintpeggy]

Every pregnancy is different. Honestly, your DIL has no clue how she'll feel emotionally & physically after the baby is born. OP, I'd totally recommend moving the trip up to next year.