A question for Mother's of Boys

[TnKrBeLlA012]

The funny thing is I would never let my girls go and squat behind a tree. They hold it until we get home or have an accident. I remember a family that was in line to ride the Soaring ride in Epcot. The line was really long. We all had probably waited 45 minutes at this point. The little boy in the family tells the mom he has to go to the bathroom. She hands him a water bottle and tells him to pee in it. The women in front of them tells the mom,"He better not pee in that bottle." The lady starts yelling back saying that he has to go. The lady tells her to get out of line and take him. Everyone in line was just amazed.

 

[tiggersmom2]

If my son is outside playing I will let him go behind MY house to relieve himself, he is 3 and no one can see him so no biggie. I would NOT let him relieve himself in public but as long as no one can see....it isn't a big deal to me.

 

[Briarmom]

Ds has done this before but not at someones house. Heck, even I've peed outside during a long car ride when it was either go outside or wet your pants.
In fact, when I was about 6 months pregnant with dd, we drove from Alaska down to Arizona. I peed outside A LOT on that trip.

 

[Beth76]

I have a list of things that I'm grateful to have boys instead of girls. This is one of them: it's easier for boys to pee outside if needed. Yes, I let my son pee outside. Only for emergencies and only if there's no bathroom around. But I don't really see how this is a boy issue. If I had a girl who had to go and there were no bathrooms around I would let her pee outside. It just wouldn't be as easy.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

well, first of all it doesn't matter if you ask a 3 year old boy if he has to go before you start out on a walk. He will tell you no and then 5 minutes later it will be an absolute emergency.

I would never let my kids pee on somebody else's house. I would never let my kids pee on MY house either. But they all three pee out in our woods when they are out there playing.

 

[RadioNate]

My DS is 5 and has never went outside. I guess in an emergency I would let him but we have never been that far from an accessable restroom. If he is outside playing, he can take 2 minutes to come in.

 

[Bob Slydell]

To those who've said that letting your son do it once will encourage him to do it all the time -- Last summer, while my son was playing at the neighbor's house behind us (we share a backyard), my DW happened to look out at the same moment that our DS (who was 4 at the time) yanked down his pants and whizzed right off the steps of our neighbor's patio. It's not something he'd ever done before and not something we'd ever even talked about, he just said he suddenly had to go.

Fortunately, our neighbors thought it was kind of funny and we all had a over it, but we had a little chat that night about where and when it's appropriate to go to the bathroom (and that it's never a problem to ask neighbors to use their bathroom )

However, now that we've had that chat, if we were walking in the woods or somewhere there's no bathrooms near by and it was an emergency, yes, I'd let my DS go in the woods, as long as it's private.

 

[MamaLema]

Once in a blue moon, if we're at the park and they have to pee, they will do it in the bushes far away from everything and everyone. This hardly ever happens though because I try to go places, including parks that have public washrooms. I don't see what's wrong with doing it in an emergency but it shouldn't be happening all the time.

I wouldn't let them do against someone's house though.

 

[Robinrs]

LOL, my son is so particular he won't even go to a public restroom unless it's an emergency. Against a house.... can't imagine it.

 

[ozarkmom]

I would never let them pee on someone's house or other public place but living in a rural area my boys have had alot of experience outside. They camp,hunt,fish. When they were little they sometimes went in the trees behind our house . Around here it's no big deal. Now like I said they're not going on houses or other public places.

 

[luvmydogs]

Peeing in the woods, on the side of the road, or in a rural countryside is one thing. I find that perfectly acceptable. Peeing up against someone's house or urinating in public is very wrong. The mother who allows this is doing her son a terrible disservice.

Bingo!

And along the same line...My ds10's baseball team practices on a field in the middle of nowhere with no bathrooms around. Those boys have no shame. "No, no, Chris! I said go BEHIND the tree!!!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

That's my confessional-- whew-- I feel better to have gotten that off my chest-- that has been bothering me for the past few years-- I've never told anyone that. But, no I never ever encourage that. I always make sure he goes right before we leave the house.

Dina, if that's the best you can do in the confession department, you really need to break out of your shell!

luv, I didn't need that mental image of Chris!

