a request from a Real mom

[TIGGERSMOM]

As an an adopted kid myself, I know how this feels. Hurts now but the pain fades when grow up. What's the saying 'What doesn't kill me only makes me stronger.' Hang in there.


BTW my fave comeback to that was -"at least mine picked me, yours got stuck with you"

I'll leave the rest off I added as I grew - but hint - latex breaks.

 

[Beast fan]

Mamajoan......
My family has been involved with a co-op nursery for the past 3 years. One of the families in this group now have 3 daughters....ages 5, 3, and 3 months. They love each as much as the other, and each are truly a blessing. Her oldest 2 daughters were/are a complete joy to have in the classroom. The oldest 2 are biologically sisters, but are not DNA-related to their mom (I use "mom" to describe as the female figure in their life who hugs, kisses, laughs, cries, dreams with these children) and dad.

I have watched this family for 3 years, and grown to see that their parents have some wonderful defects....... 1) They have arms long enough to keep track of 2 terrific young children, and 2) They must have some facial muscle defect, as they never stop smiling or laughing.

Congrats, mamajoan. It sounds like you have raised a wonderful daughter.

Dave

 

[Kitty 34]

{{{{{{HUGS}}}} to you and your daughter.

 

[nealymouse]

Oh what hateful kids.

I too am an adopted Mom to 3 beauiful daughters.

 

[GlennandAnn]

I'm not an adoptive mom, but my neice and nephew were both adopted. We feel privileged that these two brave women chose B&SIL to be the parents of their children. Adoption is a beautiful thing and should be celebrated.

Ann

 

[mamajoan]

Wow... thank you for sharing..... and yes I am crying.. soft tears of joy.........

Life is such a wild and wonderful circle. for all of you!!!

btw.... It is now Saturday night.... Cameo is full of spit and vinegar tonight...... I told her she should give classes at the Y to pre teens pn "How to do the perfect eyeroll and sigh"........


Teenagers... gotta love 'em...

 

[wuv tigger]

that's right a big ole dis group hug!

We too are adoptive parents to 2 dd's (oldest one thinks Jesus is bringing her a baby brother on Christmas day .... but that's another idea for a post )

We spent this pm talking to both of our girls 35 months & 21 months about how we got the call that they were coming. It brought tears to my eyes even though it's been almost 4 years for the 1st adoption & almost 2 for the 2nd.

That is a great comeback that "our" kids are chosen! I WILL print these pages & put them in our dd's Creative Memories Albums to have as "ammo" during the teen years.

Please let Camo know that 55,000+ of her "Aunties & Uncle's" are standing behind her & backing her & you up ALL the way!

Judy
Proud mommy to 2 adorable (most times) little girls

 

[wuv tigger]

Originally posted by Jeafl
Joan, your post brought tears to my eyes. Big hugs to Cameo.

Another thing I wanted to mention was that so many people completely ingnore adoptions. My neighbor whom I am friendly with, but not really close friends, just adoped a 4 year old girl from Russia. I brought over a card and some gifts for her when they got back from Moscow. Would you believe she told me that I was the ONLY person (other than her immediate family) who even acknowledged the adoption? She brought up a good point...she has attended over 50 baby showers in her life for people with newborns, but none of them even sent her a card. It really made me sad. I think any addition to the family, no matter how they get there, deserves to be celebrated. The whole thinkg just made me so sad for her. and her new daughter Tatiana.

We recieved gifts during both of our adoptions. BUT very few of my family came to greet my daughters. IT HURT!

I KNOW that I have to put it behind me but it still creeps up sometimes & I have to remind myself that I can't let that be a stumbling block in my love for my family & the way I respond to them today. IT IS HARD TO DO!

Thank you for caring for this family & sharing their joy!

Judy

Proud Foster to Adoptive to "Real" Mom to 2 adorable little girls

 

[tiggerlover]

Hey Joan! I am sorry to hear what is happening with Cam. If there is one thing I have learned, kids can be mean and they don't think twice about it, the more evil they are the better they feel.

Glad to hear that Cam is back to her ole self again, but knowing what I do about her, I didn't doubt she would. {{{HUGS}}} my friend and more {{{HUGS}}} for Cam.

 

[lizdotcom99]

of my decision to give my child the upbringing I could not give him. He has NEVER been a secret and I have proudly told others that I have a "little" one somewhere out there( He will be 13 in July...and there is a HUGE part of me that is glad I am not going "through" the teen years again as my sister said it is not pretty....her son just turned 13 LOL!!!!!!!). (He live in Iowa) Most people respect me for that and my decision. But if I ever heard somebody say that I didn't love him....I think I would have to deck em. I have to say that I made the best decision and to this day would not have it any other way!!! {{{{hugs}}}} to you and your daughter!!! Stay strong and let he know how loved she really is!!!