8/17/08 Captain Jack's Repossession Repo Cruise to PC thru TPC #9

[Luckyinlife]

I could use some help from the mom's out there. My DD13 has been invited by two school friends to a boy/girl party on Sunday. I don't know the parents of either of the kids who are hosting the party, but it is long--5 hours! I was never allowed to go to girl/boy parties growing up and I'm trying to give my daughter a little more freedom than I had. My husband was the 5th of 6 kids and I think by the time his mom got to him, she was just plain tired. My DD is very responsible, makes good choices, but I really have some concerns about this. Do they really need to be going to boy/girl parties at this age? Maybe this age is ok, and it is when they are older that I really need to worry. There is a boy at school she likes, but she won't even talk to him and he doesn't really know who she is, but she does have some other boys she is friends with which I am ok about. I will call the parents, but what kinds of questions do you ask, other than will you be there, how many kids are coming, what will they be doing? Have any of you let your kids go to a party like this? I realize this isn't cruise related, but I could use some help. Her BFF is also invited, but her mom just said at some point I (meaning friend's mom) have to trust her, and her morals and values. I think kids can get into awkward situations at this age and just not yet have the experience to get out of them. Thanks for any suggestions!

I think 13 year olds are still trying to figure out the whole morals/values thing and need a lot of direction and supervision in that department. My opinion is that there are a lot of unanswered questions here - most importantly, who are the parents and do they share your values?

I think you have already made your decision, listen to your gut. Parenting is tough, isn't it?

 

[disfreaks]

Yes, parenting is tough. That is my gut feeling since I don't know the parents, but I also know my daughter and I just don't think she is ready for this kind of party yet. (Which I am quite fine with by the way). Whatever happened to just hanging out with your girl friends and that being ok? That is really where she is at. Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it.

 

[SDHoneymooner]

I have a question about tiaras... Are most of you wearing real or play ones? I have three beautiful ones, but I'm afraid to travel with them because I don't want to lose them. Also, one is missing a stone. Any idea where you can buy those kinds of crystals? It is a colorful one.

I may just buy a good one that I don't have any sentimental attachment to for this kind of thing down the road!

I was going to hit up Claire's or a costume store to find one. I wouldn't want to lose something that has any sentimental or real monetary value to it!

Here's the tiara I plan to buy. I can get the bling to match the dress I have my eye on. The decided to go with green one. Now I just hope they lower the price soon.

I hope the darn tiara will work with braids.

It should work with your braids. Bring some small bobby pins that you can use just in case. And be careful so you don't pull the braids out!

Hey...the older you get (I just turned 40 last week) and the larger your family gets (via natural, foster, other family, or adoption etc) you'll see that alone time, time with the spouse, or time with others with similar interests becomes precious after spending hours/days/weeks/years loving watching your kids excel and grow Consider that my marriage advice

Thanks for the advice!

This is not something I have seen mentioned. Do any of you tan before you go so you won't get too burned? I know I just had surgery and I will cover those areas. BTDT.

I'm using the Jergens Soft Glow moisturizer before our wedding to even out my skin. It's not giving me a "real" tan, but it sure does beat getting skin cancer. Once I'm on the ship I'll be covered head-to-toe with the strongest sunblock possible. I may reflect the sun's rays I'm so white , but at least I'll be partially protected!

 

[rillsung]

I'm using the Jergens Soft Glow moisturizer before our wedding to even out my skin. It's not giving me a "real" tan, but it sure does beat getting skin cancer. Once I'm on the ship I'll be covered head-to-toe with the strongest sunblock possible. I may reflect the sun's rays I'm so white , but at least I'll be partially protected!

Does that actually work? How long do you need to use it to look tanned? How long does it last?