Reminds me when I was at Jake's t-ball game last week. At the end of the game one of the players needed to take a whiz, so I thought his father was bringing him behind a tree, the school (which was locked, so no going in there), etc. He brought him next to the school and pulled his pants down, and we could see his nekkid little behind. I quickly turned away, but one of the younger sisters was sure looking that direction. Maybe that's as far as the boy could make it.

For those that say that your boys have never peed outside--they must not play sports yet. My boys have been playing baseball for years and there's no way that we can make sure that we are always near a restroom.

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

I don't let them wizz willy-nilly all over the neighborhood. I hope not!

you better get a tag for this one! "Wizz willy-nilly all over the nieghborhood" is the funniest thing I've heard all day!

 

[JVL1018]

I now realized I guess I should have put a swim diaper on him, but that was the one and only accident he ever had. He's never even wet the bed-- he has a great bladder. Guess he was having too much fun in the pool That's my confessional-- whew-- I feel better to have gotten that off my chest-- that has been bothering me for the past few years-- I've never told anyone that. But, no I never ever encourage that. I always make sure he goes right before we leave the house.

A swim diaper wouldn't help, pee goes right thorugh them, it's just to hold in poop. LOL

AS\s for my son, he has peed outside, for a while he was peeing in the backyard everytime I turned my back.

Once we had a BBQ and I look up and see him standing at the top of the slide on the swing set with his shorts around his ankles, his hands on his hips and a grin on his face as he pees off the side. @@I admit it, I LMAO and wished I had the camera.

He finally stopped that, now he pees outside only if there's no bathroom nearby-once in the woods by the baseball field, once on the side of the road on a long car trip.
I don't think it's a big deal at all in cases like that, but never just while we're wandering around the neighborhood!

 

[momof2inPA]

My boys were potty training at the same time as the neighbors' boys. For awhile, they were always peeing outside in each other's yards. The little neighbor girl thought that was a good idea, and when she came over to play, she pooped in our driveway. Theywere so little, like 2 1/2, it was just funny as could be. That was 6 years ago, and none of the kids go potty outside anymore, but when the boys were potty training, it was handy to be able to let go outside and avoid an accident.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Sounds like the kid needs pull-ups!! Geez. I never let my son do something like that. Never even occurred to me. If someone did that at my house and I saw it, they would be bleaching and scrubbing! Talk about disrespect for others.

 

[lisajl]

No way! My boys know better than to even ask. Although, a few weeks ago my oldest son informed me that sometimes when he is camping with his Boy Scout troop, he does pee in the woods.

True Story....
A co-worker of mine was happy that her son was getting potty trained.
One day, he had to pee, no facilities anywhere, so she let him go outside.
Then another day he wanted to pee outside, she allowed it.
Fast forward about a year, she went to her mothers grave, yep, you guessed it! He decided I have to go, mom lets me, and boy his Aunts were on him so fast it made his head spin.

Not an acceptable idea to let a child urinate whenever and wherever they want.

Lisa

 

[arminnie]

I am laughing so hard over all of this. All I can think of is that "pee in the sink" grandpa that people keep talking about on the Big Love thread.

 

[hpygrll]

Wow!!!! This thread flabbergasts me.....I have two boys and I would kill them if they peed outside. I don't find it cute or funny - seems pretty disrespectful and lazy to me.

Now that being said - hiking in the woods with no bathrooms anywhere is completely different. Otherwise just seems silly.

Jenny

 

[EthansMom]

No, my son would not be permitted to pee on the side of someone else's house. If he needs to use a restroom, I would expect him to hold it while we hurried home... or would find a tree or bush for him to go behind if his situation was dire.

My 4.5 year-old has only peed outside a few times, twice on the side of the road while on long road trips (while potty training) and once in the bushes at the park (where the restrooms are always locked to guard against vandalism ).

The only other time I can recall allowing DS to pee outside was when we were waiting for one of the WDW busses at one of the parks (can't remember which one). DS had just finished potty training and couldn't hold it. There were no restrooms anywhere near the bus stops. DS certainly would have wet himself if we had tried to go back to the park to find a restroom. So, we had DS pee into a bush (away from anyone else) while DH stood behind him to give him some privacy. (Yes, I know this is a flaming offense. But given the option of allowing DS to wet himself, it was the best choice available.)