A Rough Couple of Days/ Updated 6/23

[Saxton]

Rosie - you're pretty amazing! You have a good heart ... and you have my complete respect.

 

[soulmates]

What your doing, will impact this young man for the rest of his life. Hugs from NC!

 

[Nauf]

No fair! I wanna hug Rosie too!

Ya know, I come to this board and read posts that give me glimpses into people's lives.... and from the tiny little bits that are offered up, you develop an idea of what a person might be like. And its great to be proven right every now and then. You is AWESOME!!!

 

[Tony-NJ]

Rosie - I'm just seeing this for the first time - I'm so glad this guy had you around - it saddens me about the parents but it seems he has love and support that will hopefully get him thru this!

 

[jjjmranch]

I just love how the Universe puts the right person in the right place at the right time.

Glad that you're there to help.

You couldn't have said it any better. Thank you Rosie!

 

[rosiep]

I'm at work today and my young man calls me to say he's being released in a few hours!!! He sounded glad, but I am thinking it is way too soon!!!
God bless my job, no problem leaving to go pick him up.
I share some of my growing up stories with him...and he shared his with me. I don't think he has even shared this with Zena.
He asked to stop at his Mom's and left almost as soon as he entered....she said she didn't want to talk to him so we went for ice cream He came back to my house and made some phone calls, I cooked dinner, we hung out in the yard and then he asked me to take him to his apartment to pick up some belongings. He was spending the night at a friend's.
I am terribly concerned. I'm not sure if he will move away from me now that he feels "better".
At least I'll see him tomorrow at graduation...and I will be a nag with the phone.
Any words of wisdom for me? Anything else you think I should do?


Thanks for all the wonderful words, thoughts and prayers....
-Rosie

 

[NHdisneylover]

No words of wisdom beyond what you are doing--make an effort to keep in touch and let him know you are tehre for him.

Thank goodness your job was willing to be so flexible and again THANK YOU for being there for this kid.

Okay, one silly idea which may or may not be a good one (everyone else feel free to post NO if it is a bad one)--maybe just tell him about this board (if you feel it is okay with him that you have shared some of his story here) and give him the web address. Let him know YOU are always there for him--you are not trying to give him a replacment resource, simply an extra resource. Tell him there are a lot of us over here who care and will support him in anyway we can. I am just thinking sometimes when he doesn't feel up to making a call or speaking with someone face to face he may be more willing to pop online and at least find some support that way Or, even if does not feel like posting he may feel better just seeing this community and its support for each other and knowing it would be directed at him if he posted.

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

I think telling him about this board is a good idea, but I would ask O'Mike to move this thread before he was invited to join. His reading this thread would be too much for him right now, and he needs no added stress.

You've got it together Rosie. Phone support, maybe pop in on him unannounced from time to time, do the "mother thing" and insist that he come over for a cook out, go to lunch, help you pick out a pair of shoes... You know, the forced inclusion.

Maybe you can quietly send his mother/family the PFLAG local chapter information. They may not do anything with it, but then they just may, and at least you will have done all that can be done to help them ease into acceptance of their child.

Oh, and if you think it is too soon for him to have been released, it probably is. The general approach to psych issues that are more complex than medication adjustments are "treat 'em and street 'em." I've heard docs use this actual phrase. Not a pleasant thing, eh? So being an immediate resource for him is vital at this point.

Take care Rosie, and don't forget to take care OF Rosie, too.

 

[TuckandStuiesMom]

Oh my... Rosie. I certainly have nothing even approaching "wise" to offer but if you can just continue to "be there" for this young man, you will be doing a very good thing --listening, cooking, gentle counseling to make sure he makes it to his out-patient sessions and generally just doing the whole mom thing. God bless you for being you.

 

[OrlandoMike]

I can zap this thread at a moments notice, just let me know Rosie...

 

[starann]

I can zap this thread at a moments notice, just let me know Rosie...

Well..since you are offering to 'zap' things....I have a few people, if you would be so kind!

 

[wallyb]

I can zap Rosie

Could you... Please!

 

[rosiep]

Could you... Please!

Is zapping me the same as bouncing me??? 'Cause I liked that!!

 

[wallyb]

Is zapping me the same as bouncing me??? 'Cause I liked that!!

Yes ... just the same.

Now sit in this zapping / bouncing Chair.

 

[hematite153]

I'm behind (as usual), but, this was a great thread to read. I'm sorry that he's dealing with such rough stuff, but, glad that he knew to reach out and glad that you were able to be there for him. I hope he continues to take the invite into your family.

 

[jenn&nelsonrego]

maybe just tell him about this board

I cannot believe I missed the 5/30 update Rosie.

I think telling him about this board is a great idea.

How has everything been the last couple days?

 

[hematite153]

I think telling him about this board is a great idea.

I don't know about this...it might be a bit much to hear all of these people who've heard his story.

Plus, as much as I love this board, there are, no-doubt, better options of live people in Portland somewhere.

 

[rosiep]

I don't know about this...it might be a bit much to hear all of these people who've heard his story.

Plus, as much as I love this board, there are, no-doubt, better options of live people in Portland somewhere.

I have mentioned the boards to him..but Disney is not his thing and he wasn't much interested. If he were, Mike said he could zap away this whole thread.
We spoke briefly yesterday..he is busy with graduation details and school..but I am sure to see him this weekend. Next Saturday is graduation..I am praying that his stepfather comes from Washington as he said he would. I'll be eager to meet him and see if I can be of assistance there. His Mom is not coming and from what I understand her animosity has little to do with his being transgendered but rather that he was born at all.
My older gay and transgendered friends have all offered to talk with him, but as I stated before, now that he has been released he has pulled back and I am doing my best to simply "check in everyday".
I wish there was more I could do, but I hope that the little that I do do is helping in some small way.

 

[spacemermaid]

I have mentioned the boards to him..but Disney is not his thing and he wasn't much interested. If he were, Mike said he could zap away this whole thread.
We spoke briefly yesterday..he is busy with graduation details and school..but I am sure to see him this weekend. Next Saturday is graduation..I am praying that his stepfather comes from Washington as he said he would. I'll be eager to meet him and see if I can be of assistance there. His Mom is not coming and from what I understand her animosity has little to do with his being transgendered but rather that he was born at all.
My older gay and transgendered friends have all offered to talk with him, but as I stated before, now that he has been released he has pulled back and I am doing my best to simply "check in everyday".
I wish there was more I could do, but I hope that the little that I do do is helping in some small way.

Because his mom treats him so badly not just because he's trans but because she wishes he'd never been born at all , "just" checking in every day is very, very important! Kids need at least one caring "parent" figure in their lives; doesn't have to be a bio-parent but *someone* needs to be there for them. Even though he is "pulling back" after his release from the hospital, I am sure that your support means more to him than you know!

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

Stay strong Rosie. It's a tough position you are in. You don't want to crowd him, but you surely don't want to give him the impression that you no longer care.

All the best Moms pester their kids for contact, eh?

I know you will help him come to understand that his birth mother's problems are just that, her's. He's not responsible for anything that she had going on in her life or her non-acceptance of her child. Unfortunately for him, luck of the draw served him up with a parent who is not the sort that he needs in his life.

Thanks for the update.