7 months pregnant and in-laws tell me to sleep on floor

[flipflop]

I'd like to adopt Nancy ^^^^^ as my MIL.

 

[mickeyboat]

Less than 3% of births by healthy women have complications that are unforseen. Complications will happen whether you are in a hospital or 2 hours away from one.

But you have to agree that you will have a chance to sufficiently and effectively deal with complications if you are closer to the hospital, especially closer to a hospital and doctor who is familiar with your prenatal care.

I have nothing against home births, but there are definitely additional considerations when choosing a home birth.

 

[Conservative Hippie]

But you have to agree that you will have a chance to sufficiently and effectively deal with complications if you are closer to the hospital, especially closer to a hospital and doctor who is familiar with your prenatal care.

I have nothing against home births, but there are definitely additional considerations when choosing a home birth.

You will also have a chance to sufficiently and effectively deal with complications with a well-trained midwife. There are some complications that a midwife can handle, and some that she would transfer you to a hospital. Every midwife has a back-up physician available to help her, if needed. Most midwife-run birth centers are purposely located near a hospital.

Hospital births are fine for women that need them. But more than 97% of healthy pregnant women don't. A pregnant women should always be able to give birth in a setting that is most comfortable to her. For some, that is a hospital, for others it is a birth center, and for others, her own home.

 

[easleygrls]

I am glad you have decided not to go, but IMO it would be crazy to invite 14 people to come stay at YOUR house for the holidays when you'll be 7mos preggo! Even though you'd be able to sleep in your own bed, there would be tons more stress involved in that scenario.....unless you can get some kind of promise from your guests that they will share the shopping, coooking, cleaning, entertaining of kids etc. If your ILs have that 'you should suck it up' attitude, then I wouldn't be expecting them to help you out too much in your house either.

I agree with many other posters about starting your own holiday traditions. Lots of things change when you shift from being in the 'I'm the child' mode to the parent mode. DM & I had it out a few years ago, because she still thought our family should be at her house at the crack of dawn Christmas morning...keep in mind all my siblings are grown, not 8 & 11 like your ILs kids. I am with the others that want to see their own children wake up in wonderment in their OWN house Christmas morning. Maybe as a compromise you could pick another holiday (or just make a new one) that you will all gather at the ILs house.

Good luck!!!!

 

[mickeyboat]

You will also have a chance to sufficiently and effectively deal with complications with a well-trained midwife. There are some complications that a midwife can handle, and some that she would transfer you to a hospital. Every midwife has a back-up physician available to help her, if needed. Most midwife-run birth centers are purposely located near a hospital.

Hospital births are fine for women that need them. But more than 97% of healthy pregnant women don't. A pregnant women should always be able to give birth in a setting that is most comfortable to her. For some, that is a hospital, for others it is a birth center, and for others, her own home.

Agreed in general. But since we already know the OP's pregnancy is considered a high-risk one, she needs to be close to the best available medical care.

 

[Banshee]

I'd like to adopt Nancy ^^^^^ as my MIL.

I agree can you be my MIL too? Nancy, please pretty please. My Dh would love to have you for a mom too!!!

 

[Conservative Hippie]

Agreed in general. But since we already know the OP's pregnancy is considered a high-risk one, she needs to be close to the best available medical care.

I agree--no good midwife would take a pregnant woman with a history of diabetes or GD.

Sorry, but I feel the need to jump in whenever I hear a phrase such as "chancing home birth." My two brothers and I were all born at home and we are all perfectly normal and healthy, as is my mom, who delivered babies at home for almost 10 years and never lost a baby or a mom.

 

[lowie]

dang, i didn't read all the replies but all i can say is that i would not only NOT sleep on the floor at 7 months pregnant, i wouldn't even sleep on an uncomfortable mattress!

 

[wils]

Glad to hear you are staying at home. You and the baby are the most important in all this and I would not have slept on a floor at 7 months high risk or not!

Best wishes for the rest of your pregnancy

My S-I-L has never forgiven me for making her sleep on a matress when she was pregnant. There was only 1 bed, I was 3 months further on than her and SHE HADN'T TOLD US SHE WAS PREGNANT! (Really I don't think she is that upset still, how can she be when I remind her that we didn't know, but I still get the odd dig)

As you can see from my ticker we are starting a new tradition this year! We will probably not doing it again but it does mean that it will just be the 4 of us for the first time

 

[canwegosoon]

OP...just wanted to wish you the best...it gets harder from here. You will find they will expect you to bring the baby to see them, still spend holidays with them etc. I agree start your own family traditions at your home, and I also feel 500 miles is very far for a 7month pregnancy(even driving)...I did do the drive right at the beginning of my 7th month with twins(also high risk pregnancy-and everything was fine, but told both sets of parents that I would not come down any later in my pregnancy).

Last year we did WDW for Christmas because we got so tired of no one visiting us(after years of visiting everyone else)

 

[Talking Hands]

OP you are doing what is best for you. I was diagnosed Type 1 diabetic during my first pregnancy and was considered high risk for the 2nd because of this. Blood sugars over 800(with first). Nearly killed the both of us.
I wasn't allowed to travel at all during the second pregnancy because of all the complications with the first.
I will say that your child will probably spend at least the first 24 hours in the special care unit so they can monitor its BS. It is nothing to be worried about but seems to be SOP in diabetic mothers. I was also carefully monitored and stayed longer than the average patient due to diabetes and a C-sec. Both girls were over 8 pounds and I am a little person (4'8").
Good luck with your pregnancy and new little one.

 

[Nancyg56]

And there is nothing righteous in a hospital birth, either.


Less than 3% of births by healthy women have complications that are unforseen. Complications will happen whether you are in a hospital or 2 hours away from one.

I have no dog in the race and really don't judge anyone else's choices. I am offended when someone decides that their choice, in this case a home birth, makes them superior tough cookies. The OP's pregnancy is high risk and anyone who would ridicule her for not taking chances with her health and that of her baby is ignorant. The MIL has done this and it is appalling to me. While your statistics are probably correct they would not bring any solace to a mother whose child was in the 3%. My sister is a respiratory therapist who works in the NICU and has had to care for babies whose births were less than perfect and I know that some of those babies issues were not known prior to birth. I would not criticize your choice, just would expect that in the case of a birth, all choices are personal and should be respected.

 

[Nancyg56]

I'd like to adopt Nancy ^^^^^ as my MIL.

I agree can you be my MIL too? Nancy, please pretty please. My Dh would love to have you for a mom too!!!

There is always plenty of room for more in my home! I have to warn your DH that my sons used to argue who was my favorite and it was just a few years ago that I found out that they used to take turns because neither one liked the job ! My DDIL has no problem being my favorite DDIL becasue I only have one, but I would love more!

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

OP...just wanted to wish you the best...it gets harder from here. You will find they will expect you to bring the baby to see them, still spend holidays with them etc. I agree start your own family traditions at your home,

This is sooo true Good luck and it's very good that you are not going!