A question for female Disboarders, have you turned down a date before because the asker was bald?

[goofyernmost]

As a bald person, in the landing strip style I can tell you that I had every phase. The slightly thinning, the comb-over and finally just the regular hair on the sides not on top. I have thought about shaving my head, but that seems like a lot of work for nothing. One never knows how that "look" will affect them. My son in law had thinning hair and he shaved it all off. I'll be honest he cannot and is not able to pull that off. You have to have a certain shaped head to really carry the Yul Brenner look. He doesn't have it and just looks silly. He's a nice guy though and I don't want to hurt his feelings by saying that to him. He is really, really skinny and the no hair makes him look sickly. He needs more head to fill out the bald, if you know what I mean.

 

[fla4fun]

finally just the regular hair on the sides not on top

When I was a child, ALL the men in my family sported this look, from my grandfathers, to my uncles, to my oldest cousins, to my dad. When we moved to Florida, Dad started shaving his head completely in the summer, and allowing the sides and back to grow maybe an inch in the winter, with none on top. Being around so many men losing hair in my formative years is probably a big reason why it doesn’t matter to me now. I have always known there was more to a man than his hair.

 

[disykat]

I would be more likely to turn down someone because they had TOO MUCH hair, than not enough! Bald wouldn't bother me. I've always liked short hair on men. I finally got DH to let me shave his down pretty close due to his receding hairline and he actually conceded that it looked better. He also likes that he no longer has to pay for haircuts!

(I use a #2 so he does still have some hair on the sides and the back)

 

[ncc1701]

No. My Dad and both of my Grandfathers were balding. None shaved their heads completely bald. My DH is the same ( as was his Dad).

 

[Silver saucer]

Nope

 

[Christine]

I find that men are far more sensitive about balding then women care about. It would never even occur to me to even think about that. Sure, there will be some shallow women who have appearance requirements but I think those are few and far between. It could be a disqualifier on a dating app because appearance seems to rule there, but otherwise, no.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

I guess you haven't seen my husband

 

[disneychrista]

His appearance likely improved by shaving his head vs having bald patches.

The last guy I dated shaved his head for this reason. Never knew him with hair. I also went out with a guy who nearly always wore a hate. The few time I saw him without one he was balding and had a close cut but not shaved.

If a woman won’t date him solely because of his hair/lack of hair they are not worth his time.

 

[Disneylover99]

I’ve never dated a bald man. But I would.
Bald is sexy.

 

[lifesavacation]

I’ve been married for a long time so definitely haven’t dated for awhile. Bald can be sexy. Wouldn’t matter to me.

 

[Turn the Page]

Nope. DH started losing his hair in his early 20's and he is a great husband. I would have been making a huge mistake if I had turned him down over that.

 

[dclpluto]

I choose to be bald. Shave it at least once a day for at least 6 months. I could have a full set of hair if I wanted. Don’t think I will ever go back to hair.

 

[HeatherC]

Nope. My dh is bald and we have been together around 30 years. And tell your friend that anyone who would say no to a date because of that is not who he would want to date anyway!

 

[GAN]

Wow… this is really DIScouraging. Here I am with a great head of hair and I find out it doesn’t matter. Guess I’ll have to rely on my personality….

 

[goofyernmost]

I choose to be bald. Shave it at least once a day for at least 6 months. I could have a full set of hair if I wanted. Don’t think I will ever go back to hair.

There in lies a statement that no amount of explanation could make any sense to me. I guess it's different when through no fault of your own you develop male pattern baldness and you have no choice. "You never know what you've got till it's gone." Having had hair at one point, I can confidently say that it is far easier to comb ones hair that have to shave ones head every day. Probably is easier to manage in the wind though.

 

[Lilsia]

Most men go bald at least in some parts. We all grow older and none of us has control over something like that. Would you want to be judged when menopause hits and you start getting a mustache? People focus too much on superficial things like this and probably miss out on being with a good person.

 

[lisaviolet]

Nope.

 

[pigletto]

My husband started balding in his early 30’s and he shaves his head now. I can honestly say it has not changed how I view him in the slightest. Just as he’s never made a single comment about weight I‘ve gained or the signs of aging in my face over the years. Thank goodness our love and attraction hasn’t been based on something so superficial.

 

[MrsCobraBubbles]

Lol, I really haven't dated since high school and it never came up back then. But since my divorce I've been set up a few times by friends, just casual get together kind of stuff, and I don't have any issue with it. At my age we're all either going gray or going bald. That's so sad that he would worry someone would reject him just because of hair.

 

[anniemae]

Not a big deal. I just hate when men do various things to hide the fact they are balding but in reality they are not fooling anybody. Comb overs, spray on color, odd hair styles etc.