A bit serious but I could use some help

[LindsayDunn228]

It would never work in the real world. But this isn't the real world: this is college. I won't be heartbroken, I know the deal and yes, I can do it without getting attatched. Nor am I only with him because he is pretty: we have been friends for two years.

I'm not even going near this one.

 

[Martha7]

I'm not even going near this one.

Good one, Lindsay!

 

[Ub_Iwerks]

Focus on your school work and your plans for the future. Who knows what will happen with this new guy? Ignore him, and he may shape up or, more likely, you will find a new guy that's even better eventually. Work on getting together with some of your friends, even though you might think they are on your ex's side, and find new friends!

 

[Kath2003]

OK guys, had a REALLY bad day today despite all your great help yesterday.

I'm quitting my campus job tomorrow morning. I don't know whether I can stay here much longer and it's not fair to let them down at the last moment.

I'm going to go home on Saturday, probably until Friday. Dad's hopefully going to bring me back here because I know I don't have it in me to get on the train.

I've arranged to see my tutor tomorrow so he knows what's going on.

After that, I don't know.

 

[lbgraves]

You have worked too hard to reach this point to let either of these guys make you mess it up now. Stick to your new plan & keep your focus on the main target in your life right now.....that diploma! The "hot guy" isn't worth dropping your GPA or putting off your graduate work. Hang in there! It will be time for you to go home before you know it.


OK, now that I have read the second page....are you serious? What happens to you in college has a huge impact on the real world. You are talking about quiting now & throw away the past almost 4 years for a GUY?!?!?!? You do that and your real world will be alot different. Of course...I didn't have time for anything like this in college. I was on my own & worked 40 hours at Pizza Hut while carrying 21 hours to graduate in 3 years. There is no way that I would have considered throwing all of that away with 8 weeks to go before the end because of a guy.

 

[missy28]

Hi Kath,

First off, I just returned to the States after spending a year in London getting an LLM-- I desperately miss it! And what a great experience...

Secondly, my advice, coming from a gal that sounds a lot like you-- I used to be prone to being swept away at a moments notice only to be pooed upon and left scratching my head-- you need to worry about YOU now... no matter how hot the bloke is, it just doesn't sound like he's that into you, and you DESERVE someone who is going to treat you like the princess you are. You are worth more than either one of these clowns is giving you.

Focus on school, and when you finish all your exams, focus on the great new world that awaits you in London! I have friends there, let me know, I'll hook you up! And most of all, smile. Take a bath, and have a glass of wine. Remember that this is temporary.

Best wishes, love!

 

[redshoes]

Please stick with school, you're so close to finishing that it would be horrible to not make it to the end. There are things that you will regret in your life, there's no way to avoid it, don't let this be one of them! It seems like you have alot on your plate right now, when I'm in this type of situation I try to use the whole "divide and conquer" plan. Take the the tasks and divide them into manageable pieces and go to it. The decisions that don't need the most attention right now can be put on hold until the big ones are taken care of. As for the whole "friends with benefits" situation, I can't imagine how one can have a relationship like that without someone in the mix getting attached. It just seems to go against human nature, but having never been in that situation I can only give my uninformed opinion. Please remember your worth is great, don't sale yourself short or it makes it easier for the people around you to do the same. I wish you the best.

 

[Kath2003]

OK, now that I have read the second page....are you serious? What happens to you in college has a huge impact on the real world. You are talking about quiting now & throw away the past almost 4 years for a GUY?!?!?!?

WOAH. I never ever said I was going to quit. I'm not that stupid. The gorgeous guy I adore is here at Uni - if anything, he is a damn good reason to stay! I am going to sit these exams and I am going to get a degree - I'm just having a hard time coping with the stress of all that at the moment, as I'm sure all finalists are.

Missy28 - thank you so much for your words of support.

redshoes - I would indeed like to date this guy, but pratically, it's not feasible living 200 miles apart next year. I'm just gonna see how things go and he makes me happy right now - I need a short-term fix of happiness if nothing else.

I got kisses today so I'm much happier