A letter to my future daughter-in-law

[mumom95]

Dear future daughter-in-law,

As I was walking out of my 10 year old son's room this morning the realization hit me that I have failed as a mother. And then I realized that someday you will have to suffer the consequences of my failure. So please let me take this chance, before we have even met or developed a relationship to say I'm sorry. And please believe even though it may no appear to be true, I did try my very best.

I promise you that I did not teach him that putting clothes away means shoving them into drawers and leaving things hanging out so that the drawers won't close. I promise you mulitple times I have showed him how to properly hang a shirt on a hanger but I think I'm at the point where I need to have him tested for a clothes hanging disability.

I remember when he was younger I spent a day showing him how to carefully pull his sheet up over his bed and tuck in the corners and then pull the blanket up over the sheet and smooth it out. I don't know what happened, maybe my husband came in the next day and told him I was wrong and all you have to do is throw the sheet and blanket up towards the top to make a proper bed.

If I said it once, I said it a million times, "a place for everything and everything in it's place". But I guess I didn't point out that all over his bedroom floor isn't considered a proper "place".

So, I'm sorry, so very sorry. Just remember some day when you are refolding his clothes to get the dresser drawers closed and when you trip over his junk all over the floor on your way to the bathroom in the middle of the night, that he didn't get any of these traits from me. His handsomely, rugged good looks and witty inteligence he gets from my side of the family. His complete lack of organizational skills must come from his father's side of the family. And if I had to guess, like all other bad traits my kids have, it can be directly linked to my mother-in-law (at least that's my story and I'm sticking to it .)

So, feel free to call and vent anytime you want. I will not judge you.

-mumom95

 

[babyrich]

I am from the future and I think I am married to your son!

 

[Plannin'Shannon]

Priceless. Save this letter!

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

I hope your son and either my DD15 or DD8 do not marry or we the moms will have to come clean their house for them. Thankfully I know it is not all my fault, my DD11 is a cleaning machine.

 

[Metsfan520]

 

[mumom95]

I am from the future and I think I am married to your son!

Well, I sure I hope I've been good to you during Christmas time and your birthday to make up for it!!

 

[mumom95]

I hope your son and either my DD15 or DD8 do not marry or we the moms will have to come clean their house for them. Thankfully I know it is not all my fault, my DD11 is a cleaning machine.

Is your DD11 single? I'm not completely opposed to arranged marriages.

 

[ncmickeyluvr]

I think we may need to exchange addresses. It's imperative that we keep my dd10 and your ds10 far, FAR away from each other. Two such people should never mix.......I'm pretty sure that our grandchildren could end civilization as we know it.

Seriously, you could have just described my dd....it's eerie! I call her a natural-born slob. She leaves a trail of destruction where ever she goes and she's completely oblivious to it. I've given up!

 

[Luv2Scrap]

My letter to my future DIL would have to be an apology for laughing at the bodily functions one too many times. It only encourages him.

That burping contest with the big glasses of Coke a couple years ago probably didn't help matters any either.

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

Is your DD11 single? I'm not completely opposed to arranged marriages.

Afraid not, she's had the same crush since the first day of first grade. She already has their Disney wedding planned and wants them to have 5 babies. He's a little freaked out by that though so she may be before long. She will make a heck of a mom someday though.

 

[SaraJayne]

My letter to my future DIL would have to be an apology for laughing at the bodily functions one too many times. It only encourages him.

That burping contest with the big glasses of Coke a couple years ago probably didn't help matters any either.

Like I just told my MIL the other day, "no matter how old they are, boys still think burps and farts are funny."

And this was said after my DH and his brother (35 and 47) doubled over in laughter when one of them passed gas.

 

[FireDancer]

Don't give up all hope. Growing up our rooms (mine and my brothers) were always disasters but we all manage to keep our respective homes clean now. I even wash and put away my own laundry now, and my drawers all close.

Of course I would much rather not have to do these things but that isn't really an option at the moment.

 

[paintnolish]

I always say ds's future wif wil lthank me. He is pretty clean. He periodically organizes his room (although the closet is scary!). He showers at least once a day and uses "manly" soap. He also loves to buy people gifts and is cery affectionate.
Dd is the messy one! She actually put toys under her throw rug once. It wasn't a good hiding spot.

 

[mamacatnv]

Love it! Great letter, I just want to warn you, there is not a lot of hope anytime in the near future.

My darling DS is an amazing person, he is the apple of my eye, the light of my life and thankfully he lives away at college ........yesterday he posts on his FaceBook......."today is cleaning day, lucky me"............(followed by several hours later) "closet full of clean clothes, wow this place is cleaner already, who wants to play frisbee???"

 

[sjs314]

I had your DS living in my house, oh wait that was my DS
But do not dispair there is hope, My DS married and now cooks cleans, does laundry ,feeds their cats and snakes and even remembers to put the toliet seat down .....You see his wife did in 3 short years what I could not do in 30

 

[Forevryoung]

DBF is the only child of a single mom. She taught him well in most regards.

He always puts the toilet seat down. ALWAYS.
We were on vacation and I went to the bathroom right before bed and fell into the toilet. The seat was up!

I mentioned it to him because I was laughing about it (the first time in a year of dating it happened! I was impressed). To this day he still denies that HE was the one who left the seat up.

According to DBF it must have been either me or a ghost

 

[goofyernmost]

If it will make you feel any better my daughters room used to get so bad that we (her mom and I) insisted on her door being closed when she wasn't in it. She grew up to be, if not a neat freak, at least she is organized and tidy. Who knew?

 

[minniecarousel]

That's a cute letter!

But, don't give up hope! Both of my sons were slobs as children and teens. Somewhere along the way (NOT in college! neither one ever got a cleaning deposit back) they learned to keep their homes neat. Younger DS loves to iron his clothes (& I think he may iron his wife's clothes too!)

 

[Gigi22]

What a charming letter! I would print it, frame it, and hang it on your son's bedroom wall--someplace he has to see it every day. This on the theory that it may sink in over time. My own DH, a man of many sterling traits, still does not put his dirty clothes in the hamper. I have finally told him, should I predecease him, he has to meet, court and marry another woman within a week of my death--or he will be all out of clean clothing! He can't remember how to run our washer and dryer either.

 

[starrzone]

Love it! I'd love to write a letter to my future sister-in-law apologizing for my (now) 18 year old kid brother's tendencies to expect things to be done for him; he's the baby of the family by 8 years, and my mom is a SAHM, so he's used to having people around to do stuff all the time. Here's a CLASSIC text from him that I wished I had saved; definite ammo for the wedding reception slideshow! To set the scene, my parents went away on vacation for a couple weeks, leaving my 2 brothers at the house.

Brother: Are you going to come to the house this weekend:

Me: Why? Do you need anything?

Brother: No. I have no clean shorts left.

Glad to know I'm needed, I guess!