 

[got2travel]

I could use some help from the mom's out there. My DD13 has been invited by two school friends to a boy/girl party on Sunday. I don't know the parents of either of the kids who are hosting the party, but it is long--5 hours! I was never allowed to go to girl/boy parties growing up and I'm trying to give my daughter a little more freedom than I had. My husband was the 5th of 6 kids and I think by the time his mom got to him, she was just plain tired. My DD is very responsible, makes good choices, but I really have some concerns about this. Do they really need to be going to boy/girl parties at this age? Maybe this age is ok, and it is when they are older that I really need to worry. There is a boy at school she likes, but she won't even talk to him and he doesn't really know who she is, but she does have some other boys she is friends with which I am ok about. I will call the parents, but what kinds of questions do you ask, other than will you be there, how many kids are coming, what will they be doing? Have any of you let your kids go to a party like this? I realize this isn't cruise related, but I could use some help. Her BFF is also invited, but her mom just said at some point I (meaning friend's mom) have to trust her, and her morals and values. I think kids can get into awkward situations at this age and just not yet have the experience to get out of them. Thanks for any suggestions!

I had a boy/girl party for my 13th birthday way back when. Ended up only 2 boys showed up, no one danced and we all just hung out and talked like we usually did at school or church.

My DS is 12, will be 13 in Sept. He's been to 1 middle school dance. It was only 2 hours and was right after school so still in the afternoon. He said he and his friends just listened to the music and didn't do much. I don't think I'd have a problem with him going if he were invited to a party. But I would definitely meet the hosting parents before (even if it was just as I was dropping him off). I would reaffirm that there would be adult supervision at all times - parents = adults, not 18 or 19 yr olds. I would also get cell phone numbers of the parents.

 

[Lil' Grumpy]

..what interesting topics...being tossed around...


...i guess..i have a different out look toward reality...a gift, from work.

me... ..the values..that are taught..by sensory preceptions.


...doing @ the..end. however, that implies...one must have been

..on a disney cruise..to be in that frame of mind? all those dirty..clothes...
with scents...of what one just experience+ sand & of course, a lil'dirt.

...true..reality,.."most" will have tons? there are choices..maybe one can
pay..someone.. or brides?, or one could put on the dvd "wishes"...& do a lil'
toasting..while re~joying..the previous days..or have...a party after
it all done?....the duties of a housewife...are so precious..to the one they
share ..their day to day routines...that until they are gone, before
recognizing? * or one could throw away?

...i think i will take..my chances...& do the cruise....with the one lil'cutie~
that has given my life so many new meanings. & one or more surprises.

* ..but this year birthday....was not..my best day......as she kept saying...
don't do nothing, but not what she meant... ....though,..just
by chance..i was showering..her with attentions...didn't matter. ha!
so..here's...2 weeks before....our anniv.,....guess..who pounding the news?


.. ..forgetting this one..could be a matter of life & misery? fyi.,
she made..it our phone..#, and ever since..it's been one of those...
things...hard to remember. so she..personalized..the wrong things...
putting alot pressure...resulting in memory lapses.

oh, her "birthday"..has alot to do with this cruise....but it's amazing how
she forgot....including all her don't," bothers".., . & all the
real~life distractions...* the day before..i was trying to "stick"...it
to memory..might been...a mistake? then reality got in the way. oh?
did she took advantage...to wail..& mope. however, there's another
reality...sooo she couldn't say i wasn't thinking..of her. it just wasn't
exactly..the way....she expected...& that's ok, as for anything to
have meanings between 2, this must be interacting...for mutual gains.
the good, bad, and the forgotten.

..but before..she got..toooo , i used a lil'history..& reminding her
...of things before..this time..i used..the crt experience.

..i thought..the way ..she "reminded"..was in~deeds..the reason why
she special to me..though, i dare not.." "...she came in &
i compli~mental..her. remember the ~gie....story. right after i
complimented..her? she made this cold....chilling..sensationalism.."i'm
seeing the lawyer in the moring!". what ?!....* i knew..right then..i had
made..a terrible error..but what?


maybe....leaving...a surprise..in the ...& what day..was that?
...sweating @ the alter... . stressors & pressures...* no matter
if you been working..on anything or not...i still couldn't imagine..life
without...her~ ! she is my !






hey...what's all the jumping on grumpy?...now.....i see why he has
such...chip on his shoulder..poor grumpy... . is everyone else
forgetting birthdays...., that their wenches...are not wanting to
remember.."in reality"? how old..is snow white , anyway?

 

[goofyforlife]

I could use some help from the mom's out there.

