A party or a gift

We used to have our parties at the theme parks. The Disney parties were awesome. The Universal and Sea World parties were okay (although it was fun when they brought some penguins in at SW). Still, the prime goal of the parties seemed to be getting plastered, and that’s not really the professional thing to do at a company sponsored event. It made for some fun watching back when Pleasure Island still had the roller skating though . . .

My vote is cash/cash equivalent.
 
Currently gift, but in some old jobs, I would've said party.
 
Depends on the type of party -- people, venue, how festive etc..

For example, if the company were great and the venue was a very festively themed (lights, music) arboretum with hot drinks and treats, I'd be in.

I may be overthinking this!!!! :rotfl:
 

Gift I hate parties, but knowing my coworkers they would chose party! LOL
 
The company my husband co-owns has about 30 people at the main office plus some out in the field. All of the employees are allowed to bring a guest. The place where we usually have it is this cool indoor/outdoor restaurant on the river. It's a gourmet BBQ place that has buildings and 2 bars surrounding a courtyard and stage overlooking the river. The building walls facing the stage are clear garage doors that roll up when the weather is nice. They serve a huge buffet spread. The courtyard has seating and fire pits.
 
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We just got word that due to the exponentially growing size of our regional staff, the big annual dinner/dance party will not be happening this year. Many people are shocked and disappointed to hear it, too. There will be some other sort of recognition (gifts or event(s)) but Corporate didn’t poll our opinions or take a vote. :confused3
 
Just got word that Party won out. I am kind of shocked.
I'm not surprised. $50 especially in today's age won't get you much so people probably figured the party would net them more overall enjoyment. Perhaps the last 3 years without one influenced that as well.

Are you really required to go? If you had to could you do more of a hi and bye type thing?

We just did my husband's work Halloween event last night. They are a small company (just over 100 people) and though not all showed up a good amount did with enough adults dressing up. This was a kid-friendly event and the kids all dressed up but they had catered in food and alcoholic beverages. I'm not sure if they'll do a holiday party but I know the employees would prefer that over $50 bucks. I was talking with one of the wives last night whom her husband actually worked at my husband's prior company when he was there as well and we discussed the holiday parties they used to have and did have and she was always out of town for work but expressed she would have loved to have gone. But these events never were bad ones. I go back to my original comment on the thread I would have chosen the gift card because the company I worked for would have done a crappy (and cheap experience more like slap in the face) event, my husband would have chosen the work party because it would have been done well overall.
 
Your employer asks you and your coworkers if you would rather have a Christmas party (after work with dinner catered) or a gift (assumed to be $50 cash/gift card). Which would you choose?

Update:
Party won out. Surprised and not all that happy about the fact that I will feel obligated to go a party. I have enjoyed the past 3 years with no party.
The bolded clearly tips it to "gift" for me.
 
Your employer asks you and your coworkers if you would rather have a Christmas party (after work with dinner catered) or a gift (assumed to be $50 cash/gift card). Which would you choose?

Update:
Party won out. Surprised and not all that happy about the fact that I will feel obligated to go a party. I have enjoyed the past 3 years with no party.
If you do feel obligated and this is catered in your office ... go direct to food, get a plate, eat, thank your boss but excuse yourself that you have obligations at home, leave.


The bolded clearly tips it to "gift" for me.
1000% agree. If the company is catering a meal, that implies in office, and my response would be it needs to be during work hours. Lunch time or close the office at 3 pm and set aside the rest of the work day for the dinner.

When extra things come up my DS always looks at it ... is it within his contracted hours? Why should he stay after for something related to work if he isn't getting paid?
 
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Funny so many don't like the parties. For years we've done a bowling party with taco bar etc, we get a great turn out. With Covid we had to pause, but once thing opened up we started getting requests from long time staff to bring it back. It's bring your family, alcohol is on your own thing. No pressure but I'd say we see about 65% of our staff show up.

Since cash and/or gift cards can be seen as a taxable benefit we don't go there.
 
If they company is catering a meal, that implies in office,
Not at all. Catering just means the company is purchasing the food. Sometimes that's at a convention center, sometimes a restaurant, sometimes a different venue, sometimes the office.

Catered food if from a restaurant or establishment often has either set food choices, special pricing or packaged deals. There are restaurants around here that you can book rooms and have the food catered they have the company book under their "catering menu".

Various sporting events also done in the past have been catered food.

Last night the Halloween event was at the office with food catered in. Last year they bought out a large room at a pickleball place paying for catered food and time at two pickleball courts. That was on a Saturday.

Past holiday work parties my husband has attended have never been at the office nor work hours and yet they were all catered food. Buying out Top Golf was still catered food with specific packages.

When my husband passed his P.E. exam his company took the ones who passed and their spouses/significant others after work hours to a restaurant (all you can eat) and paid thousands and thousands for food and liquor and desserts for the 20+ there (they bought out a room in the restaurant).

Don't get me wrong I understand the "after hours" thing. On the other hand it also depends on who is invited. If you're inviting spouses or significant others or you're inviting kids not really practical at all to put it during the day. And I'm not sure so many people would really want to do a work event if none of their family was ever allowed to go due to the hours.
my response would be it needs to be during work hours. Lunch time or close the office at 3 pm and set aside the rest of the work day for the dinner.
I'm the opposite. When I had work events during work time we never actually got to enjoy it. Probably the nature of the place. It was a call center. You never felt like you got any separation for work because right when something was done in the time slot you needed to get back on the phones ASAP.

