GEM
Mommy to Paul - 1lb 7oz wonder
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This is just something we've been kicking around, but we don't really know if you can even do something like this.
Nathan and I always planned on having at least three kids, but with everything we went through with Paul, now we're not sure. When we decide we are ready to try again, I will see a specialist to find out how much a risk we have of having the same thing happen again. If the risk is too high, we won't do it. There is no way I could put a baby through that again.
If that is the case, we would like look into adoption. Actually, we might want to go with adoption, regardless of what we find out about having more of our own kids.
Here is the thing, though. We would like to adopt another micropreemie, like our little Paul. We saw so many of those tiny little babies abandoned with no one to come and visit them. It just broke my heart to see them fighting so hard and know that nobody wanted them. Nobody came and read them stories or talked to them or rocked them or told them they loved them.
Many of those babies were being made available for adoption. I don't know for sure if the parents had planned all along to give them up, or if they only made that decision after they ended up being extremely premature and having all kinds of medical problems and complications. The social workers I talked to, though, said that those babies were very hard to place with families. Even though everyone wants to adopt infants, it's hard to find someone who is willing to make a commitment to a baby who might not even make it, or who might end up with lifelong disabilities. It was so heartbreaking.
Anyway, I guess my question is whether it is possible to adopt a specific type of baby, like a preemie. We wouldn't care about race, sex, etc. Does anyone know if you can do something like that?
I fell like we have been so incredibly blessed with Paul. He has done so well, and I would love to be able to give another special little baby a chance.
Nathan and I always planned on having at least three kids, but with everything we went through with Paul, now we're not sure. When we decide we are ready to try again, I will see a specialist to find out how much a risk we have of having the same thing happen again. If the risk is too high, we won't do it. There is no way I could put a baby through that again.
If that is the case, we would like look into adoption. Actually, we might want to go with adoption, regardless of what we find out about having more of our own kids.
Here is the thing, though. We would like to adopt another micropreemie, like our little Paul. We saw so many of those tiny little babies abandoned with no one to come and visit them. It just broke my heart to see them fighting so hard and know that nobody wanted them. Nobody came and read them stories or talked to them or rocked them or told them they loved them.
Many of those babies were being made available for adoption. I don't know for sure if the parents had planned all along to give them up, or if they only made that decision after they ended up being extremely premature and having all kinds of medical problems and complications. The social workers I talked to, though, said that those babies were very hard to place with families. Even though everyone wants to adopt infants, it's hard to find someone who is willing to make a commitment to a baby who might not even make it, or who might end up with lifelong disabilities. It was so heartbreaking.
Anyway, I guess my question is whether it is possible to adopt a specific type of baby, like a preemie. We wouldn't care about race, sex, etc. Does anyone know if you can do something like that?
I fell like we have been so incredibly blessed with Paul. He has done so well, and I would love to be able to give another special little baby a chance.