I'd call and ask about the party. My dd went to a party for a friend and it was run more like a dance type situation but was fine.

Does that actually work? How long do you need to use it to look tanned? How long does it last?

I turn Orange with that one.... not too attractive..

I felt like i looked more like a victim of jaundice than tanned.

 

[m&m's mom]

I'm using the Jergens Soft Glow moisturizer before our wedding to even out my skin. It's not giving me a "real" tan, but it sure does beat getting skin cancer. Once I'm on the ship I'll be covered head-to-toe with the strongest sunblock possible. I may reflect the sun's rays I'm so white , but at least I'll be partially protected!

As someone who has had 3 surgeries at this point due to skin cancer- I say Jergens is just fine.

Does that actually work? How long do you need to use it to look tanned? How long does it last?

I think it works. I am fairly dark skinned naturally and I used it sometimes last year. The only thing I did not like it it stunk something awful! I would put it on right before I went to bed just to avoid the smell. They may have improved on that.

 

[junesgoofy]

I could use some help from the mom's out there. My DD13 has been invited by two school friends to a boy/girl party on Sunday.

I would contact the parents involved to see what was planned and that they were going to be there the entire time overseeing the party, not hiden away somewhere else in the house. I would also have my child call once an hour and give me a 'code word' about whether they are having fun or if things were going on that were not appropriate. It's hard being responsible parents while not being too over protective. Let us know how it goes!

 

[rillsung]

I'd call and ask about the party. My dd went to a party for a friend and it was run more like a dance type situation but was fine.



I turn Orange with that one.... not too attractive..

I felt like i looked more like a victim of jaundice than tanned.

EEK That's why I've never tried any of those products... I'm too to!

 

[BibbidyBobbidyBoo]

I could use some help from the mom's out there. My DD13 has been invited by two school friends to a boy/girl party on Sunday. I don't know the parents of either of the kids who are hosting the party, but it is long--5 hours! I was never allowed to go to girl/boy parties growing up and I'm trying to give my daughter a little more freedom than I had. My husband was the 5th of 6 kids and I think by the time his mom got to him, she was just plain tired. My DD is very responsible, makes good choices, but I really have some concerns about this. Do they really need to be going to boy/girl parties at this age? Maybe this age is ok, and it is when they are older that I really need to worry. There is a boy at school she likes, but she won't even talk to him and he doesn't really know who she is, but she does have some other boys she is friends with which I am ok about. I will call the parents, but what kinds of questions do you ask, other than will you be there, how many kids are coming, what will they be doing? Have any of you let your kids go to a party like this? I realize this isn't cruise related, but I could use some help. Her BFF is also invited, but her mom just said at some point I (meaning friend's mom) have to trust her, and her morals and values. I think kids can get into awkward situations at this age and just not yet have the experience to get out of them. Thanks for any suggestions!

I'm one of those parents who would call the other parents, just to touch base and find out what the party activities will be. You can always say you are calling to RSVP or if you can bring something too. You could also talk to other parents that you do know and see if they have feedback about this family.

I, too, believe that you should give them some independence...but if this is her first boy/girl party, I'd start the independence next time!

Just my 2cents

Yes, parenting is tough. That is my gut feeling since I don't know the parents, but I also know my daughter and I just don't think she is ready for this kind of party yet. (Which I am quite fine with by the way). Whatever happened to just hanging out with your girl friends and that being ok? That is really where she is at. Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it.

Commenting on these quotes.
It's up to you, and you know your kid best. If you felt she was ready for such a thing- I would second the motion that you call just to find out how this party is going to work, get to know the parents a bit and how you FEEL about them and yes you can tell a lot with a conversation over the phone.... do they have the same feelings on things that you do, are they planning on supervising the party, etc.
But if you feel your daughter isn't ready- then there is your answer.
My eldest is 14 and the only boy/girl party she's been to is dances AT THE SCHOOL supervised by school persononnel and volunteer parents. I don't feel she's ready for a boy/girl party at someone's home. She's been to youth activities (obviously both boys/girls there) with the youth group at church- but again supervised.
She's recently asked if she could have a pool party (she wants one since her birthday is in Jan and so she can never have a pool birthday party) but she wants to invite boys and I said no. Even at my house I don't think I need to have that responsiblity myself- of boys and girls together with them all scantily clad to go swimming! No thanks... not yet. LOL