Even during employee appreciation week they didn't build in any time during the day past the first year I worked there. You had two 15 mins breaks and one 30 mins lunch and because you were timed by the minute take out the several minutes back and forth to walk to and from your desk. It became a joke to do the STIP (like a profit sharing) meeting, employee appreciation week and more during work, at the office because it was just them cheapening out and not actually doing anything nice for the employees. It was more demoralizing than anything to shoe-horning it into work hours. But even if they did it after work hours the company themselves wouldn't have done well.
 
I work for the state so we have to be careful with gifts. We used to have a holiday party in one of our banquet halls but it was catered by dining services. At that party they would give away gift baskets with Uni branded merch. I went once and got a poofy hat.

Our faculty union usually throws a party at a local brewery and the faculty really like that. Professors can actually be a fun group of folks to drink with.

I think it's fascinating that so many folks on this thread have no interest in a party.
 
I'm not surprised. $50 especially in today's age won't get you much so people probably figured the party would net them more overall enjoyment. Perhaps the last 3 years without one influenced that as well.

Are you really required to go? If you had to could you do more of a hi and bye type thing?

We just did my husband's work Halloween event last night. They are a small company (just over 100 people) and though not all showed up a good amount did with enough adults dressing up. This was a kid-friendly event and the kids all dressed up but they had catered in food and alcoholic beverages. I'm not sure if they'll do a holiday party but I know the employees would prefer that over $50 bucks. I was talking with one of the wives last night whom her husband actually worked at my husband's prior company when he was there as well and we discussed the holiday parties they used to have and did have and she was always out of town for work but expressed she would have loved to have gone. But these events never were bad ones. I go back to my original comment on the thread I would have chosen the gift card because the company I worked for would have done a crappy (and cheap experience more like slap in the face) event, my husband would have chosen the work party because it would have been done well overall.
I agree the $50 isn’t much but the total cost works out to be the same for the Judges who pay for it. We aren’t technically “required” to go but definitely heavily encouraged in my small department. I will likely stay through the speech/recognitions and then skip out.
 
I think it's fascinating that so many folks on this thread have no interest in a party.
There are just so many reasons why ~
~ Doesn't like party of any kind
~ Doesn't like co-workers in a personal way
~ You don't socialize without significant other and it is work only
~ Sees it as an extension of work without pay
~ Has a long commute home
~ Has no way home that late (when I worked in NYC trains stopped at 7 to my house)
~ Has no transportation that late and it might be costly to get home
~ Maybe co-workers are drinkers and you are not
~ Maybe a co-worker makes you uncomfortable in a non-structured setting
~ Maybe one has anxiety in social situations
~ Maybe there will be activities you don't like or can't do well
~ Maybe there is a gift exchange and if you don't do it you will be talked about
~ Maybe work has defined levels and a party with superiors makes you uncomfortable
~ Maybe expected attire is something you don't have and don't want to buy

List could go on. Not everyone is social like that, and that is okay. They shouldn't be forced to be uncomfortable.
 
There are just so many reasons why ~
~ Doesn't like party of any kind
~ Doesn't like co-workers in a personal way
~ You don't socialize without significant other and it is work only
~ Sees it as an extension of work without pay
~ Has a long commute home
~ Has no way home that late (when I worked in NYC trains stopped at 7 to my house)
~ Has no transportation that late and it might be costly to get home
~ Maybe co-workers are drinkers and you are not
~ Maybe a co-worker makes you uncomfortable in a non-structured setting
~ Maybe one has anxiety in social situations
~ Maybe there will be activities you don't like or can't do well
~ Maybe there is a gift exchange and if you don't do it you will be talked about
~ Maybe work has defined levels and a party with superiors makes you uncomfortable
~ Maybe expected attire is something you don't have and don't want to buy

List could go on. Not everyone is social like that, and that is okay. They shouldn't be forced to be uncomfortable.
All good points and I wasn’t implying that people should feel obligated to go. Just found it interesting.
 
I work for the state so we have to be careful with gifts. We used to have a holiday party in one of our banquet halls but it was catered by dining services. At that party they would give away gift baskets with Uni branded merch. I went once and got a poofy hat.

Our faculty union usually throws a party at a local brewery and the faculty really like that. Professors can actually be a fun group of folks to drink with.

I think it's fascinating that so many folks on this thread have no interest in a party.
We have a pot luck at Thanksgiving and a holiday party in December. I love them both. But they're doing work hours. If I had to go to an office function after the work day's over I'd feel like I'm still working. No thank you.
 
I work for the state so we have to be careful with gifts. We used to have a holiday party in one of our banquet halls but it was catered by dining services. At that party they would give away gift baskets with Uni branded merch. I went once and got a poofy hat.

Our faculty union usually throws a party at a local brewery and the faculty really like that. Professors can actually be a fun group of folks to drink with.

I think it's fascinating that so many folks on this thread have no interest in a party.
So my company is based in Maryland but most of my coworkers live outside of Maryland or even the US. As the holiday party is mandatory (as the end of year meeting is before it begins), people have to fly in and get hotels. That is really annoying to do JUST for a party and a meeting that IMO could've be done on a video call.
 














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