LG, I had an answer for this and lost it. I realize that medicine keeps evolving and there are new and wonderous developments. My grandmother and Alan's mom both had infants stillborn or never the leave the hospital. I honestly blamed myself for the downturn Alan's mom took after Christopher died--she died several months afterwards. She was dealing with colon and lung cancer and she gave up when Christopher died.
Yes, I believe that hospitals staffs are very overworked. I don't see how they can be thorough in what they do when they put in so many hours. I think that has a lot to do with insurance co. dictating so much about medical care and also with a lot of workers relying on their overtime pay to make ends meet at home. I do think that it is irresponsible of a hospital or supervisor to have someone do a job they are not trained to do.
I never gave a thought until Julie was naming her friend's children and them all boys. And you to mention that they hope for girls when they face problems. Really makes you wonder why? I have been thinking all day about preemies I know and I have to say they have been all girls--only 1 boy. I was 42 weeks pregnant with Christopher--my dr. sent me for 2 stress tests, but I didn't know that over 40 weeks was harder on the baby. Adam was a scheduled c-sect. at 38 weeks.
I think it is a hard hurdle to get over for a young married couple. Probably a reason for divorce in a lot of the couples. It would be probably one of their biggest life's challenges. As the mother, we have so much guilt and feel that we failed in something that so many women do so easily.
Even after Adam was born, that night just kept running through my head. I didn't have the nerve to request my medical records for almost 2 years. The hospital was getting ready to disconnect the monitor and send me home--false labor then Christopher's heartbeat was lost--it took them 38 minutes to even start prepping me for an emergency c-sect (there was no dr there and it was 3 am) I sure didn't know any better--I'd never had a baby before. But you do expect when you go to a hospital that they are prepared for things---it just isn't always the case. I took the records to my dr. --he got defensive with me (I never understood why he did because he wasn't there at the hospital) To me 38 minutes was a long time--that was all I questioned. I have never gone back to him. I never contemplated suing--I couldn't have spent a dime of any money---I just wanted to hear it wasn't my fault.
I am so happy for you and Coral that you both had happy outcomes and have sweet princesses.
Oh Paula- I am so sorry. I did not know you have had that loss. I hope it is not upsetting to read about others that "made it".
I know exactly what you mean by being a 1st time Mom and not know what to do.
I went to my Dr. on a Friday morning unbeknown to me in full blown labor at 20 weeks. He checked me and I was 50% effaced and dialted to a 3. His office was on the same floor at a hospital of Labor and Delivery and he SENT ME HOME!! I stupidly went. By the time we went to the emergency room on Sunday morning I was 75% effaced and dialted to a 6- at 20 weeks! It still took the Dr. 6 hours to get to the hospital to decide what to do.
The options were limited then so I was put in a bed upside down (deep trendelenberg) hooked up to IV's cathethers etc and I did not move for 3 1/2 weeks.
My Dr. was a total idiot and told me the whole time there was no way I was going to make it to viability and if I did the baby would die immediately. Idiot!
When I went for a followup I asked him why he did not do anything that 1st day and he said I was just looking to blame someone.
Needless to say, that was the last time I ever saw him.Paula- you were probably like me with your 2nd pregnancy. I was too scared to be excited because they had no clue what caused Megan to be early.
I, wisely decided that 2 children was just perfect with me.
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for your pain.
All of the parents have started a massive campaign to change their minds but it will be a long shot. There is a lot of politics involved and we will have to wait and see what happens. If they do close our elementary school DD will have to either take a bus or car pool to a new undisclosed location no where near our house. We are really disturbed about the emotional effect on DD let alone the fact that there will no elementary school within 5 miles of us and what that might do to property values.