(just for an example- when she was barely 13 she was invited by a boy to go to the homecoming game with him. At first I was like no way/no how because that's too young to date IMO and that's too much like a date. But I called the parents and spoke with them both and they were ALSO of the same mind that this was too young to date- but he was playing football and all the boys were taking someone to the highschool homecoming game and buying them mums and all that jazz that we do down here in Texas atleast. LOL found out the FATHER would be there- also with their 5yr old daughter that the mother was also making her a mum and after talking with him and realizing they wouldn't be alone and that he felt the same way about his son not dating that young/etc.- I said she could go. Turned out my DH ended up going because my son wanted to go- so it became a "family" type thing. LOL Had I called him and he felt differently than I did about dating and in any way implied they'd be alone or that he felt it was okay to date at that age/didn't feel the same way as me/wouldn't be there/etc.- the answer would have been a resounding NO. So when you DO feel she might be ready- a phone call might help a lot to allieve any fears of where she'd be and what kind of parents they are that are supervising and if they would really be supervising/etc.)

 

[BibbidyBobbidyBoo]

And on another note...
haven't been posting much here sorry! but I have posted on the pirate zone a bit and I got the mickey club shirts! I chose the ringer (red/white) tees though- I liked them better. LOL We got our names on the back and we'll probably wear these (matching family- yes that's us! LOL) at DL one day before the cruise too. I like those shirts! hehe

anyone else gonna wear those on that night on the cruise?
The free shipping code didn't work for me last night but I emailed them and they said they'd refund me the shipping cost.

 

[Pluto 2]

everyone read the article that the disney magic set the record for going through the panama canal in may. it cost 331,200 dollars. its on the main cruise board that someone posted. maybe we can beat it.

 

[AndyR]

Fellow Pirates, we've seen the Shutters staff taking pics of the crew during the lock portions of the transit and the fine assortment of colours the WB crew were flying.......

So swabbies and wenches, what colours will ye be flying on Panama day? We'll have this 3x5 beauty attached to our verandah:

Andy

 

[Pluto 2]

well im a trader again. next year in 2009 i had two back to back 7 night cruises in aug 2009. than i booked a 12 night rccl cruise that has 7 ports in jan 2009 so i cancelled one of the cruises in aug 2009. than yesterday i booked a rccl cruise fos in jan 2010. than i took my 7 night cruise in aug 2009
and cancelled that and turned it into a very short 3 night disney cruise in aug 20.

 

[micmse2003]

HEHEHE on our honeymoon, after burning while snorkeling, we went to New Zealand a few days later and actually had SNOW on the night we happened to be staying at a ski lodge in a hotel that reminded us both of Steven King's "The Shining"



AC, what's that? We don't own AC. In this crazy town the philosiphy is that there's "only a few miserable weeks" and so people don't build houses with AC. Even the houses worth a million $$ don't have AC... But we're discussing that huge expense and having something run to the bedrooms at least because we can't stand being hot at night! Oh we also have no ducts in the house since the heat is all radient...

I have lived in this house for 36 years and we do not have central air. I really think it is just a waste because we freeze here most of the year!!! We will be buying AC just before we sell this house...otherwise we might not be able to sell it. We do have a unit for the bedroom but I sleep with a blanket on when John cranks up the AC.

Where did you live in CT?

Things have changed regarding A/C around here. Everyone I know has it, at least in the bedrooms.

People have gotten so weak around here, they have let school out 1/2 day 2 days this week because of heat. It was in the 90's - hot, yes, but you're not going to die. They did not let us out in the 1970's - what's so different? Those were the days, we walked to school, 5 miles, uphill, both ways, fighting off bears with a looseleaf notebook....

And I traveled in 3 feet of snow too!!!

..what interesting topics...being tossed around.

Check your message box please!!1

everyone read the article that the disney magic set the record for going through the panama canal in may. it cost 331,200 dollars. its on the main cruise board that someone posted. maybe we can beat it.

 

[rillsung]

I have lived in this house for 36 years and we do not have central air. I really think it is just a waste because we freeze here most of the year!!! We will be buying AC just before we sell this house...otherwise we might not be able to sell it. We do have a unit for the bedroom but I sleep with a blanket on when John cranks up the AC.

I can't imagine that we'd go visit my in-laws without AC during the summer! Geez as it is, in the winter it's like 80 degrees in the bedroom and we've been known to open the bedroom window

 

[A Litle Pixie Dust]

Fellow Pirates, we've seen the Shutters staff taking pics of the crew during the lock portions of the transit and the fine assortment of colours the WB crew were flying.......

So swabbies and wenches, what colours will ye be flying on Panama day? We'll have this 3x5 beauty attached to our verandah:

Andy

Looks awesome..did you go thru a banner company or somehow make it yourself?

 

[Stepht5]

Did you ever go to the Mohegan Sun (hotel/casino)? I hit the jackpot there in 2004. His name is Sean, he'll be 3 in July! A word of advice - it is cheaper to play the slot machines!

That is FUNNY!!!

Good news!!!(Luck is better already this week!!) The company announced those that would like to work a ten hour day may do so starting next week. He will be off Fridays from now on. That will save us a lot of money on gas and wear and tear on the new car!!!

That's great that he's going to have Fridays off with you! He can go see more movies.

I could use some help from the mom's out there. My DD13 has been invited by two school friends to a boy/girl party on Sunday. I don't know the parents of either of the kids who are hosting the party, but it is long--5 hours! I was never allowed to go to girl/boy parties growing up and I'm trying to give my daughter a little more freedom than I had. My husband was the 5th of 6 kids and I think by the time his mom got to him, she was just plain tired. My DD is very responsible, makes good choices, but I really have some concerns about this. Do they really need to be going to boy/girl parties at this age? Maybe this age is ok, and it is when they are older that I really need to worry. There is a boy at school she likes, but she won't even talk to him and he doesn't really know who she is, but she does have some other boys she is friends with which I am ok about. I will call the parents, but what kinds of questions do you ask, other than will you be there, how many kids are coming, what will they be doing? Have any of you let your kids go to a party like this? I realize this isn't cruise related, but I could use some help. Her BFF is also invited, but her mom just said at some point I (meaning friend's mom) have to trust her, and her morals and values. I think kids can get into awkward situations at this age and just not yet have the experience to get out of them. Thanks for any suggestions!

I'm one of those parents who would call the other parents, just to touch base and find out what the party activities will be. You can always say you are calling to RSVP or if you can bring something too. You could also talk to other parents that you do know and see if they have feedback about this family.

I, too, believe that you should give them some independence...but if this is her first boy/girl party, I'd start the independence next time!

Just my 2cents

I would contact the parents involved to see what was planned and that they were going to be there the entire time overseeing the party, not hiden away somewhere else in the house. I would also have my child call once an hour and give me a 'code word' about whether they are having fun or if things were going on that were not appropriate. It's hard being responsible parents while not being too over protective. Let us know how it goes!

5 HOURS???? My first question would be *What do you have planned for 5 hours?*

Our 3 oldest are now 28ds, 24d (25 while we're on the cruise) and 17dd. I've hosted many boy/girl things starting when they are Jr Hi age. I can't imagine having a bunch of 13yr olds at my house for 5 hours! LOL!

If you ket her go..... June has a really good *plan*. That is pretty similar to what we've always done. Even when my kids are in High School. If you are out with friends I have to be called at certain intervals. Dh got me my first cell phone 15yrs ago so, the kids always had a cell phone to use. No excuse not to call me! LOL!

To be honest. At that age if I don't know the kids & family I might let her go for and hour.

 

[Stepht5]

Fellow Pirates, we've seen the Shutters staff taking pics of the crew during the lock portions of the transit and the fine assortment of colours the WB crew were flying.......

So swabbies and wenches, what colours will ye be flying on Panama day? We'll have this 3x5 beauty attached to our verandah:

Andy

Did you make it or did you have it made????? We need to do something like this..........